RCIA but want to confess now!

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I’m very adamant about becoming a Catholic. I’ve read so much into the faith, and understand the liturgy, sacraments. I pray as often as I can, and I can feel my life turning around. Through prayer i have been blessed to have been freed from the slavery of internet pornography and self love, which is amazing.

BUT, the more I pray, and read, and get closer to God, the dirtier I feel. Also, I notice more how immoral mostly all the people around me are (university student 😊).

I wish to confess my sins to a priest to receive absolution as some of them are mortal and quite grave. My gf and i have been together for almost 2 years now, and I plan to marry her as soon as I graduate (5 months!) and we’ve tried as hard as we can to remain as chaste as possible…but we have slipped in the past few weeks. I feel so ashamed and disgusting. Is there a point confessing now as i’ll just have to confess again before easter vigil? Also, i think if i confess now i cannot be absolved?

Any thoughts? I will keep praying my rosary and thanking Jesus for his help…

-revelations
 
Ask your priest if you can go to confession. It sounds like you need some extra grace to remain chaste? (We all do).

And guess what? Even if every single member of CAF went to confession this week, I can guarantee you that all of us will need confession before Easter, too. Frequent confession helps us stay in a state of grace, and it gives us graces to resist sin.

Good luck!🙂
 
mommyof4 said:
Ask your priest if you can go to confession. It sounds like you need some extra grace to remain chaste? (We all do).
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I think my GF and I are going to give it a shot. Since I’ve started reading and learning, i think it makes it easier if it’s a common goal for the both of us. What I am worried about is that I lost something i can never get back and I’m fairly upset about it. We are both virgins waiting for marriage, but we still did things that clearly aren’t under the umbrella of chastity.

I’m just really pissed no one ever told me :mad:, lol.
 
anyone CAN confess, but the only one who can be absolved are BAPTIZED persons who atleast intend to to be Catholic–RCIA etc. But anyone can talk to a priest about sins anytime. Make an appointment.
 
Ravyn_Guiliani said:
anyone CAN confess, but the only one who can be absolved are BAPTIZED persons who atleast intend to to be Catholic–RCIA etc.
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!! You’re sure !! I’m baptized in the Anglican trinitarian and recognized by the catholic church! I’m just not confirmed in the catholic church yet!

Oh boy!😃
 
revelations said:
!! You’re sure !! I’m baptized in the Anglican trinitarian and recognized by the catholic church! I’m just not confirmed in the catholic church yet!

Oh boy!😃
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ask the priest. ask any priest. I know a Jewish man who regularly went to confession just to talk to the priest for advice. a priest can refuse to speak to whom ever he decides, but as far as CONFESSING, it is just a matter of taking up his time—which is why I would make an appointment. the actual SACRAMENT of RECONCILIATION is where you get absolved, but it is up to the priest to choose to absolve you or not.
 
revelations said:
!! You’re sure !! I’m baptized in the Anglican trinitarian and recognized by the catholic church! I’m just not confirmed in the catholic church yet!

Oh boy!😃
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Confirmation isn’t a factor in being absolved of sin. Children receive their first communion around 7 years old, but may not be confirmed until their teens. They still have to go to confession.

Also, when you start RCIA you are considered Catholic for certain purposes (or maybe all?). For example, if you are in danger of death, you may receive the Rite of Anointing of the Sick eventhough you have not been confirmed or received communion in the Church. Being a baptized Christian may be the only hang up.
 
if you are already validly baptized you may make your general confession (which you have to do in any case before confirmation) as soon as you feel ready. If you are not sure what to say, just tell the priest, I am in RCIA, I am an Anglican and will be confirmed at Easter, and this is my first confession. My sins are . . . he will guide you from there. your director probably has planned a formal teaching and preparation for the sacrament of reconciliation, with a nice penance service, probably for Lent, but you don’t have to wait for that, although you should participate (that can be your 2nd or 5th confession).
 
I want to suggest giving the Priest a heads up … maybe make an appointment.

I was told, in my RCIA class that our Priest is going to set aside the nights of our classes, just for us, during the month of Februray. Maybe you can inquire at your class about confession.

Guess what I am saying is…maybe you shouldn’t just walk in during normal Confession hours for your Parish with your first confession…I don’t know about you…but I know mine’s going to be lengthy :rolleyes:

I am excited for you!
 
Talk to your priest. He will be able to give you good, personal and accurate advise. And, continue to pray. Pray always
Deacon Ed B
 
I second the advice to talk to the priest about your situation and see if he would be willing to hear your confession and give you absolution earlier. It may be possible.

If he doesn’t feel it’s appropriate don’t worry. God knows you’ll be in that confessional as soon as you can, and won’t hold it against you if your priest won’t permit you to confess.

Just make a good Act of Perfect Contrition (that’s a regular Act of Contrition including a resolution to confess as soon as you can) and trust in His mercy - He’s not hovering around you waiting to catch you out and zap you when you least expect it or anything.

As far as you and your girlfriend - I’d suggest firstly avoiding situations that could be troublesome as much as possible. Try to avoid being alone together for one thing.

If this isn’t do-able, definitely pray together whenever the two of you are together in any situation that could prove a problem - and any other time when it’s possible to pray! Just a few Hail Marys to Mary and Joseph for purity and chastity.
 
Little update, did my first confession 6 or 7 weeks ago, and i’ve been every Sunday since 😃

Priest was really understanding, saw that I understood what everything was. I want to be squeaky clean for Easter Vigil night when i receive Christ for the first time ever…

thanks all for the (name removed by moderator)ut 😃

-revelations
 
OP has not given info enough to answer his personal question

in general a baptized non-Catholic may and must confess all sins of his past life before profession of faith and Confirmation, which may or may not happen at EAster, sometimes at other time designated by pastor or bishop.

any candidate (baptized person preparing for Confirmation and/or first communion)
or catechumen (unbaptized person preparing for all 3 sacraments of initiation, beginning with baptism)
MUST correct any situation in their life that presents and ongoing sinful condition, action or habit before approaching the sacraments of initiation.

this usually means an irregular living situation with another person: cohabitation, invalid marriage, homosexual activity, promiscuous activity in general, any sex outside valid marriage. Not all such conditions relate to sex and marriage, obviously, but most do. A person engaged in embezzling from an employer, hiring and exploiting illegal residents, mob activity etc. would also be under this directive.

One may not receive the initiation sacraments until the sinful habit, action or condition has ceased, any canonical or other legal steps taken to remedy the living situation, and on the part of the baptized, sacramental confession and absolution. For those who will be baptized at their reception, all sins will be remitted through that sacrament and they will be instructed on the sacrament of penance and make their first confession after Easter.

If you are a baptized Christian preparing for Confirmation, amend your life and make your confession as soon as possible and as soon as you have been instructed on the procedure. We can help you with the procedure if your class has not covered it. Tell the priest everything about your current living situation that is a temptation to sin or barrier to correct behavior, confess all grave sins of your past life without reservation, and follow his counsel and advice on amending your life.

If you are awaiting baptism, you may approach the priest in confession at any regular time or by appointment, describe your situation as described here, follow his advice in amending your life, and rest in the knowledge those sins will be absolved at baptism.

sorry got caught again by another resurrected old thread. deja vu all over again
 
There is baptism of desire which clearly you have. After the Rite of Acceptance you are a member of the church and can receive the healing sacraments. You will come into full communion at some point where you can then participate in the other sacraments.
 
Hi all, this is the OP, i guess my update post was glanced over…

I am fully baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. I talked to my priest, and baptism being the door to the sacraments, he allowed me to confess my sins. I have since gone back a few times to approach this fountain of grace, because i want to be squeaky clean come Easter time for my first communion.

So, i’m all good and taken care of 😃 Thank you all for the (name removed by moderator)ut
 
This is cool. You are aware of that need of mercy. So many walk around not realizing they need it. Have a great day !
 
revelations said:
Little update, did my first confession 6 or 7 weeks ago, and i’ve been every Sunday since 😃

Priest was really understanding, saw that I understood what everything was. I want to be squeaky clean for Easter Vigil night when i receive Christ for the first time ever…
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Did you receive absolution?

:confused: I’ve had one priest tell me I could receive absolution now then before I got to confession another one said I was not allowed to go until the week before Easter. When I ask why the other priest was mistaken doctrinally he never tells me. Since he is the senior priest I don’t think the other one is allowed to give me absolution now.
 
Yes, i have been absolved. A few times in face to face confessions, and in the confessional. The grace and reflections i have received from our Lord through the priest have helped me greatly in my battles.

But, if you have to wait for easter, do you best to stay good. Pray a great deal, say an act of contrition every time you are aware of a sin. Jesus knows you want to confess, but you must also be obedient to your priest. Fast, give alms, and pray in front of the blessed sacrament. These are all ways to work over the wounds of sin.

-revelations
 
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