RCIA Help

[BrightFuture]

Hi I’m 17 and have wanted to convert to Catholicism (currently Methodist) for sometime now. I really want to attend RCIA classes next year since I’ll wasn’t able to this year (parents didn’t like the idea). I really want to convert my senior year of high school so I won’t have to go through Rcia in college. Should I tell my parents about the classes next year? Or is it even possible to hide the classes since I would be confirmed at the Easter Vigil which is very long and the classes are every Tuesday?

 

[phil19034]

Hi I’m 17 and have wanted to convert to Catholicism (currently Methodist) for sometime now. I really want to attend RCIA classes next year since I’ll wasn’t able to this year (parents didn’t like the idea). I really want to convert my senior year of high school so I won’t have to go through Rcia in college. Should I tell my parents about the classes next year? Or is it even possible to hide the classes since I would be confirmed at the Easter Vigil which is very long and the classes are every Tuesday?

This is a tough one. I cannot recommend telling a lie to your parents.

If you think it will cause lots of issues, perhaps you do not have to raise the topic. But, I would not lie.

Good luck and God Bless

 

[suko]

Should I tell my parents about the classes next year? Or is it even possible to hide the classes since I would be confirmed at the Easter Vigil which is very long and the classes are every Tuesday?

Well, like the poster ahead of me said, lying isn’t recommended. I also wouldn’t hide it from them either, especially since u are still considered a minor and living under their roof; So I think obedience to one’s parents are more important here, and thus, u should probably do what they tell u in regards to this, but I would still try to convince them and try to get them to understand why u want to convert.

Until then, u can still be a Catholic at heart, I guess, as in believing and practicing what the Church teaches.

 

[C794]

Hi I’m 17 and have wanted to convert to Catholicism (currently Methodist) for sometime now. I really want to attend RCIA classes next year since I’ll wasn’t able to this year (parents didn’t like the idea). I really want to convert my senior year of high school so I won’t have to go through Rcia in college. Should I tell my parents about the classes next year? Or is it even possible to hide the classes since I would be confirmed at the Easter Vigil which is very long and the classes are every Tuesday?

Hi! I also made the decision to convert at 17. I was a Baptist. First you can’t lie to your parents. It’s very important that you’re honest. If you do so, you’ll create many more problems in the future.

Are you a senior currently or a junior? If you’re a senior you should start talking to your parents again. Tell them why you want to convert and explain why you want to take the classes. It might take time, but if you show them how committed you are and have a similar conversation a couple more times (spread out, of course) things likely will change. If you’a junior you have a lot more time. In that case keep going to Mass and use your actions to show your devotion. In a month or so sit down with your parents and explainyour decision to them.

In either case you don’t want to argue with your parents or come across as if you’re begging. If they see that you’re committed, they are likely to change their minds. At least mine were. Seriously, if you handle it right, they could quickly become accepting of your decision. You may find yourself surprised how quickly things can change. For example, mine completely reversed their decision in a matter of days. There is also the fact that you’re old enough to make these decisions for yourself. You shouldn’t actually tell your parents this (really, do not do that), I doubt that would turn out good. Still, I’m sure that they know this. As a result, if you go about this with maturity eventually they’all come around.

I’ll pray for you.

I hope that helps.

 

[tawny]

Waiting until your 18 will be less troublesome. You will not need any parental agreement. You should not withhold your plans from you parents. Let them know how you feel and that this is your plan for when you turn 18. God bless you in your RCIA process.

 

[BrightFuture]

Thank you all for the advice! I’ll be 18 next year by the time classes start and by then I don’t think my parents will mind as much, but if not, I’ll take RCIA in college

 

[PJM]

=BrightFuture;11516364]Hi I’m 17 and have wanted to convert to Catholicism (currently Methodist) for sometime now. I really want to attend RCIA classes next year since I’ll wasn’t able to this year (parents didn’t like the idea). I really want to convert my senior year of high school so I won’t have to go through Rcia in college. Should I tell my parents about the classes next year? Or is it even possible to hide the classes since I would be confirmed at the Easter Vigil which is very long and the classes are every Tuesday?

Hiding it is a BAD idea!

No good comes through deception.

Look for a PM from me, I may have an alternative idea?

God Bless you,
Patrick [PJM]

 

[philv]

I remembered telling my mom about RCIA. She understood we all have our own paths, and that needs to be supported. She still thought I was nuts, but she supported it. And, parents understand this, if you mean it: “How can I tell God no?”

 

[bcuster]

I would recommend praying that your parents accept your wish to become Catholic. In the meantime, show them your maturity by following through with your chores, homework etc. Also go the extra mile. Accept your parent’s decision as God’s will for you. You will find blessing in this.