Really bad at NFP

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So, my wife and I are trying to practice NFP, but not doing so very well.

Specifically, after abstaining for a few days, one thing leads to another, and we start having sex. Then, after a few seconds, one of us stops (because we should be practicing NFP and we have good reasons to avoid another child at the moment) and eventually we calm down - neither of us climax or get particularly close.

My question is this: is it wrong for us to stop? Is there a point where you have to keep on going?
 
Yes, we know we are breaking the NFP rules and could get pregnant.

At the moment it isn’t causing any relationship issues - we are just worrying that it might be wrong.

Obviously, withdrawal just before climax would be wrong. But if you’re not there? Is there a point of no return morally before that?
 
If you keep “playing with fire” knowing that in the past you cannot control yourself and you and your wife end up to “Start have sex” in your own words, then that can be putting yourself in a occasion of sin.

I would definitely talk to a priest about this. You will only get opinion here. Get a definite answer from your senior pastor.
 
Priests to me are not always the best ones to talk about sexuality/NFP - with all respect to our priests. In my experience that is. I certainly would not go to my parish priest as is really not a pastoral person but more an administrator. Spoke to a priest about this before and he was very cold and this is what the Church teaches, this is what you must do and if you struggle pray more Hail Mary’s and go to Confession. There was no warmth or compassion or anything like that.

You may be lucky with your priest. I would rather suggest finding an older couple who you trust and respect and who have been through the same challenges. Finding such a couple or person could be a challenge in itself! But prayer will open many doors.

In our diocese there is Zilch, nada, zero support for couples who wish to practice NFP. There is a NFP “teacher” in a neighbouring diocese and that’s it. She just teaches and does not consult. She’s a nun as well and is very honest that she does not have the experience to council.
 
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