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abinjoy
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How will you reconcile with a person who doesn’t want to reconcile with you?
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MNathaniel
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You won’t.
The most you can do is establish receptivity to reconciliation, extend an olive branch, then get on with living your life. The other person will either decide to participate in reconciliation, or they won’t.
Obviously details matter. Makes a difference whether you’re talking about a spouse, a lifelong friend, a college buddy, a casual acquaintance, a work associate. Makes a difference whether you hurt them or they hurt you or you drifted apart. Makes a difference how big and bad the breach is.
But reconciliation takes two. If one person doesn’t want to reconcile, the other can’t achieve reconciliation alone.
The most you can do is establish receptivity to reconciliation, extend an olive branch, then get on with living your life. The other person will either decide to participate in reconciliation, or they won’t.
Obviously details matter. Makes a difference whether you’re talking about a spouse, a lifelong friend, a college buddy, a casual acquaintance, a work associate. Makes a difference whether you hurt them or they hurt you or you drifted apart. Makes a difference how big and bad the breach is.
But reconciliation takes two. If one person doesn’t want to reconcile, the other can’t achieve reconciliation alone.
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abinjoy
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a close friend, (From the past)
Mutual hurt involved (I have hurt the other person more I hurt them, thats my conclusion)
Mutual hurt involved (I have hurt the other person more I hurt them, thats my conclusion)
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matjam
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നിങ്ങള് പ്രാര്ഥിക്കുമ്പോള് നിങ്ങള്ക്ക് ആരോടെങ്കിലും എന്തെങ്കിലും വിരോധമുണ്ടെങ്കില് അതു ക്ഷമിക്കുവിന്.
അപ്പോള് സ്വര്ഗ്ഗത്തിലുള്ള നിങ്ങളുടെ പിതാവ് നിങ്ങളുടെ തെറ്റുകള് ക്ഷമിക്കും.
മര്ക്കോസ് 11 : 25-26
It’s important to note that forgiving another does not excuse their sin. Forgiveness does not mean that the sin did not happen or that it is OK that it happened. Rather, forgiving another does the opposite. Forgiving actually points to the sin, acknowledges it and makes it a central focus. This is important to understand. By identifying the sin that is to be forgiven, and then forgiving it, justice is done in a supernatural way. Justice is fulfilled by mercy. And the mercy offered has an even greater effect on the one offering mercy than the one it is offered to.
By offering mercy for the sin of another, we become freed of the effects of their sin. Mercy is a way for God to remove this hurt from our lives and free us to encounter His mercy all the more by the forgiveness of our own sins for which we could never deserve on our own effort.
https://catholic-daily-reflections.com/2020/03/02/forgiving-others-and-being-forgiven-2/
അപ്പോള് സ്വര്ഗ്ഗത്തിലുള്ള നിങ്ങളുടെ പിതാവ് നിങ്ങളുടെ തെറ്റുകള് ക്ഷമിക്കും.
മര്ക്കോസ് 11 : 25-26
It’s important to note that forgiving another does not excuse their sin. Forgiveness does not mean that the sin did not happen or that it is OK that it happened. Rather, forgiving another does the opposite. Forgiving actually points to the sin, acknowledges it and makes it a central focus. This is important to understand. By identifying the sin that is to be forgiven, and then forgiving it, justice is done in a supernatural way. Justice is fulfilled by mercy. And the mercy offered has an even greater effect on the one offering mercy than the one it is offered to.
By offering mercy for the sin of another, we become freed of the effects of their sin. Mercy is a way for God to remove this hurt from our lives and free us to encounter His mercy all the more by the forgiveness of our own sins for which we could never deserve on our own effort.
https://catholic-daily-reflections.com/2020/03/02/forgiving-others-and-being-forgiven-2/
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abinjoy
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you a keralite?
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matjam
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Very Much 
where is your native in kerala?
where is your native in kerala?
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abinjoy
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unable to PM you, Central Kerala .(Kothamangalam diocese)
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RolandThompsonGunner
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All you can do is apologize and make it clear you are willing to reconcile if they want to. But if they decide they no longer want to be friends, that’s their choice. You can’t force them.
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matjam
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Me kanjirappally diocese. Near marian retreat centre, Anakkara.
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MarkoB0726
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If they don’t want to reconcile with you then don’t bother. Sorry to be blunt, but you can’t change the situation. You’ll just have to learn to accept it.
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PennyinCanada
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When there’s a broken relationship, remember to place them and yourself under the rays of the Divine Mercy image. We say in the Our Father, forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. If someone is holding on to unforgiveness or resentment because of our actions and our faults, at least we can do this. Ask God to give them the grace to forgive.
I wish I knew what to say to people I’ve known who remember and talk about hurts from 20 yrs ago, 30 or 40 yrs ago. To bring healing and restoration to their souls. May God help all of us because it’s tough in this world. Very challenging.
I wish I knew what to say to people I’ve known who remember and talk about hurts from 20 yrs ago, 30 or 40 yrs ago. To bring healing and restoration to their souls. May God help all of us because it’s tough in this world. Very challenging.
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BornInMarch
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If someone doesn’t want to see you or make peace with you then the best thing you can do is give them their space. They may come around over time, or they may not, but either way respecting their desire not to see you more than necessary will show that you really are sorry about whatever you did.
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