Refound Catholism with a Genetic Problem

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I have refound my Catholism after at least 19 years of questioning it due to below.

My wife is not Catholic.

We have been married for 23 years and have 2 boys, 19 and 9.

Both boys have a Genetic condition with no cure.

During our youngest sons 1st holy communion lessens where parents also had lessions fron our parish priest, i have refound Gods love.

My wife and i are now at an age were we do not want to bring another child into the world, especially with this genetic disease.

How can we live by the holy Catholic teachings but not conceive?
 
Sad Those are the choices. Will it be difficult? From your wife’s point of view, I can see it becoming difficult. Since your kids were born 10 years apart, I imagine you were using some form of artificial BC.

You should both see your priest, and be very honest…and listen to all he says! I don’t believe that you have to abstain, if your wife uses birth control without your consent.

I know, slippery territory. You don’t want to be glad that your wife is sinning…but, she may not want to figure out fertility charts, etc. After all, she hasn’t put herself under the guidance of the Catholic Church!

As for you, with every sex act, you are supposed to be open to life…not hysterically happy about an unwanted pregnancy, but able to welcome the child into your home and family!

Well, glad your faith has returned! God Bless!
 
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As a person with a profound genetic deformity, spend time speaking with adults who have the same condition. They are likely going to tell you, as I would, that life is beautiful and that we are grateful for our lives 🙂

Should you and your wife wish to delay, even indefinitely, future children you would abstain or use the most conservative forms of Natural Family Planning.
 
I believe you are quite correct. Let’s say, for example, the OP’s wife decides to use the Pill or have an IUD put in. The OP should voice his objections, but he can continue to have marital relations with her. It’s not HIS choice to have her use these things.
 
As a non-catholic, your wife can still use abc. You have to let her know you don’t agree with it. Check with your priest, though. People here will say all kinds of things.
 
While yes, it’s TRUE that a catholic spouse can have relations with a contraception spouse catholic or not, it is in no way a “loophole” as a spouse it is your responsibility to help your spouse achieve heaven a d it’s no light matter that if you disagree or allow your spouse to sin in what is surely the defining marital act you are not really helping your spouse be holy. And I’ve know several men who have a hard time if their wife contracepts in a way that could kill a human life. In. Marriage it’s not healthy or Godly to view something you cant do because if your beliefs but then think you can get around it with a less believing spouse. Ugh it sounds so disgusting!
This is one reason why differences in faith are much more in a marriage than just an opinion. As a Catholic your faith extends to the bedroom. And it should in a sacrament like marriage.
 
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