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Safia
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Is there anything potentially unwise about one’s regular Confessor being a good friend, or at least someone you see on a regular basis and trust implicitly?
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papaececi
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I think it depends on how badly you sin and how often 
I’m only kidding. It can be awkward, I imagine, but you are the only one who can judge that. One thing is that if you want to discuss something that you have brought up in confession, you’ll have to bring it up again outside of the confessional before your friend will admit he knows what you are talking about. At least, that is what I have found with my confessor.
I think the most important thing is that you are receiving good counsel from your confessor and if that is the case, I don’t see what is wrong with your confessor being a good friend.
I’m only kidding. It can be awkward, I imagine, but you are the only one who can judge that. One thing is that if you want to discuss something that you have brought up in confession, you’ll have to bring it up again outside of the confessional before your friend will admit he knows what you are talking about. At least, that is what I have found with my confessor.
I think the most important thing is that you are receiving good counsel from your confessor and if that is the case, I don’t see what is wrong with your confessor being a good friend.
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Joannm
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Think of it this way. I have some good friends with whom I share a lot, even when I fall and sin. I ask their opinion, how they have dealt with situations, how they have overcome it. Now if I can discuss these things with my girlfriends and not think twice about meeting them again for coffee or a walk why should I think differently about my priest friend, who is also my confessor. My girlfriends don’t look at me any differently so why should he?
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southeast_wisco
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Go to google images and type in: Lech Walesa time magazine 1982
To me, when i saw this picture, it looked like part of lech walesa’s face was a little bit darker than the other half.
To me, this seemed to partially symbolize the struggle that he went through.
When a person tells the priest one’s sins, that involves some struggle, tribulation and a little darkness.
If the priest has a true and deep prayer life, he can balance the struggle and tribulation revealed in the confessional while interacting with you outside of the confessional.
If he doesn’t have a deep and true prayer life, i can only imagine there may be problems. I am not a priest. I don’t know for sure. I have never been in your situation. Just some thoughts.
To me, when i saw this picture, it looked like part of lech walesa’s face was a little bit darker than the other half.
To me, this seemed to partially symbolize the struggle that he went through.
When a person tells the priest one’s sins, that involves some struggle, tribulation and a little darkness.
If the priest has a true and deep prayer life, he can balance the struggle and tribulation revealed in the confessional while interacting with you outside of the confessional.
If he doesn’t have a deep and true prayer life, i can only imagine there may be problems. I am not a priest. I don’t know for sure. I have never been in your situation. Just some thoughts.
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ProdglArchitect
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I personally find it helpful to be close to my confessor. It is a little bit more embarrassing to admit your faults to them, but once you get beyond that, the confessors familiarity with you is usually beneficial to them in helping you overcome your problems.
I just had my first confession since moving, with a priest I am not familiar with, and I actually found it to be more embarrassing to tell my faults to him, rather than to the priest I was good friends with at the church where I had lived for fifteen years.
I just had my first confession since moving, with a priest I am not familiar with, and I actually found it to be more embarrassing to tell my faults to him, rather than to the priest I was good friends with at the church where I had lived for fifteen years.
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