Rejected to hookup

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I was on tinder, and I was just looking for a date. I got matched with a cute woman, who gave me her number, but she wanted to hookup with me. I couldn’t go through with it in the end, and I ghosted her text. I felt show ashamed, and I felt like my spirit made me feel conflicted.

I guess I’m also surprised by how hooking up has become the norm. I wonder what happened to courtship, or the importance of marriage. I’m going to stop looking for relationships, until God can decide what’s best. Though, I can’t believe that I even entertained that idea in the first place.
 
Tell yourself: ‘My mind is firmly settled and founded in Christ’ and pray. You will feel better. This world is full of temptations.
 
My friend found his girlfriend, when he was on it. I guess that’s what I get for trying to follow my friend’s lead. Ironically, when I did go to one of those organized forums, I wasn’t as successful. After today, I just feel so stupid about the whole thing.
 
Well that’s what I tried to do, but I was never successful on there. I was literally trying to find love in all the wrong places, but yeah I shouldn’t have followed the crowd.
 
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I’m going to stop looking for relationships, until God can decide what’s best.
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Then prepare to be alone. The Lord helps them who help themselves. It’s like saying, “I can’t find a job. I’ll just sit here and wait until God does it for me.”

My daughter meets guys through Tinder, and she is most certainly not interested in hookups.
 
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Well, I had a friend who used to pick up guys on some dating site (way back in the pre-Tinder dark ages) for no-strings bondage sex, and the second or third one she picked up just happened to click with her really well and they ended up married for over a decade now. So it can happen…but not the norm.
 
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That is not a place a Catholic should be.
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I guess I’m also surprised by how hooking up has become the norm.
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Hooking up is A norm. Not THE norm. It is a “norm” among a population of sad, lonely people who think this will make them happy and users who prey on those people.

It is not the norm for Godly people.
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I’m going to stop looking for relationships, until God can decide what’s best. Though, I can’t believe that I even entertained that idea in the first place.
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Tinder is for hooking up, NOT for relationships. There are places for Godly relationships. That isn’t one of them. Stay away.
 
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You should feel good that you rejected her offer. You learn from your mistake and move on. If your conscience bothers you for reasons only you know regarding this you can go to confession. I think you shouldn’t feel rushed and you pray daily to God to help lead you to a wife so you both can serve the Lord together and get each other into heaven.
 
Well, I used to be part of a community of young adults, but I left it because they weren’t very welcoming. They didn’t want me to come early to church, and didn’t even give me an offer to volunteer. Ironically, 2 years ago I went to an event that was with my protestant friends, and they were very welcoming. However, I’m still a catholic at heart, so I wasn’t used to their sermons.

I guess my biggest problem is, is my location in the first place, I’m actually trying to find a good community for my friend, so that he can learn about Catholisism. That’s my other issue that I’m facing.
 
You’re right, but when I mentioned it being a norm, it’s because of the people in my generation. Or when I was in college, that’s all everyone was talking about, I received an email every week about std testing.

That’s on the college email, so I tried to find other places, but there’s nowhere in my vicinity. Whether it being for dates or friendship, I can’t really find a lot of options.
 
I guess for now, I’m trying to find a community that will not turn him off from the catholic faith. Also, I understand what you’re saying, I come from a similar background as well. As for finding a new communiry, I think I’ll definitely wait, until I move to a new state, and start from there.
 
I met my husband on straphael.net back in 2000. We’ve been married since 2002. I remember what impressed me was the truly detailed ?aire we had to fill out. He impressed me by being willing to go to Mass as our first date, with brunch afterwards.

If you’re serious about dating a faithful Catholic who is not interested in a hookup, find a website that will give you access to people who are most likely to fall into that category. We are not well represented in the secular world.
 
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