Relationship ended tonight

[Captain_America]

Flash, how old are you?

I know in my early 20s I was agnostic, didn’t like the idea of marriage and kids, etc. This, too, just like the girl, may pass. . .

Right now I have to testify that it’s remarkable and wonderful to have children.

 

[joshvanrad]

I’ve seen a number of uncharitable comments towards Flash in here. That is just flat out disturbing to see.

I am wishing you the best Mr. Flash. Breakups a hard, but relationships do really have a great struggle when there is a large difference in ideals. Maybe it is time for you to sit down and determine exactly what you would want in a woman who you could spend the rest of your life with.

Joshua C.

 

[SamH]

So why did she drive to the wedding?

 

[Diana_Catherine]

Well it was a good run,

I’m a militant atheist, I was dating a hardcore Catholic girl, we dated for ten months. But it was about a year ago that I took her out for supper, and a Spanish guitar show that we never got to.

We went to a wedding tonight, at the end of the night she dropped me at my car, pulled back from a hug and a kiss, and I felt it, and I knew.

Such is life I suppose. I did my best to be a good man in her life, and she did say that I strengthened her faith, and forced her to learn more about her beliefs to talk to me, so perhaps that was my role in her life.

She does love me, she says so, and I believe her. But she brings up important issues like the raising of children and other things. They are real issues, and would not go away overnight.

Anyways, I am pretty lost right now, I know this will be a really really really hard next little while. I made her a promise a long time ago that I wanted what was best for her, and I admitted at the time it may not be me. I promised that I would not try and hold on for selfish reasons. Or fight for her, or make appeals and pleas . . . So I am not.

This just sucks. I am not doing so good about it right now.

I do love this women, it just sucks …

anyways, as part of my coping mechanism I came here, so you guys can all laugh, although I did not seek your god in my hour of need, I sure did come to this website to tell you guys . . .

No one here will laugh at you. We will just pray for you and hope for your healing but maybe also for your coming to understand her.

 

[dedo]

That story is quite chilling.

To the OP, your sincerity in caring for your girl friend strongly comes through and I am sorry for your loss. But as a Christian /Catholic woman she realized that she could not be unevenly yoked with you. Praise God! Marriage would be difficult and raising children would be very difficult because children often go the path of their father. Your only move here is to ask the Holy Spirit to give you the gift of faith. You should do this whether or not the young lady is ever a part of your life. For your OWN sake. I’ll pray for you today.

I agree with this. This is a good opportunity to examine your beliefs. You would be likely to have problems with any Christian girl. I regularly look for ways to improve and consider every suggestion. Like your girlfriend, my debates with atheists has only strengthened my faith. Sadly, it is also somewhat draining. So I completely understand your girlfriend’s decision.

I hope you consider this as a reasonable choice – to seek God and let Him help you through this.

God loves you even more than you love your girlfriend.