Relationships and affections

[Freddysugar]

I need advice. My mother recently saw me kissing my boyfriend and she was traumatized, she keeps telling me that we don’t have love that it’s just passion, that we’re one step away from having sex, that this is mentally wrong that I’m not ready to date and i should attend a catholic group to enlighten me and gives me 3 sermons a day (i am 18 so I live at home still) I believe she is being super conservative and exaggerating what should I tell her next time she talks with me? Also she is not allowing me to see him

 

[humbleseeker]

How long have you been dating?

 

[Hoosier-Daddy]

Since you are 18, you can indeed move out and support yourself thereby make your own decisions.

 

[Trident_H]

I’d take a bit of a middle road here. I’d ask your mother to sit with you and explain how she and your father managed their feelings early on and later? And then I’d ask her what she thought was reasonable? And then I’d hold her hand and say something along the lines of, “I understand you want what’s best for me and that you are worried about me. I appreciate that a lot. But at the same time I want you to trust me at least a bit. I will try very hard to stay away from passion because I don’t want to betray that trust and because I’m trusting your judgement here, but can you ease up on the ‘not-seeing-him’ bit?”

Try some sort of understanding on principle line and then stick with it. Presumably she’s gotten you this far in one piece so her judgement can’t always be too far wrong. Just be willing enough to listen reasonably in order to be heard reasonably as well.

Peace FS. Good luck