Relative in dangerous relationship

[Diem]

I have a relative whom is in a relationship with a controlling man. He stalks her. He has been going to her new job and parking next to her new boss’s car because he thinks she and the boss have something going on. He has recently purchased some guns and she, my relative, said that he has been acting really strange since he has gotten them. Every time she has tried to get out of the relationship in the past, he has made it very difficult and she gives up and stays. I’m so worried about her safety, as well as the safety of the rest of our family and her boss. Please pray for protection for all involved and a safe way out for her. Pray for the man, too that he will not harm anyone and that he may be changed by God.

 

[a_priori]

Praying…

 

[Dorothy]

She should not allow herself to be in bondage to this man out of fear. This stalking can be handled by the police. Does she want to be trapped with him in fear for the rest of her life?

 

[PrincessViolet]

I am praying for all of you…been there and still in hiding from someone who did the same…

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known, that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help or sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of Virgins, my Mother. To thee I come, brfore thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful, O Mother of the word incarnate, despise not my petition, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

 

[Diem]

She should not allow herself to be in bondage to this man out of fear. This stalking can be handled by the police. Does she want to be trapped with him in fear for the rest of her life?

No. She does not want to be in fear for the rest of her life. Unfortunately, a restraining order doesn’t make her feel any safer. It could make him angrier. He could show up and shoot her, or her children or anyone close to her and be gone so fast that a restraining order wouldn’t have made a difference, yet we have encouraged her to get one anyway. She really needs prayers for protection and aid to remove herself from the situation.

 

[Diem]

I am praying for all of you…been there and still in hiding from someone who did the same…

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known, that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help or sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of Virgins, my Mother. To thee I come, brfore thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful, O Mother of the word incarnate, despise not my petition, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

Thank you so much. Your prayers will be strong. It’s hard to watch someone you love go through this. You feel helpless because there is no easy answer. These angry, obsessed, pathologically controlling types of people don’t quit. I’m sorry that it is happening to you, too. I’ll keep you in my prayers as well.

 

[Dorothy]

No. She does not want to be in fear for the rest of her life. Unfortunately, a restraining order doesn’t make her feel any safer. It could make him angrier. He could show up and shoot her, or her children or anyone close to her and be gone so fast that a restraining order wouldn’t have made a difference, yet we have encouraged her to get one anyway. She really needs prayers for protection and aid to remove herself from the situation.

I will pray for this situation - I have no knowledge how the police handle such matters.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

 

[PrincessViolet]

Thank you so much. Your prayers will be strong. It’s hard to watch someone you love go through this. You feel helpless because there is no easy answer. These angry, obsessed, pathologically controlling types of people don’t quit. I’m sorry that it is happening to you, too. I’ll keep you in my prayers as well.

God bless you Diem. I will say a rosary for the lady in the morning!!! No, there is no easy answer…he probably sucked her in in the beginning with promises of undying love etc and turned up the heat gradually.

I moved 250 miles to get away, with my daughter, from all the abuse, but now I am with a loving, gentle man (who was baptized into the church at Easter!!!) and we are to be married soon!!! So I’m ok. I’m just worried about your relative…but with our prayers I know she will be ok.

God bless, Rachel x x x

 

[Irish_Girl_68]

She must get away from this man NOW! Her life and that of her children could very well be at risk. These situations often end very badly (OJ Simpson ring a bell?). Restraining orders are worthless because the stalker many times will not comply. If they do violate the order, the penalty is often not very much at all. Your relative needs to get very honest with herself and ask if she will ever be able to live with herself if her fear of action means this man harms or perhaps even kills one of her children. I pray to the Blessed Mother for the protection of this mother and children and ask that she be wisely led to a place of safety. In Jesus’ name I pray.

 

[Diem]

She must get away from this man NOW! Her life and that of her children could very well be at risk. These situations often end very badly (OJ Simpson ring a bell?). Restraining orders are worthless because the stalker many times will not comply. If they do violate the order, the penalty is often not very much at all. Your relative needs to get very honest with herself and ask if she will ever be able to live with herself if her fear of action means this man harms or perhaps even kills one of her children. I pray to the Blessed Mother for the protection of this mother and children and ask that she be wisely led to a place of safety. In Jesus’ name I pray.

She does need to get away from him and I will say that she has tried on many occasions, but he will not relent. Yes, we are familiar with OJ and not only him, but many other every day people involved in domestic violence situations with the same dynamics ending up in tragedy. I mentioned in a post above and agree that restraining orders don’t stop these dangerous people and may make the situation worse. That’s why I’m asking for prayers…that God show her a safe way out. Thanks for praying.

 

[Christine85]

For your intentions

Our Father who art in Heaven
Hallowed be thy name
Thy Kingdom come , Thy Will be done
On Earth as it is in Heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
And lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from evil
AMEN

Hail Mary full of Grace
The Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou among women
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death
AMEN

In the name of The Father, and The Son and The Holy Spirit
AMEN

 

[mlz]

There are shelters in our community for families in these situations. Could that be an option? I would encourage her to seek out a shelter and then report it to police, especially when going to and from work. BUT, of course I’ll pray.

Lord shelter this woman from the evil intentions of the husband she lives with. Protect her gracious Lord and provide healing in this twisted mind of her spouse. We ask for the intercession of St. Joseph for this family.

mlz

 

[Diem]

God bless you Diem. I will say a rosary for the lady in the morning!!! No, there is no easy answer…he probably sucked her in in the beginning with promises of undying love etc and turned up the heat gradually.

I moved 250 miles to get away, with my daughter, from all the abuse, but now I am with a loving, gentle man (who was baptized into the church at Easter!!!) and we are to be married soon!!! So I’m ok. I’m just worried about your relative…but with our prayers I know she will be ok.

God bless, Rachel x x x

Thanks again for your prayers, Rachel. I’m so glad that you have met someone that is good to you and that you will have the Catholic faith to share. That’s wonderful. I pray that for my sister as well, whom is the relative in this situation. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!