Remembering our Dads on Sunday

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Our relationships with our fathers and our mothers can sometimes be strained throughout the course of life.
My parents were divorced and that divorced caused a rift between me and my Father.
He died a few years ago. And we never really resolved our issues.
With Father’s Day (in America) coming up on Sunday, I want to take time to offer some positive thoughts and some prayers for my Dad’s soul. And for me, his surviving son.
Have any of my CAF brothers and sisters experienced similar circumstances with your Dad? How did you handle things?
God bless you all! 🙏🙏🙏
 
Divorce causes a lot of problems in families.
God bless our Fathers and our mothers!
 
While I didn’t suffer from divorce nor did my husband, he did suffer from estrangement from his father. This was doubly sad as his mother died when he was five. His saving grace was his grandmother and grandfather. He never really reconciled with his father before he died either though there was one attempt. To him, Fathers Day is Grandfathers day. Recognizing your father, grandfather or significant male in your life is wonderful and can be healing as well.
 
I’m very sorry for your situation, and of course I’ll include you in my prayers.

I was lucky, in a weird sort of way. My Dad had horrific health habits. He died at 66. But while I could have my issues with him I understood that a chain smoker in a high stress job wasn’t going to last long, so it gave me the opportunity to get past them. But had I not had that intuition (given me by a priest I greatly admire) it could have very easily gone the other way.
 
My first Father’s Day after my dad died I made sure I set aside time to just be alone for awhile. The quiet was healing.

Have a Mass said and continue with the rosary. I’ll pray for you and your father as well.
 
Bless your Dad’s soul. Bless that priest that helped you. And God bless you, Jimbo! 🙏🙏🙏
 
There are likely many people who will read your thread who have fathers or mothers that they have differences with. The difference being that their fathers or mothers still are alive in this world.
May these folks all try to reconcile their differences. What a great Father’s Day gift that would make, right?
 
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My first Father’s Day after my dad died I made sure I set aside time to just be alone for awhile. The quiet was healing.
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Out of interest a friend lost their father earlier this year.

I’m thinking of calling them tomorrow.

Is that something you would have appreciated or would you rather have time to yourself and to be with family?
 
I needed the time alone. It was nice to hear friendly voices in short spurts though.

This Christmas my mom does and it was my first mother’s day this year without her. Interestingly, I surrounded myself with family and stayed very busy. Not sure why I coped differently.

You should check in with your friend and kind of follow their lead. God bless you for caring so much about them. We all need friends like you in our lives.
 
Years ago a priest, Dominican priest who looked like Obi-Wan-Kanobi , said, “first thank God for the gift of life from your parents.” Just stay with that…God, thank you for the gift of life from my father.
At mass there can be great healing of relationships (daily mass is a great place for quiet prayer and more intemacy with God) people are there also because they want to be there , not because it is an obligation. Sunday of course is our great day to honor God etc.and come together as community (family) that’s another story.
It is very helpful to ask for the grace to be open, to total healing ,in Gods time. Also ask the Mother of God for counsel and run to saint Joseph too…the sacrament of confession and the holy Eucharist will open avenues of your heart that you never knew were closed. This journey of grace building on nature , is worth every step you take. 🙏
 
My parents divorced when I was six and while they are still friends and did the best they could at coparenting us (before coparenting was a thing) I do grieve having my dad in my daily life growing up. I was very close to him as a young child and I feel like we didn’t stay as close. It’s unnatural for your parent to have “another family”, even if everyone is on good terms. There’s a grief for something lost there.
 
You might want to text them as to not put them on the spot, but still let them know you are thinking of them. “I was thinking of you today, and just wanted you to know. I am sure it will be a day full of memories for you. Give me a call if you feel like talking.”
 
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God bless all of our Fathers, those who remain with us and those who have passed on to the next life.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
 
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