Resenting working from home during isolation

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Hi,

I’m working from home like many of us while caring for baby, teens, home trying to balance all including my marriage and personal spiritual and physical health. Like many of us during this period of staying home. I’m fortunate i don’t have to travel.

For some reason when my boss or I get an email from work to work I get upset. I don’t want to be bothered. I get angry at these people. My husband rightly says I should be grateful that I still have a job that is helping us with our income . of course he is right and I have prayed about this feeling since I am aware it is an ugly feeling to have when so many are struggling. I recognize it and have prayed about it .

Looking for some things I can think about that will help me get rid of that feeling of being bothered when I have to work I know it has to do a lot with me just being busy at home , not good at juggling aliot of tasks, and always having to check in and not feeling well but maybe there’s a thought I can continually think about that might help me be less selfish instead of just always being grateful. I recognize most people would be grateful to be in my shoes and I have thought and prayed about that.
thank you so much everyone .
 
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I’d be happy just to have a job. My 17 year old sister actually just got her first job. I’m happy for her, but you know, here I am 32, and can’t get one. I understand the frustration though, because you were taken out of a routine you were used to, it’s kind of how I felt when they started canceling public Mass in my diocese
 
I will think of you during prayer today and will pray for you to find a job. And thank you for your answer. Sorry I just feel overwhelmed. God bless you, very much.
 
Thank you very much, and God bless you, I know it can’t be easy. I don’t have any children and I’m not married, so I don’t have that aspect of it, but I know a lot of people that are in that situation have been laid off, and you and I should both pray for them come to think of it.
 
I think it’s pretty normal to have trouble switching gears from working in an office where you only have to concentrate on work stuff, to “working from home”, which for most women means juggling family and appeasing a boss.

Find a routine and stick with it.
 
thank you I think it’s tricky because I’m still trying to get into a routine with the one-year-old
 
Trying to work and take care of a one-year-old is not easy … don’t be so hard on yourself.
 
Is your husband also working from home? Could you split your days so that one of you is primarily responsible for child care in the morning while concentrating a little more minimally on emails, etc.? And then flip roles for the afternoon?
 
hi yes we try shifts depending on work load, conference calls…it’s still feels a bit overwhelming on weekdays. Weekends are easier because i don’t check my work emails and it’s just taking care of house and family.
 
I’m certain you’re doing your best and I know a lot of people are experiencing upheaval right now. It seems you are grateful you have a job and routine is hard with your little one. If some things need to slide by the wayside, be kind to yourself. I think if your focus is to do the work necessary to maintain your job and love and comfort your husband & kids, everything will work itself out. 💜
 
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I see how this would be very hard. Usually you focus either on work or on your family. Now you have had a huge pile of things to do added to your plate, because when you go away to work, you do not have to also care your children and fix lunch, etc.

Any time you feel annoyed about a work interruption, it is a cross, and you can offer it up. I use this prayer: All for Thee, dear Jesus, Who has suffered so much for me. It helps my perspective a lot.
 
thank you very much, i appreciate your perspective!
 
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thank you, I will say that, I’m just afraid (I hate to admit this) that my feelings won’t accompany that the way it should. But i will try saying it. thank you
 
You’re welcome 🙂

Our feelings are tricky. For everyday purposes*, we can say they are not very much in our control, but that what matters is what we will to do in response.

Just because you have an annoyed or angry feeling inside doesn’t mean you have done anything wrong: what counts is what you choose to do.

So if you choose to offer something annoying up, instead if acting annoyed, then you are doing a very good thing–you are choosing to do the right thing despite your feelings about it.

*There is more developed thought about this, which I heard about years ago and have forgotten the details of 😳 but it is higher level and takes a lot of practice.
 
She plays with her little brother often but she has a lot of homework. she helps with chores.
 
I think I understand why you feel as you do. Your at-home time should be your own time, and you feel that the demands from work that are being made of you while at home with your family are intrusive, and somewhat of a nuisance.

When it became possible for people to work from home, some bosses started becoming unreasonable and inconsiderate of their employees’ private time, even after normal work hours. Even when the work day was over, some bosses would demand additional hours be put in from home, preventing their employees from being able to relax and enjoy their leisure time. Current technology has allowed some bosses to take advantage of their workers in this way.

So, while it’s good you still have a job, I think there needs to be a balance. You’re feeling overwhelmed because you have so much on your plate, and it appears your employer isn’t taking into consideration that your workload is becoming burdensome.

Are you getting any help around the house from your family? Maybe they need to pitch in more.

Hang in there, though. This won’t last forever.
 
Thank you Jan, that is how I feel, maybe that’s why i get upset, because i’m in the middle of caring for the baby with projects looming over my head at the same time. Thank you for your encouragement.
 
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