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aseekingheart77
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Ugh. I handled a situation so poorly and need help on how to proceed…
My roommate, who is my best friend, stated to me that she and her boyfriend wanted to remain in public spaces so things don’t go too far. Engagement is near. That night we had just finished having family over and they wanted to hangout after everyone left around 10 pm. She asked if I could brew us some tea. I remain in the kitchen and then the music room for an hour believing I am giving them privacy in a public space, but not too much. I figured she would let me know when she wanted the tea. But an hour had passed. It turns out they were in her bedroom, so I knock on the door. I say “hey” your tea is ready. She only cracks the door and says to leave it outside. Another hour goes by and knock again asking if he is spending the night. She says she doesn’t know. I am really mad at this point. So I ask if we can talk in the morning. Then I go to my room. I am just really bothered by this and knock a third time. And my heart races because i am upset. She comes out with her pillow and we have a conversation. I tell her that I am sorry I bothered her so much but I am really upset. I thought you all wanted to stay in public places so things don’t go too far…ect. She says she hears me and stomps off. She later thanks me, but has been mad at me since then.
I believe we all have to make our own choices and journey of faith. I really want to live by example. I feel like I handled this situation so poorly and I don’t know what to do. Should I have not said anything? Should I have waited until morning to say something. I feel like I acted like an impatient child knocking three times because I was upset. It really was none of my business. I am not their mother.
I have been helping plan her engagement. When they are engaged, how do I navigate this? Is it ok to have them sleep over because they are so close to marriage? They have know each other less than a year, but have been talking about engagement almost since the beginning. I feel like I should just be worried about my issues and life stuff, but I don’t know why this bothers me so much.
My roommate, who is my best friend, stated to me that she and her boyfriend wanted to remain in public spaces so things don’t go too far. Engagement is near. That night we had just finished having family over and they wanted to hangout after everyone left around 10 pm. She asked if I could brew us some tea. I remain in the kitchen and then the music room for an hour believing I am giving them privacy in a public space, but not too much. I figured she would let me know when she wanted the tea. But an hour had passed. It turns out they were in her bedroom, so I knock on the door. I say “hey” your tea is ready. She only cracks the door and says to leave it outside. Another hour goes by and knock again asking if he is spending the night. She says she doesn’t know. I am really mad at this point. So I ask if we can talk in the morning. Then I go to my room. I am just really bothered by this and knock a third time. And my heart races because i am upset. She comes out with her pillow and we have a conversation. I tell her that I am sorry I bothered her so much but I am really upset. I thought you all wanted to stay in public places so things don’t go too far…ect. She says she hears me and stomps off. She later thanks me, but has been mad at me since then.
I believe we all have to make our own choices and journey of faith. I really want to live by example. I feel like I handled this situation so poorly and I don’t know what to do. Should I have not said anything? Should I have waited until morning to say something. I feel like I acted like an impatient child knocking three times because I was upset. It really was none of my business. I am not their mother.
I have been helping plan her engagement. When they are engaged, how do I navigate this? Is it ok to have them sleep over because they are so close to marriage? They have know each other less than a year, but have been talking about engagement almost since the beginning. I feel like I should just be worried about my issues and life stuff, but I don’t know why this bothers me so much.
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