Same guy messages me 15 years later

[Heaveniswaiting]

Theres this online dating site that I have been using since like 20 years ago. I’m not always active on it and have been using it on and off for the past long years…however, some 2 weeks ago, I received a message from this person that kinda surprised me…It was some guy that messaged me on the same site some 10-15 years ago…but he doesnt know that we talked before, but I certainly remember…I know this is probably just some coincidence or something, but do you think there could be a chance its something “more”?

 

[CRV]

imo - short answer, no. If there was going to be something, then it would have happened when you last talked before. Sounds like it didn’t progress any further - obviously for reasons.

20yrs is a long time and people can and do change. If you are still single and therefore eligible to marry, perhaps it’s wise to continue to look elsewhere.

 

[Irishmom2]

Whether it’s something “more” or not would all depend on why you didn’t connect with them in the first place. Sometimes it really is timing, meeting someone at the wrong time in your life or theirs because of school, or obligations or whatever else gets in the way.

20 years can bring a lot of changes, good and bad, or for some people, they are exactly the same.

The only way to find out is to speak to them. Good luck!

 

[Tis_Bearself]

A possible explanation is that the person chose to enter a relationship with someone else, or a couple of someone elses in a row, and those now went kaput so he pulled out his virtual “little black book” again and is going through all the names of past contacts. I have known men who did exactly this.

But as Irishmom said, you won’t know for sure unless you talk to him and ask him why he is contacting you again after 10-15 years.

If he’s a smooth talker he’ll say, “Because try as I might, I just couldn’t get you off my mind”…but most men aren’t that smooth, LOL

 

[Irishmom2]

There was an 8 year space between when I saw my husband after high school and when we met again. Both of us had other relationships, and were different people than who we were after high school.

People grow up, or gain intelligence of many kinds. They figure out what works for them and what doesn’t.
And eventually, the right fit comes along.

 

[jvickers]

My relationship is kind of like Irishmom2’s except it was 21 years between my wife and I losing contact and ultimately ending up together. And we have a mutual friend and Facebook (of all things!) to thank for it. In that 21 years, we both went through a lot. Those trials changed us both for the better, and I don’t think our relationship could be better than what it is. She’s the true love of my life. It just took 21 years and a lot of experience and mistakes for that to happen.