scared of being introduced as new member of parish

[DOShea]

If he still does it, get up and walk out.

I think this is very bad advice. It’s predicated on the idea that inconsideration is justly paid back by a public display of rudeness IN a Church. That puts into action everything that Christ wasn’t. No one will remember your embarrassment, but everyone will remember your rudeness when being welcomed in the way they are all accustomed to.

If you started a new job and your new boss wanted to introduce you to “the office” at a meeting, would you stand up and walk out?

Talk to your priest about it and ask if you can be introduced on a week no other new members are, and that you be allowed to remain seated; just a simple reading off of your names. I’d be very surprised if your priest didn’t consider your concerns.

 

[crenfro]

Shucks!

I talked to someone in the parish office 2 days ago and they told me that we didn’t have to go up in front of everyone - today we went and did all the other newcomer stuff but we were spared being displayed in front of the whole congregation.

I feel so loved after reading all these comments though. Thank you so much for responding to my post, and many, many blessings.

 

[CatholicZ09]

Well, I was nervous when my Parochial Vicar did it to me today when he introduced to me as a new altar server. I was on the altar, and everyone just clapped. It was actually a feel good moment. I would just do it and it gets people to know you.

 

[Sir_Knight]

I think this is very bad advice. It’s predicated on the idea that inconsideration is justly paid back by a public display of rudeness IN a Church.

If the inconsideration on the part of the priest happens IN Church AFTER he was asked not to perform this action, what is wrong with displaying one’s displeasure by leaving?

That puts into action everything that Christ wasn’t.

Ditto on the part of the part of the priest if he goes through with it AFTER being ASKED not to.

No one will remember your embarrassment, but everyone will remember your rudeness when being welcomed in the way they are all accustomed to.

I disagree. The priest WILL remember that he lost a member of parish because he did something that he was asked not to do because they were uncomfortable with it. Also, if they are leaving the parish, why would it matter?

 

[DOShea]

If the inconsideration on the part of the priest happens IN Church AFTER he was asked not to perform this action, what is wrong with displaying one’s displeasure by leaving?

What’s WRONG with it? It’s rude and shows disrespect. That is not a proper response to being wronged even if your wishes are not respected. Surely you have heard the expression “two wrongs do not make a right.”

Ditto on the part of the part of the priest if he goes through with it AFTER being ASKED not to.

If the priest was that insensitive, he would be wrong. The correct response is to suffer that indignity, forgive him, and pray for the priest. You know, like our Lord taught us to?

I disagree. The priest WILL remember that he lost a member of parish because he did something that he was asked not to do because they were uncomfortable with it. Also, if they are leaving the parish, why would it matter?

Unlike you, I don’t approach the problem from the aspect of rubbing the priest’s nose in his folly, teaching him some kind of lesson for making a mistake. As I stated, I believe the priest would honor those wishes, but if for some unknown reason he didn’t, I don’t think it merits public spectacle and I don’t think it’s in the spirit of Christ to react that way.

What kind of precedent does it set? I’ve seen priests lose track of what Eucharistic prayer they are saying and recite half of one, half of another. Should we all get up and walk out, offended over some kind of slipshod Liturgical abuse? That would be absurd.

 

[Sir_Knight]

What’s WRONG with it? It’s rude and shows disrespect.

So is introducing someone publicly when specifically asked not to do so.

That is not a proper response to being wronged even if your wishes are not respected. Surely you have heard the expression “two wrongs do not make a right.”

It has nothing to do with two wrongs making a right. It has to do with removing oneself from an awkward situation that someone else has placed you in.

If the priest was that insensitive, he would be wrong. The correct response is to suffer that indignity, forgive him, and pray for the priest. You know, like our Lord taught us to?

He can be forgiven and prayed for from another parish,

Unlike you, I don’t approach the problem from the aspect of rubbing the priest’s nose in his folly, teaching him some kind of lesson for making a mistake.

If words have little effect on the priest, then maybe actions will.

As I stated, I believe the priest would honor those wishes, but if for some unknown reason he didn’t, I don’t think it merits public spectacle and I don’t think it’s in the spirit of Christ to react that way.

No where in the GIRM do I see where it allows for the introduction of new family members during Mass. If it does and I missed it, I will withdraw my objections. But given the fact that it is not allowed, such actions are then inappropriate and how did Jesus react when the temple was used inappropriately?

What kind of precedent does it set?

Being considerate of people’s feelings and respecting their wishes when asked before hand.

I’ve seen priests lose track of what Eucharistic prayer they are saying and recite half of one, half of another.

Any what about the people who were put on the spot. For some it may not matter but for others it may unnerve them so much that they may not be able to fully participate in the rest of the Mass. Might as well leave at that point.

Should we all get up and walk out, offended over some kind of slipshod Liturgical abuse? That would be absurd.

Depending on how bad/seerious the Liturgical abuse was.