Searching for a Spiritual Director

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Yesterday I had a one hour talk with a nun, and the local retreat center. Not quite a session of spiritual direction, more like a one hour dialogue as to what I should be looking for as far as spiritual direction and a spiritual director.

Having talked to me before, she strongly urged me to keep my prayer time to the minimum required, to not overdo it. To ease into it slowly as a newly converted catholic.

She thus approved the BSP/CFP plans of 4 years of formation. But she wanted me to keep an open mind that formal prayers along the lines of the Divine Office were not for me, and I should think about just quiet time…meditation and contemplation…in place of a formal program of set devotions.

We also talked over possible sources of a permanenet spiritual director for me. All in all, a fruitful session. 👍
 
I am glad that you had a nice session. I also feel quiet time and the format of prayer should come from our hearts to Gods. He needs to hear whats in our hearts and we need to listen to what he has to say to us during our quiet time!!

Have a great Day!🙂
 
Andruschak, I think you should also discuss all of this with your RCIA sponsor because you had such a great sponsor (Legion of Mary, etc).

I think you should pray as much as you love to pray, so long as it is a joy to you and not a bore or a burden in any way. We are in this for the long haul so it is endurance we should try to build. Instead of getting very involved in something that we cannot keep up for years to come. So I think there is much truth in what Sr. Julia Costello told you. But she may not realize how much joy you have in prayer.

I typically pray three to five (5-decade Rosaries) each M-F weekday. And always pray at least one Rosary a day. The last few months I try to see that one Rosary each day is unhurried and in a non-distracting setting (no other activity such as driving). So at a minimum, I think we should all pray one unhurried and undistracted Rosary a day. My other prayers are usually while driving, etc. It is good to pray in many situations, but to keep a special unhurried time of prayer each day has meant a lot to me. This is when I get my best Rosary Meditation done – and it has at times been quite imaginative.

If you limit yourself to praying only as much as you love to pray and as much as you find easy without being a burden – and if this is still over an hour a day – I still think this may be OK.

By the way, you are further along than me, so please figure for yourself much of what I say.
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Over the months, we have written replies to each others posts somewhat. So I’ll fill you in on what’s happening lately for me.

My “impossible” annulment situation recently broke through in several ways (day after Ascension Sunday) and now it no longer seems impossible. I now know my ex’s address and current name. And also I am now very likely to be able to get some witness statements sent to the tribunal.

I was recently diagnosed with a serious aortic aneurism right next to the heart (not yet bad enough to be more risky than the risky surgery that would be required to patch me up). I told my pastor about it and he gave me a blessing that reminded me of the note in our Church bulletin – a retreat for those facing serious illness. So I signed up for the retreat – and surprise – my pastor was one of the retreat spiritual directors (featured speakers).

And at the retreat, I received my first Sacrament in the Catholic Church – Anointing of the Sick. I was very surprised because I didn’t think I could receive the sacraments at all. But apparently I fully met the criteria in CCC 1514. The retreat was over Memorial Day weekend and it was such a great experience. And when I got home I read and re-read what the Catechism of the Catholic Church says about the sacrament – especially CCC 1520-1523. I am so amazed at what God has done in me. It is such a beautiful thing that I do not want to spoil. And the dramatic change in how I think about myself and what God has given me – it has greatly resulted in many changes in my life. I even read what the Council of Florence and Council of Trent says about the Anointing of the Sick (Extreme Unction in those days). And it is all so precious. God has been so merciful to me.

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So at a minimum, I think we should all pray one unhurried and undistracted Rosary a day.
I say this because I think it is what Our Lady of Fatima wants from each of us who is able to pray.
 
I say this because I think it is what Our Lady of Fatima wants from each of us who is able to pray.
sorry if this distracts from the OP’s topic, I won’t keep on this thread, but I had just this thought on the Rosary.

I’ve been trying to say a daily rosay and have found that I’ve been able to get into a constant habit of it if I pray the rosary during my drive to and from class (20 minutes each way through a city). But the prayer seems less focused than when I pray it on my back poarch (or in a chaple for that matter). Thoughts?
 
I’ve been trying to say a daily rosary and have found that I’ve been able to get into a constant habit of it if I pray the rosary during my drive to and from class (20 minutes each way through a city). But the prayer seems less focused than when I pray it on my back porch (or in a chapel for that matter). Thoughts?
I also pray during my drive to and from work. My advice to you is this – do both. Get one focused Rosary in each day (chapel or back porch or other non-distracting place). And the rosary during the drive to or from class are really extras – and they are good too. But see if you can get one Rosary each day where your attention is not also elsewhere (such as in driving).

jmm08
 
While I cannot say for you personally, I will say this; not everyone needs a spiritual director.

It seems that many seek a spiritual director but it is primarily not important for souls to have a spiritual director in the ordinary course of things. I have found reading across the forums that seeking a spiritual director is often advised. This is not strictly the right course for all. It is primarily important to find a good confessor, by that I mean one that you can gel with. All confessors are satisfactory but it is reasonable to suggest that some may suit one penetant better than another, so when I say seek a good confessor I mean seek one that you gel with well and find the wisdom that will keep you on the straight and narrow.

I do not think that every Catholic needs a spiritual director and would not advise seeking one unless spiritual experiences require it.

In my Living Prayer of Life
 
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