See how you understand it

[nana3]

How do you understand this statement?

“Each parent shall have two consecutive weeks each summer for vacation with the children.”

Does it mean each parent gets two weeks in the summer for vacation? Or does it mean two weeks on and off for each parent during the summer.

 

[leonie]

I would think the former.

 

[SueKrum]

I think the former as well.

 

[1ke]

How do you understand this statement?

“Each parent shall have two consecutive weeks each summer for vacation with the children.”

This is my understanding:

Parent A is allowed to have the children for two consecutive weeks during the summer (ie, when the child is out of school) during which time they would reside with Parent A full time.

Parent B is allowed to have the children for two consecutive weeks during the summer, a different two weeks than Parent A and during which time they would reside with Parent B full time.

However, it doesn’t really matter how we understand it. If it’s unclear to you, or unacceptable to you, have it clarified by your lawyer.

 

[Tietjen]

How do you understand this statement?

“Each parent shall have two consecutive weeks each summer for vacation with the children.”

Does it mean each parent gets two weeks in the summer for vacation? Or does it mean two weeks on and off for each parent during the summer.

Consecutive means “back to back,” ajoining, one after the other, 14 days in a row, etc. So, my understanding is that EACH parent shall get 14, uninterrupted, back to back 24 hour days, in the summer to spend on vacation with the children. But… I’m not a lawyer or anything, so common sense may not come into play here.

 

[Katie1723]

How do you understand this statement?

“Each parent shall have two consecutive weeks each summer for vacation with the children.”

Does it mean each parent gets two weeks in the summer for vacation? Or does it mean two weeks on and off for each parent during the summer.

you need to ask your attorney. But I would say it means you get 2 weeks with the kids…he gets 2 weeks with the kids

Kathy

 

[whatevergirl]

but isn’t a child’s summer vacation longer than 4 weeks?? what happens after the four weeks? who gets the children then?

i agree with the poster who said…you get 2 weeks…non stop, in other words…no interruption of days in those two weeks, and he gets the same.

 

[jmcrae]

but isn’t a child’s summer vacation longer than 4 weeks?? what happens after the four weeks? who gets the children then?

It would go back to the same system that they have in the winter time.

It seems as though the idea behind it is to allow each parent to take the kids on a vacation holiday trip for two consecutive weeks - so, for example, the Dad could take them to the family summer cottage for two weeks, and then the mother could take them to visit their maternal grandparents in her home town for two weeks.

That’s just my take on it.

As someone else said, check with your lawyer.

 

[SMHW]

I agree with those who say it probably means one two week period per summer for each parent.

Other than those four total weeks then the arrangements are whatever they are the rest of the year. I’d assume it’s not usual for the children to spend so long a period of time with a given parent. But for the sake of taking extended vacations, each parent is guaranteed at least one two week period.

Unless it’s specified elsewhere that the children have to see each parent at lessor intervals, the parents are probably free to have more than one two week period each summer. They just have to have at least one such period per parent.

But as others say, check with the attorney(s).

 

[Katie1723]

When I went thru my divorce, I was considered the primary custodial parent. My then husband could “have them on opposite holidays and for 2 weeks in the summer” The rest of the time, since my kids were older, they could opt to see or not see their father. He was the one to choose not to see them.

Kathy
P.S. please don’t make children pawns in this.

 

[nana3]

Thanks you to all of you. I had to ask for I believe and understand the former to be true, but my sister’s ex, the divorce couple here, insist that it means that he gets the children for two weeks on and off. He wanted two weeks and then my sister gets two weeks and than him again until summer ends. She did ask her previous attorney and she understood it as the latter. This is the reason she was found in contempt in the summer for because of child abuse at the dad’s, my sister refused the two weeks on and off until they could have gone to court. She did end up giving him two consecutives weeks in the summer. I am thinking that her old attorney did not know how to defend her well, for she was not in contempt then. She has a new attoney and we see her on Monday the 19th. We will ask her this question that I pose to all of you. Thanks again. I just wanted to see if we were crazy to think what we were for he said we were and just misunterstood the whole stipulation from the judge.

He is doing it again with his midweek visits. The stipulation reads, “Husband to have contact biweekly weekends from Friday pick up from school until return on Mondady morning plus one night each week for dinner at times mutually arranged by the parents.” He is saying that this means he gets the children on night a week for a sleep over on top of his every other weekend visit. That is not how it has been and this was a mediation agreement, where the original stipulation said he had to have the children home by 6 p.m.

My ex brother-in-law is just being a pain in the butt with my sister and using his children to get to my sister and hurt her. He then turns around and when she defends the kids, say that she is revengeful because he got remarried right away.

I wanted to ask you all something else that he does to the children that to be sounds ridiculous. My niece and nephew apparently owe money to their step sisters. The reason is that their dad has a chart which shows when a child leaves a light on in the house and in particular in someones room. It they leave the light on and forget to turn it off they have to pay $1.00 to the person who occupies that room. I don’t understand it fully, but this is what my niece has told me. They now owe a total of $4.00 and my niece is all stressed out for she doesn’t have this money. Do any of you do anything like this?

 

[drafdog]

Always remember that an attorney employs the English language in much the same way that an inebriate employs a lamp post: not for illumination but for support.

Matthew

 

[Katie1723]

…I wanted to ask you all something else that he does to the children that to be sounds ridiculous. My niece and nephew apparently owe money to their step sisters. The reason is that their dad has a chart which shows when a child leaves a light on in the house and in particular in someones room. It they leave the light on and forget to turn it off they have to pay $1.00 to the person who occupies that room. I don’t understand it fully, but this is what my niece has told me. They now owe a total of $4.00 and my niece is all stressed out for she doesn’t have this money. Do any of you do anything like this?

Just how old are the kids? And personally, I think the idea of paying is ridiculous. I feel bad for the kids no matter the age. They should NEVER under ANY circumstances be put in the middle.

Kathy

 

[nana3]

Just how old are the kids? And personally, I think the idea of paying is ridiculous. I feel bad for the kids no matter the age. They should NEVER under ANY circumstances be put in the middle.

Kathy

I agree with you Kathy, but he does and then he turns around and says that my sister is putting the children in the middle and not putting them first. He uses lies and manipulation. My niece is changing a little and is now being more sympathetic to her dad, but at the same time hates going to his house. She really hates the woman he married. My nephew calls it the “angry household.” My niece is 10 yr. old and my nephew is 7. They do many other things that are not right as a parent also. My niece and nephew are responsible to pack their own lunch and cook their owe breakfast on Monday mornings after the dad’s weekend. My sister and I were at the school, for my daughter goes to the same school, when the kids were dropped off by the dad. My nephew did not look cold which is usual after the dad’s weekend. They don’t set a bedtime and the kids say they stay up very late. Anyway, the teachers agreed that my nephew did not look good and was very tired and to take him home. I took him to my mother’s since my sister had to go to work. She took his lunch box and said she would eat his lunch. All that was in the lunch box was two juices and two liquid yogurts. My sister called me and I asked my nephew who packed his lunch and he said he did. He said that is my job. My sister nows buys school lunches on the dad’s weekends for this is the second time they have done this. My niece and nephew always lose weight at their dads especially if they stay a week. They lose about 2 lbs. I know my niece can eat a lot and is very underweight. She doesn’t eat at her dad’s well at all for she stresses out and wants to come home. She is also forced to eat what they make for dinner and if she doesn’t like it, she goes without eating. My sister doesn’t do this with her for she is so underweight. She makes her food she will eat. She has gained some weight just recently. There is so much more that goes on at the dad’s that is so scary.

My niece and nephew can go to a bathroom in a mall alone without any adult around. They are allowed to roam in a department store alone and have to meet up with the dad at a certain time. These are two cops that should see the news and know that children do get kidnapped and can then be found dead days or years later. I don’t understand them. There is definately a safety issue there. CPS has been told and knows and put in there report that there is a lack of supervision by an adult, but that is all they did.