Send a wedding invite to the celebrating priest?

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I’m in the process of mailing invitations to our* upcoming wedding. Should we send an invitation to the priest who will be celebrating the Nuptial Mass? I would think not, but I wanted a second opinion.

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  • I know-- error in pronoun agreement, BUT it’s not just “my” wedding, you know!
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Hi there. i got married back in December and i sent one to the celebrant and his wife for the ceremony and the reception. i think its a nice gesture and also makes them feel more welcomed and shows your gratitude for their services. you have them anyway, why not?! Good luck and God Bless, i know this is one of the most stressful and exciting times in your life. pray hard. keep cool and focus on the marriage which is a lifetime, rather than the wedding which is over and done with in the blink of an eye.

P.S. we also sent one to the wedding coordinator and the guitarist/vocalist (all though she was a friend of the family)
i believe its just a nice thing to do to thank them and show them you care and appreciate all of their hard work.

Sincerely,

a post bridal bride,

Tara
 
When I got married, I sent an invitation to the priest who was going to marry us. I’m not entirely sure what “proper etiquette” is here, but that’s what I did. 🙂

Best wishes on your upcoming wedding! 😃
 
Dear friend

You can send the Priest an invite to your wedding but you may not get an rsvp…you can take it as read he will be there !!! 😃 😃 😉

God Bless your marriage and much love and peace to you and your prospective spouse.

Teresa
 
We invited our celebrant; he could not attend, however. I’ve been a guest at other weddings & sat at tables with priest guests, and it’s been so much fun!
 
This is very valuable info. My son is getting married next year, and I hadn’t even thought of that!
 
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TarAshly:
Hi there. i got married back in December and i sent one to the celebrant and his wife for the ceremony and the reception. i think its a nice gesture and also makes them feel more welcomed and shows your gratitude for their services. you have them anyway, why not?! Good luck and God Bless, i know this is one of the most stressful and exciting times in your life. pray hard. keep cool and focus on the marriage which is a lifetime, rather than the wedding which is over and done with in the blink of an eye.

P.S. we also sent one to the wedding coordinator and the guitarist/vocalist (all though she was a friend of the family)
i believe its just a nice thing to do to thank them and show them you care and appreciate all of their hard work.

Sincerely,

a post bridal bride,

Tara
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The celebrant and his wife??? Was he a married priest who had converted and got a dispensation or was the officiator a permanent deacon? Just wondering. :hmmm: 😛
 
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Sunniva:
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The celebrant and his wife??? Was he a married priest who had converted and got a dispensation or was the officiator a permanent deacon? Just wondering. :hmmm: 😛
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He was a deacon. She talked about it on another thread.
 
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Sunniva:
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The celebrant and his wife??? Was he a married priest who had converted and got a dispensation or was the officiator a permanent deacon? Just wondering. :hmmm: 😛
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:rotfl: no no no!! we got married by a deacon. he was very close and dear to my heart so i wanted to be married by him. he took me through RCIA and then convinced my husband to finish his rights as he had been baptised as a baby, but never confirmed. i felt it was only right that he marry us as he had been such a huge part of our courtship and conversion.
 
I worked in the Protocol office on my base for two years. Everytime there was a ceremony we sent the General an invite even though we already briefed him on it and it was confirmed that he would preside over hte ceremony. It is a nice touch. He even got invites when “he told us” an event would be on so and so date.
 
We absolutely sent an invitation to our priest. He’s such a terrific and friendly man and wonderful pastor, and I wanted him to know that we valued his presence and weren’t just using him in his priestly capacity. He mailed his response back immediately, came, and had a good time. We sat him with my parents’ neighbor who has been a life-long parishoner, and my dad’s friends who are devout Catholics. From what I could see, all at the table were enjoying the conversation very much.
 
Yes, send one, with a little handwritten note expressing how pleased you are that he has agreed to officiate. But as implied above, don’t enclose an RSVP, and only enclose directions if the priest will need them.

If the RSVP asks about dinner preferences, ask the officiant directly. Be certain he knows he is being invited to a special place of honor at the reception. In our neck of the woods, he is customarily seated with the parents, unless other members of the wedding party are particular friends–as when a priest who is a brother to the bride is seated with his brothers and their cousins or school friends.

Sending an invitation is a nice touch, but not obligatory. If it is too late, and you haven’t, I don’t think he will take offense. What is obligatory is some sort of a stipend, preferably something that reflects the overall extravagance of your event. (Read: Don’t spend a ton on flowers and baubles for the flowergirl and then get cheap when expressing your appreciation the priest.)
 
May God bless you and yours in kind. 🙂
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springbreeze:
Dear friend

You can send the Priest an invite to your wedding but you may not get an rsvp…you can take it as read he will be there !!! 😃 😃 😉

God Bless your marriage and much love and peace to you and your prospective spouse.

Teresa
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I’m going to send an invitation along with a handwritten note as suggested.

God bless!
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BLB_Oregon:
Yes, send one, with a little handwritten note expressing how pleased you are that he has agreed to officiate. But as implied above, don’t enclose an RSVP, and only enclose directions if the priest will need them.

If the RSVP asks about dinner preferences, ask the officiant directly. Be certain he knows he is being invited to a special place of honor at the reception. In our neck of the woods, he is customarily seated with the parents, unless other members of the wedding party are particular friends–as when a priest who is a brother to the bride is seated with his brothers and their cousins or school friends.

Sending an invitation is a nice touch, but not obligatory. If it is too late, and you haven’t, I don’t think he will take offense. What is obligatory is some sort of a stipend, preferably something that reflects the overall extravagance of your event. (Read: Don’t spend a ton on flowers and baubles for the flowergirl and then get cheap when expressing your appreciation the priest.)
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We sent a formal invitation to the Priest to both the Rehearsal dinner and wedding reception. We figured we were keeping him away from his normal dinner because of the rehearsal, as it turned out he was able to come to the reception and not the rehearsal dinner. He prayed over our meal at the reception and sat at the table with our parents. You can also send a letter to the Pope and get a Papal blessing, just contact your diocese. They are beautiful and you can frame them for your home.

As a side note, we also sent an invitation to the President and they sent a formal response that we have framed. Of course, they did not attend, but I had heard they send congratulatory letters that are a nice keepsake.

Our 1-year anniversary is coming up so I can empathize with your upcoming stress. The best advice I got was to be sure to take a few deep breaths and look around throughout the day to take it all in as you go. It goes by so quick, if you don’t stop to breathe you won’t remember the most important parts. Don’t focus on what you have to say and do either or else the mass will feel like you are just going through the motions. Be present to fully participate. There were a few times when I got focused on “what’s coming next?” and my husband would just squeeze my hand and smile at me. :love:
~P
 
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