Serious health problems; can't reach my priest

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I suffer from severe depression. On Easter Evening, I went totally limp and collapsed on the floor. I ended up going to a neurologist and I’m scheduled for some tests. I’m also going through a depression treatment.

I have left two emails with one of the parochial vicars asking for the sacrament of reconciliation and anointing of the sick. I really am desperate to speak to him, but he’s not answering my email. (I’ve left two.) I’m reluctant to call him, but I don’t know what else to do.

Does anyone have advice?
 
Please call either the parish office or the rectory (whichever is most appropriate in your parish, in my old parish, either was acceptable). Emails do not always convey the urgency of a situation. You need spiritual support right now. I pray you get it. God bless you.

Oh, and check your parish website or bulletin to see if there is a phone number to call to schedule the kind of ministering you need.

Just call.
 
Please call either the parish office or the rectory (whichever is most appropriate in your parish, in my old parish, either was acceptable). Emails do not always convey the urgency of a situation. You need spiritual support right now. I pray you get it. God bless you.

Oh, and check your parish website or bulletin to see if there is a phone number to call to schedule the kind of ministering you need.

Just call.
Thanks for the advice. God bless you.
 
Yes, I agree - call the priest. In my parish, for example, emails are only read about once a week so it’s not the fastest way to contact the pastor.
 
Hope you receive a call from the priest soon. God bless you for reaching out for hope and remember hope springs eternal.

Mary.
 
Dear Lisa,
Call the Rectory/Parish Office. There is always a Priest “On-Call” for Sacramental emergencies. God bless. Praying for you.
 
I suffer from severe depression. On Easter Evening, I went totally limp and collapsed on the floor. I ended up going to a neurologist and I’m scheduled for some tests. I’m also going through a depression treatment.

I have left two emails with one of the parochial vicars asking for the sacrament of reconciliation and anointing of the sick. I really am desperate to speak to him, but he’s not answering my email. (I’ve left two.) I’m reluctant to call him, but I don’t know what else to do.

Does anyone have advice?
Hi Lisa,

I am so very sorry for your struggles. :hug1:

I would make a phone call, like the others have suggested, and use whatever phone numbers are available on your parish’s website, for contact.

I would either call the Rectory, if there is a phone number there where you can reach your Pastor, or the Parish Office, if there is a phone number there where you can leave a message with a Parish Secretary.
 
I suffer from severe depression. On Easter Evening, I went totally limp and collapsed on the floor. I ended up going to a neurologist and I’m scheduled for some tests. I’m also going through a depression treatment.

I have left two emails with one of the parochial vicars asking for the sacrament of reconciliation and anointing of the sick. I really am desperate to speak to him, but he’s not answering my email. (I’ve left two.) I’m reluctant to call him, but I don’t know what else to do.

Does anyone have advice?
Your effort to contact the priest has to be in line with the urgency of the situation.

The hospital, or a parishioner even, could call using the reserved line when there was a life and death emergency. I responded to those day or night. Frankly, there were times when people grossly abused that particular telephone line – and that was really not appreciated. On the other hand, when a parishioner was undergoing an operation in the near future and approached me after Mass to arrange for the sacrament of the sick, I would always suggest just doing it then and there.

I join the others who have recommended that you telephone the rectory and ask for an appointment when a priest can hear your confession and anoint you.

Alternatively, if the procedures are being done at a Catholic hospital, you could reach out to the pastoral care department and make an arrangement to be seen there.

Personally, I will tell you that I tended always to err on the side of generosity regarding the prudential judgment a priest exercises to anoint. I had several sad experiences in my first years as a priest involving patients having complications with relatively routine procedures and, frankly, it affirmed me in my tendency to be broad in understanding “danger,” which is the criteria for the sacrament of the sick in canon law; this is one of those moments when I read the canon both for the language it uses and, more specifically, the language it does not use. To this day I will use my pastoral discretion to anoint when other priests might choose not to do so…and may even not agree with my decision. Fortunately, while it is their prerogative not to agree with my decision, it nevertheless remains my prerogative to proceed.

The fact that you are undergoing examinations would not, in itself, necessarily indicate anointing or that this is a pastoral emergency.
 
I would call again and leave a message for the Pastor. You can let him know you left a message for the two parochial vicars. I am sure he will go himself or have one of them go to see you. Saying a prayer for a good response. Anointing of the Sick: Often, when people are sick, they get discouraged, depressed, angry, annoyed, and afraid. The Church believes that the sacrament offers a special grace to calm the spirit. If physical recovery is God’s will, so be it. If not, then the person needs the grace, strength, and encouragement to bear the illness with dignity. A person can be anointed more than once.
 
I left a phone message with the parochial vicar with information about my situation. If I don’t hear back from him, I’ll turn to the pastor.

Thanks for your advice.
 
Your effort to contact the priest has to be in line with the urgency of the situation.

The hospital, or a parishioner even, could call using the reserved line when there was a life and death emergency. I responded to those day or night. Frankly, there were times when people grossly abused that particular telephone line – and that was really not appreciated. On the other hand, when a parishioner was undergoing an operation in the near future and approached me after Mass to arrange for the sacrament of the sick, I would always suggest just doing it then and there.

I join the others who have recommended that you telephone the rectory and ask for an appointment when a priest can hear your confession and anoint you.

Alternatively, if the procedures are being done at a Catholic hospital, you could reach out to the pastoral care department and make an arrangement to be seen there.

Personally, I will tell you that I tended always to err on the side of generosity regarding the prudential judgment a priest exercises to anoint. I had several sad experiences in my first years as a priest involving patients having complications with relatively routine procedures and, frankly, it affirmed me in my tendency to be broad in understanding “danger,” which is the criteria for the sacrament of the sick in canon law; this is one of those moments when I read the canon both for the language it uses and, more specifically, the language it does not use. To this day I will use my pastoral discretion to anoint when other priests might choose not to do so…and may even not agree with my decision. Fortunately, while it is their prerogative not to agree with my decision, it nevertheless remains my prerogative to proceed.

The fact that you are undergoing examinations would not, in itself, necessarily indicate anointing or that this is a pastoral emergency.
I guess I didn’t make the situation clear. Aside from my depression, I collapsed on the floor and could not move my legs. I had to be taken on a stretcher to the hospital. I was hydrated and went home that evening after several tests.

Based on my primary care doctor’s recommendation, I saw a neurologist. She did some preliminary tests and wants to make sure that my carotid arteries are not clogged and that there is no bleeding in the brain. (I know this sounds tedious.) I already have seven herniated discs in my back. So she’s checking my upper discs.

I’m guessing she’s just making sure I’m OK. But I’m scared and I’d just like the anointing of the sick and for sure confession.

This is tedious, I know, but I just needed to explain it.

P.S. I am only making these requests during daytime hours.
 
Praying for you, Lisa. Hope you hear from someone soon!

I understand your explanation of the events leading to your request, but I also understand Fr. Ruggero’s explanation about the circumstances under which a priest might or might not administer the sacrament. The only one who can make that decision in any given instance is the priest himself.

In light of a recent knee surgery, my pastor did not hesitate one second to agree to anoint me while my spiritual director did not hesitate one second to decline doing so. Both priests were given exactly the same information, yet neither made the wrong decision. Each exercised his prerogative in acting as he did. (In the end, I chose not to be anointed and received a blessing [from my pastor] instead.) Given the circumstances I doubt that a priest on hospital chaplaincy would deny what you ask, but if he does please keep in mind that except in cases of clear danger of death he is within his right to do so.

God bless you, friend! :hug3:
 
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