Say you are a woman who longs to be a wife and mother but whose biological clock is ticking–at what point (if at all) is appropriate to “settle” in your choice of a husband?
I have reached my mid-thirties, and realistically, I know that the pool of available men is shrinking and will shrink further with every coming year. Not only will there be fewer single men in my age range, but many of them will look to date younger women who they perceive to have more childbearing years left.
I am not desperate but rather am seeing the need to be realistic at some point very soon. (I still look young, for what it’s worth–people are consistently surprised that I am in my 30s; I try to be a faithful Catholic; and I have saved myself for my husband.) I don’t have an “entitled” mentality, but I do struggle with being too idealistic in many areas (dating being one of them), and am indecisive due to fear of making the wrong choice.
Perhaps “settling” is a poor choice of words, but I guess what I am asking is this: What points are most essential to look for in a good Catholic husband, and what criteria are ok to compromise or settle on? I don’t want to make the wrong choice, but I also don’t want to miss out on having a husband and family because I was too picky.
