Sex - Theology!

[mrsarchieleach]

Yes, God sure did know what He was doing when He created sex! For too long the woman’s role was practically non existent - she was merely the vessel in which the seed was planted, and was not allowed to assume any praticipating role in the “planting”. How sad and how many women throughout the centuries have suffered because of this. And even if a woman actually had the opportunity to enjoy the experience, she was considered a “bad girl” or suspect for being too loose or not a virgin on the all important night. “Good girls” shouldn’t know anything much about sex or enjoy it too much unless it’s because her new husband is “the man”. It’s akin to heresy - manichaeism is unfortunately still alive and well even today in certain ways! One’s sexuality should not be seen as something “bad” or “dirty” or knowing how one’s body responds sexually - women have a role in sex and love-making - we are not just passive partners as has been thought for too long in the past. It does women and marriage a disservice not to know how their bodies are made and respond sexually and how they fully contribute in procreation. The Church could do wonders in this area of sexual ethics/theology of the body/NFP to educate and thus enhance the role that sex plays in procreation and within the spiritual health of marriage, because the physical is so important seeing that we are “of the flesh” - the two must work together - spirit and flesh within the area of sexual relations. It still astonishes me in this day and age how often I hear about women who have never had orgasms or rarely have them and these are women who have been married for years!!! God intended woman’s orgasms to have an important role in procreation - it is not some mere insignificant “after thought”. Can a woman get pregnant without having an orgasm? Of course, but does it enhance the chances and does it enhance her experience and thus the couple’s experience? Of course! Because it’s about unitive as well as procreative relations. This is why I love JPII’s advice to husbands in “Love and Responsibility” when he speaks to them saying that special care should be given to the woman by her husband, to see that she is being treated tenderly and that every effort is being made by him that she will come to the same enjoyment as he - something to that effect, since he is the “active” partner. And I’m sure the men here would agree that sexual relations is so much better when both are fully engaged than when it’s more one-sided because then it begins to reduce it to a means for release rather than being gift to one another. For too long sex has been a “man’s domain” and women more just a means to an end. Even using the terms “active” and “passive” for the roles of men and women seems to me rather short-sighted and inaccurate to some degree. Women do have an active role to play in intercourse and procreation, lest be be used merely as a replacement for a man’s hand as the “remedy for concupisence”. Oh, what women have had to endure…her “wifely duty” as it were. Let’s hope times are indeed changing for marriage and woman’s procreative role.

Ok, long email but wanted to offer some extra thoughts…

 

[Pat_the_Cat]

Amen to that!