Should an infidel husband sleep on the couch?

[Corinne3]

Have not had, thankfully any clues that my h is still going to said strip club. I am trying to get my own life together, find a job, etc…I am worrying about myself for a change. Not what he is or isn’t doing. All good. I am thinking of joining my church choir and am signing up to volunteer at the food bank feeding the homeless. I am getting off my butt and living again. I also applied for the job I totally want! As soon as I walked in the place, I felt “this is me”…Please pray for me, friends that I will get it! Will let you all know. It is right up my alley, and I just hope it is God’s Will too! I am thrilled with the prospect of it! The person I need to speak to will come back Monday, and I just hope more than anything, I can write here with some good news soon! I’ve been so down for so long.

Thanks for all your prayers! We have an awesome God! who wants the best for us all!



Corinne~

 

[monicatholic]

but I trust my intuition.

corrine, this is not true. on parenting forum, you aks the most basic no-brainer parenting questions and say, “my gut tells me this, but i just don’t know.”

you do NOT trust your intuition. and in the case of adulterous husband, you shouldnt. you should trust professional medical test results.

ponyguy, don’t lionize these women’s hardships. they’re both living in circumstances that may well present moral danger to their children. any effort to not judge them is commendable, but any hint at flattery is not.

 

[Corinne3]

Hi Monica Catholic:\

Thank you. Maybe I am just too naiive to see it, but I have trusted my gut for 50 years and I trust it now. Still. Still perhaps I am too dumb to see the writing on the wall, if so, it will be revealed…I would be devastated if this was true.

I know I do not need to show you or anyone proof, but maybe I am writing this just for me, to air it. Thank you for listening.

1. I read my husband’s diary. He said he wished this stripper gal would open up to him more, etc.
2. He was looking up her number on Intellius.com to find out her address;
3. I spoke with her, she told me it was “only lap dances” between my h and her…
4. He told me he wanted to have sex with her, but then I found out everything…then it was of course halted…as you know and can imagine…
5. He told all our counselors it was only “lap dances” and never once fessed up, was broken, admitted anything, etc…
6. I feel, I know. I feel yes, he became infatuated with a whore, but yes, he did not have IC. Makes no difference really cuz he still divided his heart to another woman, and this is what hurts the absolute most, that he does not love me with his whole heart. This more than anything shatters me. It would not have made a difference really if he did have sex with this whore, he still left me, emotionally, physically,and this frankly kills my heart, tears it to shreds, and well, breaks my heart and crushes me to no end. I have so much to give a man, and to have it spit in your face well, is really crushing. Why Lord? I ask? Why? You made me capable of love in my heart beyond belief, then you give me a husband who does not love me back? What could be the purpose in this?

 

[Shin]

Sigh, these places should be illegal, they shouldn’t be allowed to exist.

Some things are a mystery… Christ was rejected Himself…

If you had access to a traditional priest with a proper traditional understanding of marriage he might have some good advice to give.

 

[Corinne3]

The c-r-a-p that you women are undergoing makes my current “rough time” seem trivial…

All of you have my sincere prayers…

(Where were you girls when I was a lot younger, anyway? http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v313/ponyguy/thinking.gif ) Not born yet…:nope:

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Dear Pony Guy:

I guess we were off chasing handsome fellows.

It’s nice to know there are some good Catholic men still out there. I hope you are really one pONYgUY. iF YOU ARE, go love your wife with all your heart. This gives me some hope. Frankly, I have given up on men. As there are no good ones today/. They all have some issues, whether it be porn, or etc… No wonder there are so many nuns! I totally do not blame women for becoming nuns today.

 

[Ellen_Catherine]

Thank you everyone, Corinne, jmcrae, others. It’s been such a relief just talking about this! I will talk with my priest about long-term decisions. It would be so much easier if the kids were older, out of the house, on their own – which won’t be for a few years (youngest is only 13). I feel like I have a responsibility to them as their mother and Christian example to maintain the mostly decent life they’ve known and not suddenly dump all this garbage on them especially during their teen years – especially the boys! I can’t imagine what it must be like for a teen boy who is still coming to grips with his manhood to learn that when his father gets moody and irritable it’s because he’s believing that being male is a huge disappointment and wishes he was a woman!

 

[Shin]

Thank you everyone, Corinne, jmcrae, others. It’s been such a relief just talking about this! I will talk with my priest about long-term decisions. It would be so much easier if the kids were older, out of the house, on their own – which won’t be for a few years (youngest is only 13). I feel like I have a responsibility to them as their mother and Christian example to maintain the mostly decent life they’ve known and not suddenly dump all this garbage on them especially during their teen years – especially the boys! I can’t imagine what it must be like for a teen boy who is still coming to grips with his manhood to learn that when his father gets moody and irritable it’s because he’s believing that being male is a huge disappointment and wishes he was a woman!

Honestly, it’s something no child should have to know about a parent, ever, if it can be avoided. Sigh.

But especially then!

Fight the spiritual side of it with spiritual warfare! Keep good old holy water around, pray protection prayers and have a medal of St. Benedict.

 

[Thoma25]

Dear Pony Guy:

I guess we were off chasing handsome fellows.

It’s nice to know there are some good Catholic men still out there. I hope you are really one pONYgUY. iF YOU ARE, go love your wife with all your heart. This gives me some hope. Frankly, I have given up on men. As there are no good ones today/. They all have some issues, whether it be porn, or etc… No wonder there are so many nuns! I totally do not blame women for becoming nuns today.

Odd, I have the same view of most women as you do of men. I suppose a collapse of society’s moral order has something to do with it.

However, female religious orders in this country are largely a joke. They’re more likely to try to realign each other’s chakras with crystals than say the Divine Office. Not to mention the “neo-feminism” undertone. Perhaps that’s why so many are becoming nuns?

 

[Corinne3]

Dear Ellen Catherine (friend):

Gosh how sorry I am for your pain!

I would not tell your sons this by any means. It could shatter them beyond belief.

Just be the best mom possible. Your h is a sick idiot.

Like mine too. Well he has chosen to become, not what he was.

We made severe mistakes when we married them. Now we just need to pray, Lord Your Will be done.

PM me any time at all. I am here for you.

I suggest, just trying to get your life in order. Loving your job, being an active mom, etc. and leaving your h to the Lord. Maybe by our example of holiness, they will become saved. Does he sleep in a separate room? He is totally SICK. I cannot even imagine.

 

[Corinne3]

An update for those of you who care My friends who have been with me thru this whole ordeal. Thank you, and hugs.

We are still living together now for a couple months since our last separation. I still do NOT trust him past my nose, and I am doing all I can to get MY life in order, not worry about him, be a good mom, find a job, etc. I am feeling much better about NOT snooping up on him, as they say in Al-Anon NOT to do, because it devastates your life,. and immobilizes you. YES. It does. Still it is hard, as I do NOT want to be intimate with him because I cannot trust him, at all. YES, there have been times when I craved my husband sexually, so I gave in, but Ce La Vie.

Just a word of thanks today for anyone following my saga. God will provide for me, I know, I trust. Praise be to God,!

Love,
Corinne:thumbsup:

Hope everyone who reads this today is having a good day too!