Should i go to the Club

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Where i live, the clubs usually have what we call a “Teen-Night”, this is when all the teens can go to the club, and NO beer can be served, it’s really a bunch of dancing from what i hear. I have never been, and a few of my friends wanna go. Now i don’t do the whole “Dirty Dancing” thing, i just remember what my youth director told me “Leave room between ya’ll for the holy spirit”. So do ya’ll think it would be OK for me to go?
 
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Only you (and God) can tell the spirit in which you choose to attend any social function. I don’t think anyone would say “Don’t Go”. You must decide the spirit in which you will attend, and be willing and able to depart from any situation which may lead you in a direction you deem unsuitable. God knows your heart, and if you are going to enjoy fellowship with your peers in a godly, and fun, way…more power to you. If your motives are less than pure, you may wish to reconsider. Personally, I’ve had some very interesting opportunities to share the gospel with folks in the strangest of places. It all depends on your intent. Best wishes and godspeed!
 
At the club my neice used to go to, they would let all the girls in, but the boys had to wait in line outside. They didn’t want to have the boys outnumber the girls. So take a jacket if you have to wait outside.
 
When I was your age, I only went to that type of club once. While no alcohol was served, I still think attending such clubs is probably best avoided based on my one visit and based on the wisdom I’ve gained as I’ve matured in my faith. The tempation to sin in other ways besides drinking alcohol is going to be great, considering the lack of parental supervision and the party atmosphere. I do also vividly remember having to be frisked before being allowed to enter. What does that tell you? Obviously, the chances of serious violence happening in such places is a serious concern.

As a parent, I know I will do my best to prevent my children from attending these types of clubs (although that is still a few years down the road since my oldest is only 5). I think getting into the habit of going to non-alcohol serving clubs just increases the chances that you will go bar-hopping when you are of age to drink. While I have never been one to spend alot of time in bars, I strongly believe it’s better to avoid such places.
 
You seem to have a level head since you are asking for advice about going. I think it can be fun, just keep in mind what your youth director told you. You should also get your parents advice because they may know more about the reputation of the club.
 
aww…clubbing…

let me tell you, there have been more than a few debates about this very same issue amongst me and my friends.
the way i look at it is this: I wouldn’t donate my money to a charity which funds something i don’t stand for (like abortion), and for me, clubs promote promiscuity. The music, the dancing around you, the clothing, and the fact that women are often let in for free-all of these things add up to a place i don’t like to support by patronizing. and i’m a women!
personally, i think it would be difficult to try and evangelize while being sardined around half naked bodies and loud music, but maybe someone on these forums thinks differently.
in my mind, you are putting yourself in an establishment very similar to a “gentleman’s club”, and consequently, asking for trouble.
 
I agree entirely with treehugger.
Add to that – These ‘teen’nights’ are simply the club’s way of recruiting teenagers into the adult club lifestyle.
Waste of your time, money, brains, and human dignity. Don’t waste your youth there!
 
My kids and their friends have found ways to have a lot of fun without going to these types of events. They stay away from “parties” at kids houses that are unchaparoned. They do hang out with their group of friends at one anothers houses and parents are always present. They usually watch a movie, play video games and the latest craze Texas Hold 'em Poker. They play for money but only small stakes, losing at the most $2-$5 per night. They have bon fires in the back yard and sit around roasting marshmallows and talking and playing music. They go to the YMCA on occassion to swim and play racketball. They sometimes go bowling or rollerblading or skiiing/snowboarding. They are both teenage boys and their group of friends are of both ages and they like to get together almost every Sunday afternoon for a game of football and to watch the Packers at someone’s house - again with parents present. We feed them and feed them some more as well as make our presence known from time to time without being there to cramp their style. If they get a little loud during a rambunctious game of fooseball we just turn up the TV and smile, knowing they are having a good time.

They have become accustomed to us asking if the parents are home and know that we may follow up with a phone call. They have no interest in going to clubs, yet I don’t know of any around our immediate area.
 
Why can’t the Catholic High Schools have ‘teen nights’? Is the image of having a teen night in the high school building a ‘bad’ thing?

In my ‘former lifestyle’, I used to go clubbing at least once a week and got caught up in the sights and sounds that became an influence on me. I enjoy the music for the beats but the lyrics filter in the head and mind, and later the heart and soul.

It’s a wonder why the music has to have such suggestive lyrics? I have heard some Christian groups put out remixes of their hits (Avalon, ZoeGirl, and Newsboys) and that music is great to dance to AND the message is praising God!

My suggestion, if you attend a Catholic High School, see if your Student Government can host a 'teen night in the gym every other month?

Go with God!
Edwin
 
What kind of club is this? What kind of dancing (if any?)

My opinion… find some place where you can go swing dancing. You’ll have a blast! (And the environment won’t be overly - if at all - something to worry about.)
 
Thought I’d stop in the club.
Could have gone but what for?
They’d have asked me about you;
Don’t get around much anymore.
 
From my memory of what teen night was like, I would say avoid it. My buddy’s and I didn’t have much fun. There seemed to be more fights breaking out at these dry events then when I went to adult clubs and bars (college clubs and bars) in college. My suggestion is to just hold off until you get into college, you’ll be a bit more mature to deal with whats going on around you.
 
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