Should I make many more efforts or just let it go?

[sorrowful1]

A friend that I value so much still won’t talk to me properly. I told her that I’m sorry if I had offended her. That friend is the one who is a devout Protestant who I’ve mentioned about in my previous posts.

I text her messages in a regular interval --sometimes ,out of concern, the other times, because I just miss her. Calling (phone) is like a mission to Mars and so, I depend on messages but that too seems futile.

I want to be angry and hate her for this incredulous behaviour/attitude but all I feel is sadness. " What did I do so wrong? We serve the same God , yet, why aren’t we closer?" .

Didn’t Jesus teach us about loving and forgiving?

Should I continue trying to talk to her or let her go? If I do the latter, wouldn’t I be just like any other who doesn’t believe in the Lord and His teaching?

 

[DeniseNY]

Let it go and pray for her. If/when she wants to make contact, she’ll reach out.

 

[Lou2U]

If she doesn’t want to talk, you can’t force her. Perhaps send her one last message letting her know you won’t keep texting her as she doesn’t want to reply, but that if she ever wants to contact you, she can.

 

[sorrowful1]

@(name removed by moderator) hahaha I thought it was an ad popping up in the middle of these posts…

 

[sorrowful1]

Well, yeah. How true. I can’t force her of course, I’d forgotten that.

 

[1ke]

What did I do so wrong?

Don’t take blame on yourself. You may not have “done” anything. Friendships come and go. Some last longer than others. People grow and change, and sometimes grow apart. She may have things going on in her life you don’t know about.

Don’t assume it is something you said or did. And even if it was something you said or did, it wasn’t necessarily “wrong”.

You can’t control other people.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

The old saying is that friends come into our lives for a reason, for a season, and rarely, for a lifetime.

It sounds like this was a reason-or-season friend and their time to be your friend has passed. Time to let them go and make a new friend.

We all have trouble letting go from time to time, but this person is making it very clear she’s left the building so to speak, so don’t waste any more time chasing after her when she doesn’t respond. And as 1ke said, don’t blame yourself. Most friendships that end don’t have a “good guy” or a “bad guy”, just two people whose lives or interests or thoughts diverged.

You can continue to pray for her and also forgive her for any hurt she caused you. We can still be loving with people in that way, without continuously hounding them to be part of our lives when they just don’t want to.

 

[sorrowful1]

@1ke @Tis_Bearself Okay, how dumb of me to be so clingy. But the drastic change came abruptly after I refused to accept Protestantism (or so I believe). She was still saying we’re friends although she was clearly distancing herself away. From a very lovely and loving one, she changed into such a being.

Or, could be like you said, something could be going on in her life (tried several times to let her know I’ll be “there for her” if needed, though).

Will continue praying for her. I might have appeared like a puppy who follows its owner everywhere. Sigh. But of course, I didnt. There’s something called personal space. Anyway, I’ve finally made up my mind not to irritate her anymore.

 

[Cor_ad_Cor]

Love and forgiveness often means letting people walk away from you (and it sounds like the forgiveness might need to be a two-way action here). Just a lesson I’ve personally had to learn the hard way. I’d second @Lou2U’s advice… one final communique saying I’ll be here if/when you’re ready, no hard feelings.