Should I tell my Cousin that his wife wanted me to do something wrong?

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My Cousin (male) is married to who I thought was my BFF and yesterday she wanted me to file a report on my Cousin’s family’s restaurant pertaining to them not wearing gloves, or hair nets whatever. I told her if she knows this and I don’t, call the T. Resource Commission and they could lead her to the right people and do it that way. She can also be anonymous. Plus, she didn’t want my Cousin to know she was doing this. She already has put blame on me for things that I don’t do to get out of a jam. AND she’s a severe alcoholic and drug user.

My Cousin was fired so she wants revenge. Should I have done what my BFF wanted? Should I tell my Cousin she is wanted to do this? Plus, I’ve been to the restaurant and they wear hair nets and gloves. It’s been awhile.

Please help me in this regard.

Now she is bad mouthing me to my friends, already calls me a fake Christian and more. Plus, I wouldn’t do that for myself. I’ve been fired once in my many years of working and never sought revenge. Just cried because I knew it was undeserved. And that place closed down after I was fired. Strange.

Back to the question. Should I have reported it so if it ever came up I would be blamed? That’s her MO.

Should I tell my Cousin? What would Jesus want me to do. I want to do what is right in the eyes of God.

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Distance yourself from this drama and this lady, pronto.
Pray for her.
I would not mention what she said to anybody as it would just be feeding the drama monster.

In general, it’s a bad idea to do people’s dirty work for them.
My mom used to say, “They make the snowballs and want you to throw them.”
Just say NO.
 
First of all, you don’t know if what the cousin is saying is true. And it is not your job to perform health inspections at the restaurant. If the health violation is true, some customer will soon find hair on their food or something like that, and complain to the health department. That is the normal course of such things so do not do what the cousin tells you to do.
 
They fired him because he’s a preacher helping them out and his duties were getting in the way of the work at the restaurant. He worked hard for them also. I used to watch him. Complicated. Anyway, she called me all kinds of names and said I did her dirty by not doing this and finally she admitted she wanted me to do it and not have my Cousin know because my Cousin would divorce her.

They’re relationship is horrible. He tried to help her get straight but she’s drunk all the time. You have to want to get help. I was trying to help her but if a person doesn’t want it, it is what it is.

I’m Roman Catholic and He’s a non-denominational Preacher.
 
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They fired him because he’s a preacher helping them out and his duties were getting in the way of the work at the restaurant. He worked hard for them also. I used to watch him. Complicated. Anyway, she called me all kinds of names and said I did her dirty by not doing this and finally she admitted she wanted me to do it and not have my Cousin know because my Cousin would divorce her.

They’re relationship is horrible. He tried to help her get straight but she’s drunk all the time. You have to want to get help. I was trying to help her but if a person doesn’t want it, it is what it is.

I’m Roman Catholic and He’s a non-denominational Preacher.
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Yeah. Restraunts don’t fire people who are working hard. Working hard includes showing up when you are supposed to and comming in when you are scheduled. Food service has the highest turnover of any industry.

Also-hairnets are only required for unsecured hair and utensils (including gloves) are only required when handling food that is ready-to-eat. So if you’re putting hamburgers on the grill you do not need to use gloves. You could put the condiments on without using gloves. If you use tongs to handle the cheese you do not need to use gloves. It would only be when handling the bun with your hands that you’d need to use gloves
 
Best not to be in the middle of such controversy. It will only destroy the good relationships you have. May God guide you in the matter for the greatest good.
 
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We are not puppets of other ppl. If it is possible go to lunch w her to see what’s up? If her husband was just fired, that may not be possible. If you can go and see? Then, tell them, they should be doing that or if they are compliant, let it go, you can’t lie.
Her bad mouthing you? Prayfor her. Then, confront her in a good moment.
Scripture says,”If you have ought w your brother (or sister), go to them in Christian love and confront them. If they don’t listen, go back w a witness and try and correct them.”
Make sure you don’t have a log in your eye, trying to remove a stick in theirs. I have that backwards. I’m sleepy now.

God, be w him, as he journeys though this trial. What needs to be exposed, in love, expose it. Let them learn from this trouble. In Jesus name. Amen
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You don’t know his family. They are not very kiind people. His Father died and had money and they are all fighting over who is going to get what. Except for cousin. I really honestly think that had a lot to do with the firing. But still, that is not the problem.

His wife is still causing me problems and now trying to get my Caregiver to not like me. I’m tired of the chaos and drama and want to live in harmony and peace but can’t when she’s around. I don’t know what else to do. She lives near my Caregiver and goes over there a billion times to do who knows what. My caregiver had an operation and M (the woman who is causing me problems) goes over there asking for her pills.

I told my caregiver she has to be the one to stop her because she is supposed to keep her leg up. My Caregiver who is actually my true, BFF says she’s afraid M will do something to her house and is afraid of hurting my Cousin’s wife 's feelings. I told my Caregiver that she will be visited by M if SHE doesn’t put a stop to it. I can’t do it. Caregiver has to do it. Plus, M is afraid of going to jail and told Caregiver to pray to God about it. And pray to St. Michael if she’s afraid.

It is my story because Caregiver said she wanted me to put a stop to it. Aye yi yi…All I want is peace. I’m disabled.

No, I’m not saying anything to anyone except I’m getting severely anxious and depressed. And why isn’t my Caregiver taking up for me?? Instead of a handicapped person and a person in pain is having to deal with this horrible situation??

Blessings
 
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