Should she tell her Priest

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A friend of mine has a parishioner who has been following her in Church and making suggestive facebook postings on her facebook page. This man is a happily married man and the lady has known him and his wife for many years. Should she tell her Priest about this situation ( thinking maybe the Priest could put the ‘fear of God’ in the man. Thank you for help
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How about your friend telling him to bug off and “unfriending” him on FB?
 
And if the stalking continues or escalates, police involvement may be warranted.
 
Such overkill.

Your friend needs to tell the man to knock it off. Then tell his wife if he doesn’t. Maybe she can reign him in. Doubtful that will be necessary.
 
She needs to warn him.
If he doesn’t listen block and tell his wife.
Then tell the priest.
Is how I would handle that!
 
Why is politely ask him to stop never an option? Maybe the guy is just weird in the head and thinks he’s being normal. It pays to be normal before causing a ruckus.
 
Many, many thanks for all your responses, …everyone!

Yes, she has told him to ‘bug off’ and has Un friended and blocked him from her social media.

The question I raised about her possibly telling her Priest was me wondering if there would be anything else she could do to stop this creep in his tracks. I am sure that telling his wife and perhaps the Priest would put a nail in the coffin (so to speak) to end of this man’s nonsense.

Thank you again for your feedback, all of you!

Ali
 
The other reason for telling the priest is that if this man is making a practice of harassing one woman at church, he may well go on to harass others and create unease among female parishioners. Women should be able to attend Mass without worrying that some guy is going to creep on them there.
 
I’d tell the Priest first. And ask him if I should tell his wife and bring division in their marriage and how to do it. The priest is the shepherd of the parishioners, it’s his responsibility to know about such events and advise people on how to handle it best.
 
She should start small then work her way up in these suggestions… You say she has told him to get lost and unfriended him etc. No offence, but is he in full possession of his faculties? Telling the priest is a good idea as he may know if there is any issues there, such as mental health problems or the like and could perhaps steer things. So perhaps, ask the priests advice on what to do and where to go from there before jumping in and telling the wife. Then yes, consider the wife and police if necessary. God bless
 
She should most certainly alert someone at the Church if she feels someone is stalking her. Even if she was to confront him and he was to back off from her, he could turn his attention to someone else.

If it is really serious, she should go to the police.
 
alice.magooey said:
A friend of mine has a parishioner who has been following her in Church and making suggestive facebook postings on her facebook page. This man is a happily married man and the lady has known him and his wife for many years.
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Is it possible that there is misunderstanding going on?

For instance, I post a picture of myself and a happily married man I know posts “You are lovely!” or “Such a beautiful lady!”. To me, that is just a compliment.

Before I go telling his wife and the priest that the man is hitting on me, I’d ask an unbiased 3rd party to see what they think of the comments.
 
Thank you, once again, to all of you for your thoughtful and sensitive responses.

Yes, for myself, I believe that she should tell the Priest before she would ever tell the wife of the man, press charges, etc.

and, yes, “ the little lady “. You are so correct in your sensitive response. Who is to know the exact circumstances except the people actually involved. And there may be some definite misunderstanding here.

To tell the Truth, when she asked my advice, I suggested that she first and foremost, bring it to Jesus before the Blessed Sacramant. That is the place to start. But I wondered if I could be of further assistance , so I came to this forum, because I know people of many experiences help others from this platform.

I will pass on the ideas posted here to the Lady, and pray that the outcome is a Holy one for all involved!

Thank you so much
Alice
 
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