Should Women Wear Skirts?

[HopeFull_Mom]

I think that the way we look at others is far more important than what we think they should wear. It seems like we are so hung up on what each of us thinks is modest or immodest that the real issue gets blurred. I work at a bank and dress code is always a huge topic of contention. Everyone has their own idea of what is acceptable and what isn’t. In one meeting, we actually discused what “properly groomed feet” meant because we are only allowed to wear open shoes if we have properly groomed feet. One person felt this meant dry heels wasn’t properly groomed. Another thought it meant the toe nails needed to be painted. I couldn’t help but think this was extremely silly. I feel the same way when I hear hose vs. no hose or tanned legs vs. white ones discussed. What do those things really have to do with modesty? What difference does see-thru nylon or darker skin tone make?

I guess I feel like delving into skirts vs. pants can quickly and easily lead to judging others or even perhaps creating excuses for lustful looks or thoughts. I used to feel offended or bothered by immodestly dressed people but this honestly just led to my judging them.

I think my energy is far better spent contemplating the true value of others rather than trying to determine the true value of particular pieces of clothing or styles of dress.

 

[Jay2]

Everyone has their own idea of what is acceptable and what isn’t. In one meeting, we actually discused what “properly groomed feet” meant because we are only allowed to wear open shoes if we have properly groomed feet.

And when did “$1.99 flip-flops” become acceptable footwear in the workplace?.. I’m sorry, but about 99% of the population have ugly feet, myself included.

The “modest/immodest” argument will go on as long as the sun shines. It is up to the employer to set a dress code, make it a part of their employment agreement, enforce it, and stand by it (you signed this agreement) when you agreed to work here.

If the dress code says “no open toed shoes” - it means just that (regardless of the grooming of your feet) - no open toed shoes.

In my office our receptionist is a very pretty gal, that has been lets say “blessed” with generous female attributes - north & south… there’s no hiding it. She’s 20-something, and dresses within office decorum, but unless she’s wearing a burlap potato sack somebody/somewhere on initial contact would label her as immodest/flaunty. About 90 seconds later after talking with her you’d realize there’s a whole lot more than boobs & butt with this gal - you’ll be sliced/diced & fricasseed - if you cross her turf… kinda like the character “Jennifer (Loni Anderson) on WKRP in Cincinnati” was.

So what is the real argument? Conceal your femininity - be shapeless & plain? Or… dress nicely (accentuating or attenuating your femininity) within the boundaries??

It’s a fact of nature that the males of our species will look at females. Another truth (maybe not fact) is that males are usually physically attracted before emotionally. You could have identical twin gals… one “done up”, the other “plain”… which one is 85% of the guys going to go for? Be honest.

 

[SeekerJen]

In my office our receptionist is a very pretty gal, that has been lets say “blessed” with generous female attributes - north & south… there’s no hiding it. She’s 20-something, and dresses within office decorum, but unless she’s wearing a burlap potato sack somebody/somewhere on initial contact would label her as immodest/flaunty. About 90 seconds later after talking with her you’d realize there’s a whole lot more than boobs & butt with this gal - you’ll be sliced/diced & fricasseed - if you cross her turf… kinda like the character “Jennifer (Loni Anderson) on WKRP in Cincinnati” was.

So what is the real argument? Conceal your femininity - be shapeless & plain? Or… dress nicely (accentuating or attenuating your femininity) within the boundaries??

It’s a fact of nature that the males of our species will look at females. Another truth (maybe not fact) is that males are usually physically attracted before emotionally. You could have identical twin gals… one “done up”, the other “plain”… which one is 85% of the guys going to go for? Be honest.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Thank you on behalf of us ladies who as you put it, are “blessed…north and south”. We did not ask for this, we do not generally regard it as a blessing, we don’t like to be gawked at, quite frankly we’d trade in a minute for a less-shapely body. I’m tired of being made to feel as though my body is automatically sinful and filthy because I’m built like my mother, and her mother before her, and her mother before her. Like you’ve said, there’s no way to hide it unless I wear a sack, and even then it the sack will just make everything obvious by draping off of it.

So the answer is…? Make myself as ugly as possible? Dress normally? Dress like a harlot because I’ve already got the body for it and that’s bad enough?

Anyone?

 

[CarolAnnSFO]

So the answer is…? Make myself as ugly as possible? Dress normally? Dress like a harlot because I’ve already got the body for it and that’s bad enough?

Anyone?

Just dress normally. If your attire is suitable for the occasion, and others infer immodesty on your part simply because of the shape God gave you, then it’s definitely their problem, not yours.

 

[HopeFull_Mom]

Just dress normally. If your attire is suitable for the occasion, and others infer immodesty on your part simply because of the shape God gave you, then it’s definitely their problem, not yours.

I agree completely.