Should you honour your mother and father even when away studying?

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if you where living on your own. yet you were visited by a parent and came back once in awhile whilst for holidays.Are you oblige to honour your parents regardless by doing any regular commandments despite your departure?
 
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You should always honor your father and mother. It is the Fourth Commandment. (Fifth if you’re Protestant.)
 
when I was asking about Christ not attending his mother and cousin’s request when they was looking from him. Christ proclaim that the he who does the will of the father is his mother and brothers. one apologist stated that you didn’t have to do what you parents told you to do when you have moved out the house. meaning that he did honour his mother and father moving out whilst not going to his mother. so since the person has moved out to study does this mean he will still have to keep the commandments of what his parents say?
 
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It depends.
Sometimes when people have moved out to attend school, they are still minors, who should obey their parents unless it is an abusive situation.

Sometimes, people who have moved out are no longer minors, but they are dependent on their parents for their support. In those cases, the person who is living off his parent’s money should reasonably respect his parent’s wishes. If he can’t do that then he should either discuss with his parent or stop taking the money.

Once a person has reached legal age and is self-supporting and independent, he no longer has to obey what his parents say and can make his own choices. However, he still has to treat his parents with respect and it would also perhas be prudent to at least consider their advice, since parents usually have their children’s best interest at heart. Even if you end up rejecting their advice, at least give it some thought.
 
I still honoured my parents all their lives and showed them the respect they deserved. I didn’t obey them when I became an adult but they made that easy by not ordering me to do anything.

Now they’re in my past and no longer here in body I miss the chance to honour them in person. Make the most of their company now, time slips by fast.
 
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That’s awesome that you’re paying your own rent, paying your own utilities, paying your own tuition bills, and wrangling your own job while being a student at the same time. 😉

If that’s not the case, then perhaps you’re not as independent as you feel. “Leaving the nest” is not a matter of “moving out” from one roof to another roof; it’s a matter of becoming a self-sustaining adult, and allowing your parents to transition from child-rearers into a new phase of life. But they always remain your parents, and are entitled to honor and respect, which usually takes the form of being considerate and dutiful.

That doesn’t mean that if my mom tells me to kick a puppy, I’m obligated to kick a puppy, regardless of whose roof I live under. But if my mom tells me to “put away my phone and spend a few minutes in conversation”, then, yeah, that’s the polite thing to do, regardless of whether I’m under their roof, whether they’re paying for a different roof, or whether I’m paying 100% for my own roof.
 
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if you where living on your own. yet you were visited by a parent and came back once in awhile whilst for holidays.Are you oblige to honour your parents regardless by doing any regular commandments despite your departure?
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You should always honor your mom and dad.

While you are financially dependent on them, they should also be obeyed. But you can let that requirement go when you are no longer “under their house”.
 
To keep everything balanced, encourage your parents to attend mass and strengthen themselves spiritually. This way you know their guidance is solid.
 
We should always honour our parents. Exactly how that looks depends on the situation.

In most cases, if you’re a minor, that means obeying your parents. If you’re over 18 and living in their home, that means abiding by their rules. If you’re having your education financed by them, that means working hard and doing well.

If you’re an adult and living on your own, honouring your parents generally means praying for them and visiting them if possible.

Now, if your parents are abusive or toxic, honouring them could simply mean praying for their conversion. Hubby and I don’t see his father as FIL is, sad to say, not a nice man. There’s a LONG history of problems with him. Hubby and I honour him by praying for his conversion and salvation. We choose not to see him as it’s not healthy for us to do so.
 
Parents are entitled to nothing, as their children are also entitled to nothing. To honor your parents you need to be realistic. If you lived under their roof you need to obey them provided they don’t pressure to go against your Catholic beliefs. If you live on your own you DONT need to obey them but you need to give them the time.of day, visit, help support if they need financial help. If you are overseas, a phone call and prayers, a letter or so will show them honor and love.

But if you live on your own, living your life and taking care of your self is for you to determine, not your parents.

In my case, I dont have a relationship really with my parents. But I pray for their highest intentions and conversion. I send a card here and there. When I communicate with them I try to be respectful (but not a pushover). Our relationship doesn’t really go beyond that right now. Highly dysfunctional relationship.
 
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One of the hardest relationships is the parent child one especially when the child has become a young adult. The relationship has to change from child/parent to adult/adult as the “child” has other responsibilities and duties as an adult that he/she needs to prioritise.
 
@Hodos, I only read the Catechism of the Catholic Church. For me, there is no other.
 
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I only read the Catechism of the Catholic Church. For me, there is no other.
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No one said you have to preach, teach, or confess it. I was only demonstrating that you are misrepresenting the Protestant belief. I am also confident you would find the Small Catechism’s explanation of the Fourth Commandment to be thoroughly Catholic in its teaching.
 
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I have parents who are polar opposites so it’s kinda funny trying to honor them both 🤣
 
Then let’s clarify, @Hodos.

To whom are you referring when you use the word “Protestant”?

When I was growing up, Christians were either Catholic or Protestant. There was no debate over who could rightly be called Protestant and who couldn’t. If you weren’t Catholic, you were Protestant and proud to be recognized as such. Unlike today, no one took offense at the label. No one demanded they be referred to by other names.

As I said in my previous post, honor thy father and thy mother is the 5th Commandment if you are a Protestant. It is the 4th Commandment for Catholics.
 
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To whom are you referring when you use the word “Protestant”?
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I didn’t use the word Protestant, you did. I then referred to the Small Catechism, written by Martin Luther, who you would brand as Protestant, to demonstrate that for us, this is the 5th Commandment. Its not my fault if you are making sweeping generalizations not backed up by facts.
 
Yes, I assumed you meant Martin Luther’s catechism. As I said, the only Catechism I read is the Catechism of the Catholic Church. For me, there is no other. I didn’t say that Protestant denominations don’t have catechisms. Just that the only one I care to read is the one the Catholic Church has.

Again, if you will read my earlier posts, I stated correctly that it is the 5th Commandment for Protestants. (Martin Luther was the father of the Protestant Reformation.) For Catholics, it is the 4th Commandment.

I don’t know what it is you wish me to prove. But you can look up any information you need to know about Martin Luther and the Protestant Reformation online, in your local library or in any current encyclopedia.
 
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