Simple guestures of affection between marrieds

[Greenfields]

Marrieds,do you hold hands with your spouse when out in public,walking etc?
It warms my heart when I see couples I know show small gestures of caring and affection to one another

 

[Tis_Bearself]

I did when I was married. I also liked to sit close to my husband when we were hanging out with family, etc.

I have noticed other couples including my brother and sister-in-law do not do this. It’s not that they don’t love each other, I think it is a personal preference thing.

I know I don’t really like to kiss in public, even momentarily, or watch others do it, even momentarily - it squicks me out especially if there’s any kissy face or kissy noise - so I can understand that we all have our own personal preferences for showing affection. I have been that way about kissing my whole life and even asked my wedding photographer to please refrain from taking any kissy-face wedding shots of either us or our relatives.

 

[Peonies]

My husband and I hold hands on the table at restaurants while waiting for our food to come. We have done that since our dating years and it makes me really happy.

 

[twoangels]

Hand holds. Arms around shoulders. Hugs. Head momentarily on shoulder. Quick pecks on the lips, forehead, cheek. This is totally the norm for us.

 

[Wesrock]

Hand holds. Arms around shoulders. Hugs. Head momentarily on shoulder. Quick pecks on the lips, forehead, cheek. This is totally the norm for us.

This is what my wife and I do. We’re not always holding hands or doing these things, but we do them.

 

[Pattylt]

Married 46 years and always hold hands while walking!

We’re not much into PDA’s but will on rare occasions give a quick kiss in public.

And we giggle together while people watching. People can be errr…entertaining.

 

[TheLittleLady]

With you!!

DH and I like to sit close to each other, and in more recent years (since his heart failure) holding hands is pretty much a given.

We are NOT public kissy folks, at all. Maybe a peck goodbye or hello.

 

[Greenfields]

Which is why I typed simple and small guestures If it was more than a peck I would look away quickly.
Little smiles,touches of endearment between spouses gives a kind of encouragement and hope to other people I feel,that the marriage has held onto the love and affection over the years ,endured.
So ,know that it does the rest of us good ,folks

 

[Tis_Bearself]

It’s nice that you feel encouraged when you see such nice things. But remember that appearances can be very deceiving. If you don’t know the couple then you have no idea if they’re sincere, or what their relationship is truly like when they’re at home alone.

Some of the people I’ve known who were always being very romantic turned out to have not so good marriages or break up. And vice versa.

 

[Greenfields]

That’s sad for sure ,but I mean not romantic but actually caring.

 

[ShrodingersCat]

Aside from some embarrassing PDA fails as an 18 year old in the early days of dating…

As marrieds, we hold hands or walk with arms around each other if we are alone. With friends, we will kiss goodbye if one of us leaves the party early (I always get tired first and head home to bed), but that’s about it.

 

[Prodigal_Son]

My wife and I make a point of not hiding from our children that we are in love with each other. Sometimes the kids come and hug us while we’re kissing (which is adorable), and sometimes they say “Ewww.” But most importantly, I think they get to see the example of two adults integrating their sexuality into a loving relationship.

I honestly feel like it is hard for children to develop a healthy adult sexuality if they do not observe healthy and centered couples who don’t hide their love for each other.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

It’s a misnomer to say that people who are not touchy, or who are private about it, are either unsexual or are hiding their love. You and your wife sound like you’re just being yourselves, which is fine. Growing up I saw a lot of different people and parents, from all different cultural backgrounds and social strata, as well as different personalities. All these things influenced whether Mom and Dad showed their love by hugging and kissing in front of the kids, or showed their love by having a spirited conversation and reserved the hugging and kissing for the bedroom.

My father was an extremely reserved WASP. He would give my mother a kiss good morning and a kiss goodnight. From what I understand she had asked him at some point to please do that because she thought it was a nice habit and made her feel appreciated. He willingly made sure to do so because it made her happy. But he would not have come up with that idea on his own. It wasn’t his culture - when we visited in his part of the country we saw dozens of men who acted just like he did. But the love between my parents was obvious from the fact that they spent a lot of time together and talked, interacted all the time, etc. without touching a lot.

It didn’t have much effect on my own preferences for how I wanted to act with a boyfriend though. I would say my parents behavior towards me personally, meaning that they both would frequently give me a hug or other physical affection all through my childhood, was more of a factor.

 

[Prodigal_Son]

It’s a misnomer to say that people who are not touchy, or who are private about it, are either unsexual or are hiding their love.

That could be. I don’t know every way to display a healthy approach to sexuality. I just know that a lot of Christian married couples don’t feel comfortable as sexual beings themselves, and communicate this lack of comfort to their children.