Simple Question about discerning a vocation

[Podo2005]

Is it wrong to date or explore other options if you think you might have a call? Also should you feel guilty doing this?

Thanks

 

[CarmeliteGirl25]

If you are not sure if you have a vocation to religious/consecrated life or the priesthood, then yes, it would be ok to date until you are sure one way or another. I don’t think you need to feel guilty in this situation.

However, if you are sure you have a definite attraction/calling to a vocation in the Church, it would be wise to refrain from dating since dating is supposed to help with the vocation of marriage. I’ve heard many stories from current Sisters and priests that they knew they had a vocation, but they decided to date anyway. They did feel guilty about it because they felt they were turning away from Jesus and doing their own will.

God gave us free will, so what you do is your choice, but for the future of the Church, if you have a vocation to religious/consecrated life or the priesthood, you would do well to go after it. Since there is a long period of discernment (generally 7-9 years before final vows or consecration), you can always leave if you find you do not have a call. You cannot, however, leave your marriage vows if you want to discern a vocation.