Single Woman Wearing a "Wedding Band"

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I’ve read that some single women choose to wear what would appear to be a wedding band as a means of warding off potential suitors or avoiding harassment. Is deception of this nature problematic?
 
Anybody can wear whatever jewelry they want. I don’t see how their reasons are anyone’s business.
 
I had a plain white gold ring it wasn’t a wedding band just a ring.

I would sometimes put it on my left hand so men wouldn’t talk to me.

Once on a beach. I was alone and I didn’t feel like making small talk.

Would it be better to say, “you’re annoying me, go away?”

I really wouldn’t worry about what women do to avoid unwanted chatter.

No one is owed attention.
 
No it shouldn’t be.

I know that women get advised to wear wedding bands when traveling to certain countries to avoid getting harassed verbally or groped.

Yes it happens and happens a lot. I should know. I experienced it.
 
It’s not deception. Anybody of any marital status is allowed to wear any type of ring on any finger they want. There’s no rule about rings or fingers being reserved only to the married.
 
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Personally I think it’s immature.
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My mom was married a long time. Her husband died, so then she was single.
After he died she chose to keep wearing her engagement and wedding rings.
Do you think that’s immature?

Nuns are single.
Traditionally they wore a wedding band as a sign of their commitment to the Church as “brides of Christ”.
Do you think that’s immature?
 
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You know what’s actually problematic here? When men can’t leave women alone and won’t take ‘no’ for an answer and that women feel they have to pretend to ‘belong’ to another man in order to get some men to leave them alone.
 
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wear what would appear to be a wedding band as a means of warding off potential suitors or avoiding harassment.
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@Tis_Bearself My reply is to this, not to widow keeping her ring. My grandmother also keep wearing her ring and ring of my grandpa who died.
I still do think it is immature in context of OP’s description and I knew girls who did that. Girls who want someone to leave them alone or to avoid potential dating for some time because they don’t want any relationship at the moment, to back off someone who is annoying etc.
If somebody wants to harass someone the ring isn’t stop sign and there are better alternatives for self-defense for that.
Did I anywhere mentioned nuns?
Obviously most of nuns wear habits and you don’t have to see their hands to notice that they aren’t for dating. So that isn’t kind of question here.

I’ve been harassed but never got an idea to wear wedding band to avoid that even when I was surrounded with friends who did it. I used pepper spray when that was necessary and police actions when someone wouldn’t stop. Some things didn’t end up well for me and one ring wouldn’t help me at all to be protected back in that time.

I think I can have my own opinion based on what I have experienced and saw.
 
Maximian said:
There used to be an offence called “Jactitation of Marriage “
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“Jactitation” — that is the second new vocabulary word I’ve learned on CAF today!

If this keeps up, we are going to have to start a cause for the canonization of William F Buckley Jr, and then make him the patron saint of Catholic Answers Forum!

I always loved his approach — if you don’t understand a word I use, go get your dictionary and look it up! Incredibly articulate man with a unique way of speaking, sheer enjoyment to listen to.
 
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Yet it’s still women’s fault if they take steps to prevent this harassment.
 
Sarcelle said:
Yet it’s still women’s fault if they take steps to prevent this harassment.
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Same reason that before we were married my wife used to work out a gym known as a “gay gym.” (Not like a sex venue, just a place known for having a ton of gay male patrons.)

Only place she could work out with being constantly hit on.
 
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Yet it’s still women’s fault if they take steps to prevent this harassment.
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Right, and if women choose to try to head it off at the pass by just the simple act of wearing a ring, then others, as shown by this thread, will decide they are “immature” or try to accuse them of committing a sin. Women just can’t win.
 
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My ring is my best defense at the pool/beach and gym! I originally wore it because I just liked the ring, but I’ve had a couple guys get very upset with me when they mention my boyfriend/fiance and I’ve told them I just wear the ring because I like it. I don’t even wear it on the right finger for them to be upset about me “lying to the world”. So now I wear it because 1) I’m not interested in dating and it seems to apparently be effective and 2) even though I’m not interested if some guy approaches me and actually takes the “I’m wearing it because I like it” well then at least that’s a point in their favor.
 
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