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skigirl1689
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My sister is in her final semester of college, and she started dating this guy who seems to be really nice, though I’ve only met him once and it was just basic introductions, so I don’t know him at all. My sister has only dated one other guy for a month last year, and I think she was getting nervous she wouldn’t meet someone in college.
My sister is very religious (we’re both Lutheran as is our mom; Dad is a Christian but does not attend church), but her boyfriend, in her words, is “not religious.” To me this is a huge red flag. She told my mom she already told her boyfriend that she will be raising her kids Christian and will take them to church until they are on their own. She also brought him to a college Bible study at the church where both of us attended/attend during college (all my siblings went to the same college). She did not say how that went.
Knowing how people judged me when growing up due to my dad not going to church with us, I think it’s a bad idea for her to think of marriage with this guy no matter how great he is. At least my dad fully supported our faith, and we share the belief in Christ. He said prayers with us every night when we were little, and he still reminds us to pray, in addition to having open conversations about faith issues with us. I cannot imagine not having parenting issues when one spouse is not a believer.
I am aware, and I assume she is too, of the dangers of being unequally yoked in a marriage. I think it is a bit different when it’s a denominational difference, but I would think she would have came out and said if he was at least a Christian or had a Christian background, but she didn’t.
So my dilemma: do I tell her how I feel and most assuredly upset her, perhaps even damaging our relationship, or just say nothing and pray it works out for the best? I am sure my dad warned or will warn her, but I feel burdened by this, though I know it is her life and she will have to live with whatever the consequences are. Plus, who am I to give advice as I have never dated or been in a relationship because I have a significant disability and the opportunity has never presented itself?
My sister is very religious (we’re both Lutheran as is our mom; Dad is a Christian but does not attend church), but her boyfriend, in her words, is “not religious.” To me this is a huge red flag. She told my mom she already told her boyfriend that she will be raising her kids Christian and will take them to church until they are on their own. She also brought him to a college Bible study at the church where both of us attended/attend during college (all my siblings went to the same college). She did not say how that went.
Knowing how people judged me when growing up due to my dad not going to church with us, I think it’s a bad idea for her to think of marriage with this guy no matter how great he is. At least my dad fully supported our faith, and we share the belief in Christ. He said prayers with us every night when we were little, and he still reminds us to pray, in addition to having open conversations about faith issues with us. I cannot imagine not having parenting issues when one spouse is not a believer.
I am aware, and I assume she is too, of the dangers of being unequally yoked in a marriage. I think it is a bit different when it’s a denominational difference, but I would think she would have came out and said if he was at least a Christian or had a Christian background, but she didn’t.
So my dilemma: do I tell her how I feel and most assuredly upset her, perhaps even damaging our relationship, or just say nothing and pray it works out for the best? I am sure my dad warned or will warn her, but I feel burdened by this, though I know it is her life and she will have to live with whatever the consequences are. Plus, who am I to give advice as I have never dated or been in a relationship because I have a significant disability and the opportunity has never presented itself?
