Sleeping in same house?

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Is it proper for a young woman and man to sleep in the same house, even with family members and or friends present, when they are dating and or contemplating marriage.
 
It is fine as long as they are living like brother and sister.
Uhh thats just sounds ickyyyyyy.
Basically they need to be chaste.

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There is a possibility of a near-occasion of sin for them, and it would probably be better to not try this.

However, merely sleeping in the same house is not inherently sinful.

I have “camped” out in friends’ houses many times with guys in one room and gals in another (or guys on one floor, gals on another floor). I would certainly advise against all being in the same room, however…

In the case of a dating couple, if they have traveled to visit family I don’t see a problem with them being housed in different rooms in the same house, with other family present. Of course, housing in different homes is a fine idea too 🙂

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In the case of a dating couple, if they have traveled to visit family I don’t see a problem with them being housed in different rooms in the same house, with other family present. Of course, housing in different homes is a fine idea too 🙂

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My girlfriend and I have done this three times now at each other’s houses (her family is in CA and mine is in WA) and there hasn’t been a problem. I think it’s perfectly fine so long as there are relatives in the home around bedtime. Believe me, any thoughts I might have had about sneaking into her room were quickly extinguished by the thought of her father introducing me to his trusty sidearm… that and potentially losing sanctifying grace. lol. But such thoughts lasted only for about a second. I was just very happy to be accepted into the tribe (and happy that she’d been accepted into mine) and very happy that she was a room away, which is a lot closer than the usual 30 miles 😃
 
It depends on the situation and your own strength of willpower - it is really a precaution against temptation. On a Habitat for Humanity trip during the summer I slept in a girl’s room one night when I was locked out of my room. I had no other option, and the priest who led our group told me to! This wasn’t a sin and didn’t lead me to have any sinful thoughts.
 
It’s not wrong. I think one’s ability to resist temptation is more praiseworthy than a habit of going to extremes to avoid the possibility of temptation.

And you need to make sure you are compatible with your potential spouse’s family, so if they live several hours away from you then your only choice is to visit the family and probably stay the night. Perhaps you could find alternative accommodation in a nearby hotel but I would say some would find this more tempting than sleeping in the house with the family!
 
Yeah, but as a not-so-strong Catholic at age 15-16, I did this and was BAAAD. Got caught once too. Very embarassing.

I’m scared to have a daughter just thinking what she could be doing as my ex-gf did when she was that age. I hope I can raise her to not, but…

She didn’t have really strong Catholic convictions, either. As bad as Catholic ‘guilt’ is, I can’t imagine what keeps a protestant teen from resisting thos powerful hormones…
 
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