Sleeping together

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My advice would be…please please be careful.

NOONE IN THE WORLD is worth you committing a mortal sin.

Don’t do anything that will increase your chance of sinning and taint your beautiful purity. PLEASE.

Also, would he really be that much of a good father?

Being a good dad is more than just playing with your children; it’s about helping them be good people and help get them to Heaven, which can only be achieved by doing God’s will. How much would he encourage them to do that?

I don’t think he would be a fantastic husband either. He is already asking you to compromise your moral standpoint…unless he converts it will only get worse.

I would say do not be afraid of leaving him.

I would be so so unhappy to have married a non-Catholic. I don’t see how it is possible, if you truely believe in the Church, to be happy in the knowledge that you are marrying someone who just doesn’t care about that at all, and wont cooperate with you. How can you truely connect with him as a husband and wife should?

just my 2 cents

God Bless you and keep your eyes focused ALWAYS on Jesus.
 
If he does not respect your desire for moral purity then he does not love you. It is that simple.

If you are willing to uproot your life and take the expense even if it is not fully for him (only mostly) and he is not willing to go through the expense and time and education to do the same for you then he does not love you. It is that simple.

When a man is in-love he will do anything for the woman that he loves. Nothing is too hard. If he is not willing to slay the dragon (so to speak) for you then he does not truly love you.

Yin Yangmom is 100% correct. Also the comment about the “BS” alarm sounding is 100% correct. While it is true that you may be able to have a relationship and it may be true that you two may be able to enter into marriage it does not mean that love and respect will follow. If it is not there now then don’t expect it to be there in the future.

Also, as many of my friends have found (and found out the hard way) marriage outside of the faith is never a good idea.
 
you are soooo right.
i have reflected on all the tiny little reasons that might suggest he is a control freak and I have come up with a very long list… very long… including that very neat- unnaturally perfectly clean- apartment of his- something that impressed me at first but now I see it as part of a big warning sign “control freak” - a control that extends to his girlfriends as well. Thank goodness I am in another country. If I had realised this over there maybe it would have been harder to escape. I can’t believe I ignored all the signs. I saw them and just explained them away- even turned them into positive things. like “my-my-how nice it is to see a man with such a clean house” (no offence boys) 😉
Still havent spoken to him about it all. I don’t want to totallyend things just yet as I do care about him and I do want to try and encourage him to look at Catholicism. There has got to be a reason why God brought us together. But as far as I am concerned, this relationship is taking a huge turn.

Thank you for all your honest, frank replies and your ongoing support. Thank you for the prayers- things are getting clearer.
 
laurenzia said:
you are soooo right.
i have reflected on all the tiny little reasons that might suggest he is a control freak and I have come up with a very long list… very long… including that very neat- unnaturally perfectly clean- apartment of his- something that impressed me at first but now I see it as part of a big warning sign “control freak” - a control that extends to his girlfriends as well. Thank goodness I am in another country. If I had realised this over there maybe it would have been harder to escape. I can’t believe I ignored all the signs. I saw them and just explained them away- even turned them into positive things. like “my-my-how nice it is to see a man with such a clean house” (no offence boys) 😉
Still havent spoken to him about it all. I don’t want to totallyend things just yet as I do care about him and I do want to try and encourage him to look at Catholicism. There has got to be a reason why God brought us together. But as far as I am concerned, this relationship is taking a huge turn.

Thank you for all your honest, frank replies and your ongoing support. Thank you for the prayers- things are getting clearer.
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Smart lady! I’m impressed with you. I agree with all the other guys on this thread, this guy isn’t good marriage material, and sleeping in the same bed is an old trick.
 
laurenzia said:
… There has got to be a reason why God brought us together. But as far as I am concerned, this relationship is taking a huge turn.
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It could be that God is trying to show you what type of guy you do NOT want to end up with… part of finding the right guy is knowing what type of guy you do NOT want…

Same thing goes for jobs,… I worked at several jobs I hated and whenever I job hunted, I tried not to get into positions that I recognized as not a good fit. After 4 or 5 jobs, I got into the type of job I liked.
 
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