So I think I mine is marriage

[Argh]

Hey there everyone!

So I think my vocation is marriage. I thought and prayed about becoming a priest, but it didn’t quite seem to fit. I think the best advice to discernment came from a Relevent Radio interview where a priest on the line (I don’t know who. however) suggested for people to picture themselves in that role (i.e. as a priest, nun, virgin, husband/wife) and see how you feel. Whenever I picture myself giving communion, a homily, all the other sacraments as a priest, I picture myself doing it well, but it doesn’t feel quite right. When I think of myself in a contemplative role, it really doesn’t feel right.

But, when I picture myself married, it…how to exactly say it…gives me a sense of joy.

Now on to my actual question!

So my GF and I have been going out for over a year (one year and…oh gosh…I cant remmber when we started dating, shes gunna kill me). We met, actaully, at the campus Newman Center. The story is kinda neat and bears mentioning, i think. So after being alone for a long time and not being able to find a nice Catholic girl, I started going to the Aquinas Club (apologetics club) in hopes of finding one…yeah…not the best intention, I know, but the first night I went I walked my GF home! Anyways, so eventually we BOTH kinda sorta eventually started to speak of marrying each other as possibility.

However, I’m 22, shes 20, and we both have lots of school left to go because both of us want to pursue a post-grad degree. What should we do? Half of me is getting impatient. We’ve made some major mistakes in the touchy feely sorta way, pretty bad touchy feely mistakes (keep this PG) actually. We’re really really sorry about it, and we keep having to go to confession together. Now the OTHER half is kinda anxious about the whole thing, but I guess thats natural. I don’t have my degree quite yet ( one more semester) and pursuing AT LEAST my masters is my plan and that means…no real job for a while. Furthermore, I come from a divorced family. My mom JUST divorced my stepfather of like 11 years, too. Im gunshy, so to speak. Suggestions? Help!?

 

[andy314]

Are you both rushed and anxious? What’s the rush? I’m 23 and I’ve heard everyone say, “You’re so young.” I guess it’s not the age that should be one’s reason to wait, but I think you two ought to give it up to God and be completely open to his timing. As humans we become impatient about lots of things. I’m trying to discern between a call to priesthood or marriage and I want to know now! But I know that God’s time is different than mine.

You both seem to be in a good place in your faith. You’ve made mistakes, but you’ve been to confession, one of the coolest sacraments in my opinion. As for marriage, you do have some time, even though it can get anxious. Your situation might change as far as getting a job or going to school, but I am not sure if the time will ever seem “just right”. There’s a point when you’ll have to take the plunge and do it. Pray about it together and ask for the gift of patience. If the Lord’s will is for you to be together, you will be. If it is so, you’ll spend the rest of your lives together, what’s another year or two?