Somewhat hypothetical situation...porn

[GratefulDad]

sometimes I’d walk in the room…and I’d talk to my kid…and she wouldn’t respond…i’d walk right up to her…and nothing…I’d pull her away with a ‘helloooo…earth to jaylie’ and she’d look at me and -OATMEAL- complete oatmeal brains…

after a couple of those I was just like man!! this is ALL bad…lol…so I cut down on TV all together…I dont know if i could cut it completely out, just because the house gets so lonely and quiet…but…yeah…TV=OATMEAL BRAINS!!

Yep, I know what you mean. Keep up the great work. It will pay off.

 

[MercyMia]

Also, not to mention that if you are open to life with every union as husband and wife (as we all should be…) do you really want the memory of the conception of your child being spurred on by some less than wholesome flick?
At the end of the day, it is wrong because it does not speak to the dignity of the person. Nobody should be an ends to our own means.

Charlotte -If you are looking for some TV shows for your daughter, EWTN kids in the afternoon isn’t bad.
Also, for you, have you read Theology of the Body or at least the Christopher West books that outline the basic ideas? I highly reccomend.

 

[jenlovesyu]

I’ve had friends tell me (they watch with their boyfriends/husbands) that they forgot the DVD in the TV…the next morning the kids get up and turn on the TV and BOOM! they get an eyeful front and center… I’d DIE!!

thats gotta mess a kid up…for awhile…

Sounds like one of my first pornograpgy experiences

I can’t remember how old I was but I was for sure in elementary school when my older sisters found some of my parents’ porn tapes and played them in the VCR.
It’s not like I wasn’t use to this junk because my mother always looked the other way when my sisters and I watched shows on HBO like Sex and the City. Just the title alone should give you enough info on what the show is about.

But yes Charlotte, you are a very smart and loving mother for wanting to protect your daughter from that filth. As far as sex is concerned, my mother was absolutely passive about it. Wouldn’t give us sex talks other than, “oh just use a condom.” What does that do for me and my sisters? Sends us through hell. Teaches us that it’s OK for guys to treat us like sex objects. I kid you not, me and the sisters of mine who were exposed to this junk have all been in dysfuntional relationships with guys who have used and abused us sexually.

For people who think that porn doesn’t have despicable affects on people, it absolutely does. I can only imagine what kind of damage it can do for marriages. Porn is all about lust and money. Has nothing to do with love and respect.

 

[pigpen]

I have a few thoughts and opinions about your husband’s porn use.

1. Have you considered the harm it does to him and his soul? Or are you only considering the (name removed by moderator)act (or apparent lack of impact) on you?
2. There is a long term impact of porn abuse on a man’s sexual performance.
3. Did you ever know anyone who said “when I grow up I want to make a career in porn”? The women who pose are likely in poor circumstances in their lives, and would likely not choose this degrading career if they had any real options. Someone is exploiting those bad circumstances, and men like your husband are paying them to exploit those women. Shouldn’t this matter to your husband, to you?
4. Stop and consider how intimate it really is - do you really believe it is not an imtimacy for a man to view another woman’s sexual parts, or watch another couple engaged in sex, all while touching himslef and gratifying himself as he does so? Really? Not intimate? Is it really not imtimate as long as he’s not touching anyone, just himself?

Here’s a good link for you, “6 Myths About Pornography”

stanford.wellsphere.com/relationships-sex-article/6-myths-about-pornography/20311

 

[r4j]

I heard a priest explain that the word ‘pornography’ has its origin in ‘porno’ which when traced back comes from the word for ‘devil’ and ‘grahia’ means ‘pictures’ - devil’s pictures.
I think of the book of Tobit and how Tobias approached Sarah after her other husbands had died on their wedding night when they approach her in the bridal chamber and how Tobias got on his knees with Sarah and prayed on their wedding night ‘that God you know I approach her with noble intentions, not out of lust’.
True love, true love making is self donation - not self gratifying.

 

[Charlotte408]

Pigpen it was ‘hypothetical’…I’m not married…but I do have friends that are in relationships (non catholic and cohabitating) so…I more or less asked for insight to hit them with…but good insight…thnx.

I heard a priest explain that the word ‘pornography’ has its origin in ‘porno’ which when traced back comes from the word for ‘devil’ and ‘grahia’ means ‘pictures’ - devil’s pictures.
I think of the book of Tobit and how Tobias approached Sarah after her other husbands had died on their wedding night when they approach her in the bridal chamber and how Tobias got on his knees with Sarah and prayed on their wedding night ‘that God you know I approach her with noble intentions, not out of lust’.
True love, true love making is self donation - not self gratifying.

what story is this?? the book of Tobit? I never heard that story…how interesting…imma look it up…

 

[cephas161619]

after a couple of those I was just like man!! this is ALL bad…lol…so I cut down on TV all together…I dont know if i could cut it completely out, just because the house gets so lonely and quiet…but…yeah…TV=OATMEAL BRAINS!!

Oatmeal brains! Nice one. Yeah, I don’t even have a tv. Internet provides plenty of “entertainment”, and it doesn’t seem quite as invasive.

I’m not married…but I do have friends that are in relationships (non catholic and cohabitating) so…I more or less asked for insight to hit them with…but good insight…thnx.

what story is this?? the book of Tobit? I never heard that story…how interesting…imma look it up…

Good on for trying to spread the message to your friends. That can be received by them in all different ways, so it can put your friendship on the line. But to share with them the joy of the truth? priceless.

Tobit!!! One of my favorites. Such a beautiful story of the working of God… I hope you found the book. good.

 

[r4j]

Pigpen it was ‘hypothetical’…I’m not married…but I do have friends that are in relationships (non catholic and cohabitating) so…I more or less asked for insight to hit them with…but good insight…thnx.

what story is this?? the book of Tobit? I never heard that story…how interesting…imma look it up…

The book of Tobit is in the Old Testament. I haven’t reached that part of the bible yet (I just started reading the bible from page 1 not to long ago) but Fr. Corapi’s CD on the Sanctity of Marriage includes a section where Father tells of the story of Tobias and Sarah. I’ve listened to it so many times it’s burned into my memory.

 

[pigpen]

Pigpen it was ‘hypothetical’…I’m not married…but I do have friends that are in relationships (non catholic and cohabitating) so…I more or less asked for insight to hit them with…but good insight…thnx.
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Oops, sorry, misunderstood…

There are several porn related threads on the go, I guess I finally had to chime in!

 

[georgemiller]

I think the point you are missing about porn is that no matter how it may benefit you or your husband it is still sin. There are many things in life that can benefit oneself, there are also many of these same things that can and always will be sinful. I don’t want to sound like a hell fire preacher but at the same time you should never deny what God has revealed as truth through both His Gospels and His Church. God bless, george

 

[I_Am_Blessed]

There are degrees and types of adult films and what some would watch, could watch, and some that have gone beyond and would be disgusting to watch. Some, how to and soft porn, may be helpful as to intimate matters. Some folks go to a circus and enjoy the show. They watch others off the deep end doing crazy physical amazing feats. Some may go and get upset that they have animal acts which are very entertaining to most, those trained animals and well cared for and no harm is done. The important thing is we have our freedom of choice of what to watch in life and each of us have our comfort zone and degree of tolerance. But bottom line, is what a friend we have in Jesus. He will guide that you learn but don’t go too far astray.

 

[Joya]

matthewfradd:

www.whodoesithurt.com is a new anti-porn site which will educate, equip, encrouage and enlist men in their battle for purity.

It’s usefulness, catholicity and cutting edge design is going to make this the number 1 Catholic porn site…or at least the only porn site you could show the Pope.

join our group www.whodoesithurt.com on facebook to learn more.

the site will be launched sometime this month.

Hi Matt,
Thanks for posting this info. I checked out the website. It’s great…good luck with it. God bless you with this ministry.

 

[Ailina]

ok so…I know that pornography is a big problem…it causes all kinds of relationship/intimacy issues…etc…

I’ve often heard it said that if a man watches porn, it takes away from his wife…its selfish and one sided…he might sexualize her…she might be jealous…feel insecure…etc etc…

ok so, for myself, I am very confident and secure in who i am, and do not get jealous…really…at all. i just dont…i could tell you the reason why is because i have so much faith in our Lord that I know I’ll always be alright and God giveth and God taketh away and if a mans gonna stray…well…I just have this habit of offerin’ it up to God…but thats me…and thats not the majority of women…

so…lets say, for this few percentage of women…if they are not offended by it…is it still taboo for their husbands??

lets say, that a man likes watching porn…the womans okay with it. lets say its not selfish or onesided because sometimes they watch it together…lets say it does WONDERS for their sex life… is it still bad??? if theres no fighting over it…no underlying feeligs of resentment…its never even a thought between the two of them that the other is in some way disrespecting them?? is it ok then?

Well, you could think of porn this way: would it be okay for your child to be a porn actor/tress? Or your sisters and brothers? Mother? Father? What crime organizations are behind the porn industry that you are supporting? What kinds of personal problems do the actors/tresses have that might influence their choosing this lifestyle? What kind of porn? Is it okay for adults to pretend to be child or teenage cheerleaders or scouts? Will you and your spouse start treating each other as “porn with skin on”, scratching each other’s sexual itch but not really achieving intimacy?

 

[I_Am_Blessed]

Adult video, the Playboy channel, to whatever degree it’s a “guy” thing and most women have nothing to fear and most do accept. Many will say, I take care of my man’s needs. He may watch some eye candy he can’t possibly get, but I’m the real deal he can get his hands on and if I can’t fill his needs, nobody can. As Mae West may of suggested, it was not the men in her life, it was the life in her men.