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lynnehelen
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Situation is now out of control. We discovered his pot involvement slowly starting 3 years ago. Since then, we went through crisis after crisis. My own life has been crisis after crisis since I was 17. I abused alcohol and some drugs at “away” school and college and finally quit everything except cigarettes and caffeine because I finally realized that psych meds and alcohol, et cetera, don’t mix. The cig/coffee/psych meds x-addiction is something I tried to beat and can’t. My MD told me not to try. Obviously this sets a terrible example for my son. My mother was permissive with my brother and I (not my younger sister) and she had a permissive influence on my son, having him in her care quite a lot and teaching him to disrespect me (calling me “crazy,” “nuts,” et cetera, and getting between us, so I have never had authority and the bond of motherlove was violated.)
It’s gotten into a scary area, one with which my estranged husband is well-acquainted, my brother also, I won’t say any more. My son has an “introject” of his father I believe, acts out the things husband has told him about his past misdeeds because he shared with him when he was so young he couldn’t absorb it.
So desperate to have my son back, as I have a “no further contact” policy with my mother at this time, and my father is now included, already made a post about my blog and trying to work it all out regarding my own issues with my family of origin in the prayer request forum.
He was such a sweet child, and so desperate all his life, and his father stopped giving him money because he was spending it on dope (meanwhilhe, he, my husband, occasionally smoked with him.)
Husband tried to throw son out on 18th birthday, so I finally filed for divorce. I am so torn because I feel he, my son, might do better to get into trouble, might get his problems addressed that way, meanwhile I have my own issues with my husband where I feel he is just trying to get rid of both of us any way he can and my parents would be happy to see my son go to jail just to get even with me for sharing about my life, including them, in my blog.
Won’t say more. Situation in better control when husband out of picture as now (at girlfriend’s), son responding after my six mos. absence last summer and fall, I don’t want to lose him again, but he is 18 now, so much lost time to make up for, what do I do? Possible legal implications for me.
Tonight I said “clean up your act and get a job.” and he says yes that’s what I should do. I am holding on to the hope that he is not too far gone and that I can bring him back if everybody will just leave him alone. Clear and present threat from husband, who when here makes domestic violence calls to 911 because son treats him same way he treats son now–actually, son is much more rational but did get out of control two days ago and 911 said next time there is a DV call they will take my son.
I have been ill all my life and now I am well and I want to share some time with him, my son, this little time he has left before graduating high school in the spring.
Also worried about impact of substances on his mental capacity, memory problems, hysterical outbursts.
So scared. It’s like there’s no place for him. He’s been abandoned again and again.
I think this situation goes beyond advice. I am walking with the Lord on it. Please just pray for my son’s healing and redemption, I am SO SCARED there’s just nothing left of him. I have been praying that the Lord SUPPLIES him with the good things he needs somehow that he didn’t get, that there is a way.
The Lord did not come to call the righteous, but sinners.
It’s gotten into a scary area, one with which my estranged husband is well-acquainted, my brother also, I won’t say any more. My son has an “introject” of his father I believe, acts out the things husband has told him about his past misdeeds because he shared with him when he was so young he couldn’t absorb it.
So desperate to have my son back, as I have a “no further contact” policy with my mother at this time, and my father is now included, already made a post about my blog and trying to work it all out regarding my own issues with my family of origin in the prayer request forum.
He was such a sweet child, and so desperate all his life, and his father stopped giving him money because he was spending it on dope (meanwhilhe, he, my husband, occasionally smoked with him.)
Husband tried to throw son out on 18th birthday, so I finally filed for divorce. I am so torn because I feel he, my son, might do better to get into trouble, might get his problems addressed that way, meanwhile I have my own issues with my husband where I feel he is just trying to get rid of both of us any way he can and my parents would be happy to see my son go to jail just to get even with me for sharing about my life, including them, in my blog.
Won’t say more. Situation in better control when husband out of picture as now (at girlfriend’s), son responding after my six mos. absence last summer and fall, I don’t want to lose him again, but he is 18 now, so much lost time to make up for, what do I do? Possible legal implications for me.
Tonight I said “clean up your act and get a job.” and he says yes that’s what I should do. I am holding on to the hope that he is not too far gone and that I can bring him back if everybody will just leave him alone. Clear and present threat from husband, who when here makes domestic violence calls to 911 because son treats him same way he treats son now–actually, son is much more rational but did get out of control two days ago and 911 said next time there is a DV call they will take my son.
I have been ill all my life and now I am well and I want to share some time with him, my son, this little time he has left before graduating high school in the spring.
Also worried about impact of substances on his mental capacity, memory problems, hysterical outbursts.
So scared. It’s like there’s no place for him. He’s been abandoned again and again.
I think this situation goes beyond advice. I am walking with the Lord on it. Please just pray for my son’s healing and redemption, I am SO SCARED there’s just nothing left of him. I have been praying that the Lord SUPPLIES him with the good things he needs somehow that he didn’t get, that there is a way.
The Lord did not come to call the righteous, but sinners.