Soon to be Catholic

[marleighmartine]

Masturbation is wrong when doing it outside of the married sexual act. A woman or man may be stimulated during sex as long as the outcome is him ejaculating inside you.

 

[Eucharisted]

This is a question I am a little embarressed to ask, but I need to know. Is it a mortal sin for a divorced women to pleasure herself? I know that masterbation is a mortal sin for a man. I am in a relationship with a catholic and its keeps me wanting intimacy. I have my first confession this month and if this is a sin, how do I confess such an act?

Just saying “I’ve masturbated,” or something along the lines. The priest will not get mad - he is there to be the servant of God’s Mercy, not your punisher. Trust in God, who is quick to mercy and slow to anger

 

[mcgrady42]

I have read this entire thread and offer these comments:

1. God is the Author of life.
2. One of His many gifts to us is the gift of an intimate relationship with a spouse and this is one of many gifts.
3. I would ask all young and old members of this fantastic online forum to thank the Lord God daily for this gift of good health, the gift of life, and the gift of healthy, functional genital organs while considering that there are people whose genital organs do not work at all. You must recall that is it precisely due to healthy genital organs that you are here…don’t ever forget this and we should thank the Lord God for this as well (our parents).
4. Why does the Lord God permit us to struggle with very difficult, almost impossible temptations? So that we will stop giving into pride, stop trusting ourselves, and trust Him completely. Dumping your own pride does not mean becoming a doormat. It does mean confidence derived from your complete dependence upon the presence of the Holy Spirit in your life. Sanctifying grace is what Mother Church calls it.

Leo J. Trese is the author of “The Faith Explained”. Please take the time to read this excerpt beginning with chapter 35, the third paragraph of his book:

" It is a whimsical thought, obviously, but it serves to bring home to us the fact that God didn’t have to make the human race male and female as He did. God didn’t have to share his creative power with His own creatures and make the beginning of a new human life depend upon the free cooperation of a man and a woman with Himself. There is a limitless number of other ways in which God could have arranged for the multiplication of human beings, had He chosen to do so.
But God didn't do it any other way. He chose to make man male and female, and to give him the power, in partnership with Himself, to produce new human life. By the act of intimate union which we call sexual intercourse, man and woman would fashion a physical image of themselves: and into this new body so wondrously begun God would infuse a spiritual and immortal soul. It is God, then, who bestowed upon humans the power of procreation-as the sexual faculty is called. It is God who planned and who gave to men and women their genital organs. It is God who (to guarantee the perpetuation of the human race) attached to the use of those organs a high degree of physical pleasure. Since God is the author of sex and since all that God does is good, it follows then that sex in itself is something good. Indeed, because of its close relationship with God as a partner to the reproductive act, sex is not merely something good, it is something sacred and holy. ..........To assure the right use of the procreative power, God founded the institution of marriage: the lifelong and irrevocable union of one man and one woman. "