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The fast i was given was somewhat dangerous. I do not recommend it. I succeeded only because my health was what i would call better than average.

I got rid of all meats, cooked or otherwise.
All salts and sugars became a thing of the past.
Coffee and liquor did not exist for me.
Pastas were gone.
Cooked vegetables and fruits were also nixed.
Dairy products, which i thought to be safe, were not.

That pretty much took care of everything. In truth, i wondered what foods the priest would allow under his very strict fast.

He allowed me to eat live fruits, vegetables and nuts.
All the water i wanted.

I ate lots of vegetables for all my meals and would eat a fruit or two in between them as snacks. And water all day long. I did this the first four days. On the fifth through eigth day i reduced my meals and between snack by one. And drink more water. On the nineth through twelveth day i would reduce another meal and snack, and more water By the thirteenth day i was down to one meal a day and kept it for four days, and more water. Whenever i felt lighthheaded i ate a piece, a piece mind you, of a fruit. Now the fast was almost done.

No solid food at all for the remaining four days. Just water with honey or lemon in it. By this time, the priest said, i would be restored to my natural state. Interestingly, i was never tired or sleepy. Just the opposite.

Once concluded, the priest told me to introduce ALL foods slowly back into my body. He warned, however, that now the body was extremely clean and shouldn’t be polluted. That i would learn which foods to leave out. And he was corret. Every time i introduced a food into my diet, my stomache would either accept or reject it. It took many fasts and may years to figure out exactly what my body would tolerate. In the end i can honestly say that i am a better person for it.
 
Incredible!

I’ve wanted to fast to help overcome this problem myself (I realized from the start that indulgence was more my sin than lust) but my mother is so very concerned about my “religious fanaticism.” Not to mention, I’m a vegetarian, and so she thinks my diet by this defect is already dangerous and flawed–just think what a fast could do! :rolleyes: I used to fast on Fridays and pray the rosary instead… I’m thinking of returning to my Friday fast (starting Thursday evening and ending Friday evening). Of course, by “fast” I mean eating simple foods like plain rice or veggies and fruits and, for a special treat, pasta! I already love water, so that’s not an issue.

I need to teach myself the virtue of temperance as it is. I think this would be a great place to start. However, we go out to eat each week after church and this presents a stumbling block, though I’ve had days where, in order to keep from overindulging, I’ve been so picky that the server has commented, “Wow! You must be really health conscious.” “Oh yes!” I reply. 😃

Anyway… some incoherent rambling to jazz things up.
 
When you are tempted try and remember to say these little short prayers.

Most Sacred Heart of Jesus I place all my trust in you. Say three times.
Sacred Heart of Jesus protect me from all Snares of the Devil.
Say Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Satan hates it when you say the word Jesus in reverence because you are fighting him and overcoming his temptations.
You can just say begone Satan Sacred Heart of Jesus I love you.

When you go to Bed at Night before you go to sleep. Make the sign with these letters on your Forhead I N R I and say. Jesus of Nazareth King of the Jews keep and defend me from dying an unholy and unprepared death
Ask Saint Michael the Arkangel to protect you from all Snares of the Devil.
You can go on WWW. Catholic Planet .com. and there is a lot of information on the sin of Masturbation.

Mayo
 
I’m 14, and I get this. SO… that said, I’ll reiterate some advice I gave to someone else having trouble with this:

First of all, identify areas of temptation.

If it’s in the shower, use cold (it doesn’t have to be freezing!) or neutral water. (Oh, and sing! Not kidding! Sing “Amazing Grace” or “Jesus Loves Me” or some hymn you know by heart.)

If it’s when you’re anxed and have a lot of energy, work out. Do pushups or situps till you’re exhausted–or till you feel you’ve gotten rid of the anx. (Plus, just think how much more appealing you’ll look to your new g/f if you’re ripped. lol)

If it’s when you’re on the computer (maybe you’re tempted to look up not-so-good stuff, IDK), then put the Saint Michael Prayer up as your background and pray it each time you log on. If it feels insincere, keep praying it and thinking about the words till you think you can handle being online. If you simply can’t, shut the computer down and come back later.

If it’s before you go to sleep at night (or when you wake up), wrap a rosary around your hands and pray it till you fall asleep. Repeat it over and over again in your mind till it becomes automatic.

Also, before confronting ANY of these areas, say a Hail Mary or Saint Michael Prayer… Pray persistently, like Jesus in Gethsemane, till your Father gives you strength.

Take some time and spend it in Scripture. Read the second half of 1 Corinthians 6, Romans 12:1-4, and the Sermon on the Mount (especially the parts about “plucking out” whatever it is that causes you to sin and the part about lustful thoughts). Also, read Hosea so you can see how in love God is with you and why it is he wants you faithful. Imagine yourself in his arms, in his embrace, him holding you tightly near his Heart. The same goes for Mary, your Mother, and one that exemplifies chastity.

Also, you can make great use of the Jesus Prayer. It’s one of my favorites… Push everything out of your mind, get in a quiet place, and do this:
  1. Inhale, thinking, “Lord Jesus Christ…”
  2. Exhale, thinking, “Son of the Living God…”
  3. Inhale, thinking, “Have mercy on me…”
  4. Exhale, thinking, “A sinner.”
Do this till you can do it in regular breaths, as many times as necessary. You can use rosary beads to count. You can do it till you feel it’s sufficient. In the Eastern Churches, they do this hundreds or thousands of times… Soon, it will become internal and will constantly be repeating inside of you. Practice this again and again.

Oh, and don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re not a freak or anything (at least… I think… JK!). Pray to Mary Magdalene (John 8, Luke 7:36-50, John 12:3-8) if you want to talk to a saint that didn’t always act so saintly in her lifetime.

Christ doesn’t want you to be chaste for the sake of being chaste. He wants you prepared to meet him and be in his presence. He wants you prepared to receive and give to others the fullness of his love, and this just HAPPENS to involve chastity.

God bless, man.

(Don’t be so hard on yourself! Love God, love others. It’s not as hard as it sounds! You just have to LET God and others love you first… Got it?)

Pax
Kid, you are one savvy 14 year old.

Let me add just one thing. When I was in grade school, Sister taught us to avoid temptation by saying, “Get thee behind me, Satan.” Sounds kind of corny, but I’ve been saying it for 50+ years, and I do believe it helps.
 
This is complicated by the fact that masturbation is natural (all higher mammals do it), but as you know, just because something is natural does not necessarily mean that it is right.
I think that this is erroneous thinking. What is natural for animals is not necessarily natural for us human beings. Masturbation might be “natural” for our bodies only (which are made of the same stuff as animals), but totally unnatural and damaging to our souls (which are made of the same stuff as angels), so on the whole it is unnatural.
When a rational soul is joined to a body, then we have a whole new dimension of judgment as to ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ uses of this body, and so the area of natural actions for us is much more restricted than it is in animals.
 
This is complicated by the fact that masturbation is natural (all higher mammals do it), but as you know, just because something is natural does not necessarily mean that it is right.
I think that this is erroneous thinking. What is natural for animals is not necessarily natural for us human beings. Masturbation might be “natural” for our bodies only (which are made of the same stuff as animals), but totally unnatural and damaging to our souls (which are made of the same stuff as angels), so on the whole it is unnatural.
When a rational soul is joined to a body, then we have a whole new dimension of judgment as to ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ uses of this body, and so the area of natural actions for us is much more restricted than it is in animals.
I agree that this is not the proper thinking saying that it is “natural” and using ‘higher mammals’ as a defense. Dogs lift their leg to pee on a tree, does that make it okay for everyone else to do the same? Dogs have sex just to have sex, does that make it right? In following the teachings of the Catholic Church it certainly does not. Thanks to the person that posted the first quote for continuing to show why we are superior to animals.
 
Hey
This is my first post ever, so sorry if I say something that has already been mentioned. I suffer from the same problems, and have been working hard for quite some time on it. The first thing I noticed is that there is no easy answer. It takes a lot of hard work. The process of breaking away sucks. How I have found any success at all is from www.settingcaptivesfree.com, it has a sixty day course that really helps a lot, though it is geared for people that don’t have quite as full a theological background, it still does a good job. Second, find a accountability partner. You need someone you can trust that you can check in with every day and will make sure you are staying on task, and kick your butt a little bit if you slip up.
 
Catholic God recommends marrying that girl and having her do it for you.
 
yo for some reason. im blessed by God. I literally pray not to be tempted to masturbate and it goes away. weird huh. well im not complaining. but im still tempted. but its so bearable.
 
Peace of Christ,
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   I'm seventeen years old. I attend a Catholic highschool and I'm in the CLC (Christian Life Community), the pro-life club, and am a Junior Minister. I would like to think of myself as a devote Catholic. I have a scapular around my neck and a rosary in my pocket. I attend daily mass (almost) before school and go to adoration. Despite all of this, I still am struggling with masturbation. Each time I go to confession I make that firm vow to use that new start to never commit that sin again. However it seems within less than a week I am slipping back into habit, tempted by impure thoughts. This has been going on for about 2 years now. Priests tell me different things, that its naturally for a boy my age and don't worry about it, that only through regular confession can I overcome it, and that its just natural. Sometimes I feel like I'm being scrupulous because I feel like its more of a venial sin. I know that its grave matter and that its a mortal sin, but I despise this sin, I want to be rid of it, yet I fall back into it everytime.
I recently started dating my best friend, she has always been someone I love, I am worried that because of the sin of masturbation I cannot truley love her, or God.

Thanks for any help you can give.
Thank you.
Wow… I guess what I can tell you is to realize that you are not alone in your struggle. How do I know this? Well for starters:

I’m also 17. I’ve also been struggling with this for around 2 years. I’m also a devout and practicing Catholic. I also go to confession over and over again. I also find myself falling into the same problems. I’m also given such lectures from priests, about it being “normal”, I also sometimes worry about being too scrupulous, I also detest the sin…

…and maybe more weirdly than all of these similarities, I’ve also started dating my best friend of 5 years and started to have similar misgivings about the nature of my affection because of this problem…

I guess this is just proof that a lot of teenagers our age go through the same struggle…
 
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