One dose not need to discuss gifts in order to make good use of them. For example, to speak of wisdom is not the same as using wisdom. The former is of a proud spirit, the latter is of a humble spirit.
This is a great response. When the gifts are used, rather than simply talked about, people will be drawn toward you. Many people were drawn toward Fr. D’Orio who had the gift of healing. When asked why not everybody who came to him was healed, he replied,“That’s God’s way of keeping me humble.” Whatever our gifts they must be used for the greater good, for the building of the kingdom and not the ego. If we look at scripture, we find the Apostles in Acts never claimed any healing as their own. Rather it was Christ who worked through them.
You may choose to speak of your gifts with a spiritual adviser. When I first received the gifts of tongues, I made an appointment with my parish priest. One of the reason I did this was because of the effect I knew it would have on my personal life regarding personal relationships. It was not something that I spoke about. My priest, on the other hand, noted and remarked on the change (not the prayer language) he saw in me. No, he was not charismatic.
When I confided with my parish deacon regarding Who I saw in the Eucharist, he told me to share my experience with the celebrant. My seeing Jesus in the Eucharist could be explained as a matter of how the light happened to strike the host on that particular day, at that particular time. It could simply have been my imagination based on personal faith. It was still a very real experience.
The Catholic Church looks for natural explanations for what may be perceived as a supernatural event. It is better for the Church to uncover the broken pipes that caused the Virgin to cry than to cite it as a miracle that needs to be retracted later.
There are times for sharing, and times for simply basking in the graces that have been received, thankful to God for the Love He has shown.