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Hey gang, I’m looking for some guidance on a matter of vocations and spirituality.
I am a cradle Latin Rite Catholic. I was an altar boy in grade school, and that continued into my high school years too. I had a strong aptitude for music, and piano lessons were soon supplemented by organ lessons. The local Catholic and mainline Protestant churches gave me lots of organist work in high school.
My name was recommended by a member of the congregation several times between 7th Grade and 12th Grade to consider the priesthood. The problem was that even though my priest did his best to follow up, my parents NEVER did, despite the fact they would have been very pleased to have a son in the priesthood.
In college, I was working as a choir director at a great Catholic Church. When my grandfather (an ELCA Lutheran) passed away, my parents designated me as the “family liason” to his pastor to help plan the funeral. After the wake, his pastor told me how much she had enjoyed working with me. She went on to say, “I call you to the ordained ministry.” My response was, “I’m flattered, but I’m in a pretty good relationship, and I’m a Catholic. Ordination isn’t a option for me.” She said, “You don’t have to stay with either.”
My “really good” relationship really wasn’t and that girl didn’t stay with me much long after Grandpa’s funeral. I spent the summer thinking about what this pastor said to me, and I started privately discerning the priesthood. I met with a priest a few times about it, but as things go, I met a new girl that year, and I discerned both vocations: married life and the priesthood.
I married that girl and I love her dearly. We’ll celebrate our fifth anniversary in three months. When I got married, the priests who knew I had been thinking about the priesthood talked to me about the Diaconate. I’m now old enough to start formation the next time the Diocese begins a new class.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as I try to discern what God is calling me to do. Clearly, He called me to the married vocation. I also feel like He is calling me to some form of ordainted ministry. Grandpa’s pastor isn’t the only ELCA pastor who has told me they felt I had a calling – all three that I have worked for as an orgainst have felt this calling. Three priests have also felt I was being called to Orders.
Two things have prompted this request for guidance. 1.) My previous priest was very supportive of a call to the Diaconate. He was doing a lot to prepare me for formation, but sadly, I moved from that town after taking a new job. I discussed a call to the Diaconate with the priest at my new church. That was two years ago, and we’ve never developed a good relationship. I am not getting any help with discernment. 2.) I’ve thought a lot about Grandpa’s pastor’s statement, “You don’t have to stay with either.”
What if God isn’t calling me to Orders in the Catholic Church? What if all of this music ministry throughout Mainline Christianity was to prepare me for Orders in a Protestant denomination? What if my current priest’s disinterest in discernment for the Diaconate is God sending me a sign that He wants me elsewhere?
I pray about this regularly, but I am curious what the posters on this Board think. I am looking for a wide range of guidance.
I am a cradle Latin Rite Catholic. I was an altar boy in grade school, and that continued into my high school years too. I had a strong aptitude for music, and piano lessons were soon supplemented by organ lessons. The local Catholic and mainline Protestant churches gave me lots of organist work in high school.
My name was recommended by a member of the congregation several times between 7th Grade and 12th Grade to consider the priesthood. The problem was that even though my priest did his best to follow up, my parents NEVER did, despite the fact they would have been very pleased to have a son in the priesthood.
In college, I was working as a choir director at a great Catholic Church. When my grandfather (an ELCA Lutheran) passed away, my parents designated me as the “family liason” to his pastor to help plan the funeral. After the wake, his pastor told me how much she had enjoyed working with me. She went on to say, “I call you to the ordained ministry.” My response was, “I’m flattered, but I’m in a pretty good relationship, and I’m a Catholic. Ordination isn’t a option for me.” She said, “You don’t have to stay with either.”
My “really good” relationship really wasn’t and that girl didn’t stay with me much long after Grandpa’s funeral. I spent the summer thinking about what this pastor said to me, and I started privately discerning the priesthood. I met with a priest a few times about it, but as things go, I met a new girl that year, and I discerned both vocations: married life and the priesthood.
I married that girl and I love her dearly. We’ll celebrate our fifth anniversary in three months. When I got married, the priests who knew I had been thinking about the priesthood talked to me about the Diaconate. I’m now old enough to start formation the next time the Diocese begins a new class.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as I try to discern what God is calling me to do. Clearly, He called me to the married vocation. I also feel like He is calling me to some form of ordainted ministry. Grandpa’s pastor isn’t the only ELCA pastor who has told me they felt I had a calling – all three that I have worked for as an orgainst have felt this calling. Three priests have also felt I was being called to Orders.
Two things have prompted this request for guidance. 1.) My previous priest was very supportive of a call to the Diaconate. He was doing a lot to prepare me for formation, but sadly, I moved from that town after taking a new job. I discussed a call to the Diaconate with the priest at my new church. That was two years ago, and we’ve never developed a good relationship. I am not getting any help with discernment. 2.) I’ve thought a lot about Grandpa’s pastor’s statement, “You don’t have to stay with either.”
What if God isn’t calling me to Orders in the Catholic Church? What if all of this music ministry throughout Mainline Christianity was to prepare me for Orders in a Protestant denomination? What if my current priest’s disinterest in discernment for the Diaconate is God sending me a sign that He wants me elsewhere?
I pray about this regularly, but I am curious what the posters on this Board think. I am looking for a wide range of guidance.