Stealing?

[Siena]

If he is getting the extra work through the company, see if they have any records of this work you can use to establish that he does do extra work like this. (You might need this type of info subpeanaed by the court. Ask your lawyer before asking the company). If is is something he has reported on tax returns in the past, you are in better shape.

One thing to keep in mind that my mom could not- This m an is acting deceptivly toward you. He is not letting any feelings or emotions for you “cloud” his judgement. You must do the same. KEEP YOUR PERSONAL FEELINGS WAY OUT OF THESE PROCEEDINGS. Otherwise, he can use your emotions to keep you off kilter- allowing him to have the upper hand.

-As a catholic on these forums, I also need to ask you if you are sure this marriage is not able to be fixed. And to pray.

 

[momoftwo]

-As a catholic on these forums, I also need to ask you if you are sure this marriage is not able to be fixed. And to pray.

Thanks for all the info. and I don’t think this marriage can be fixed, things have gone from bad to worse. We don’t fight or anything of the sort, he just does as he pleases comes home when he pleases if at all. All I do is try to live my life as if I wasn’t married, like I didn’t have a husband…it hurts less this way…as a matter of fact it really doesn’t hurt much anymore. He didn’t want counseling, he acts like everything is fine so, according to him, we don’t need it. I can’t imagine he really believes that since there is absolutely nothing “normal” about our relationship. I just want to make sure that I’m doing the right thing for my children, I know money isn’t everything, but they still have to eat and be clothed and have a roof over their head and so do I.

 

[Lexee15]

Momoftwo, I really feel for you. I’m going through something similar. I had read the posts but I didn’t feel I had anything to contribute, I have no advice…I’m in the same predicament. I hear what your saying about the men who posted, I too found it interesting. I think sienna had some good advice and information that I will also take into consideration. Thank you for posting your situation, it has helped me also. Take care and you’re in my prayers.

Lexee

 

[Lady_Cygnus]

I know someone who was in a similiar situation. She was a stay at home mom with three girls and her husband left her (under the pretense of scouting out homes to move to in another state). It was horrible, she was left with all the bills and absolutely no income. He also cleared out the account and put in it’s place an IRS lean. Although the courts forced him to pay child support he was always late and sometimes missed months. It was an extreemly difficult time.

Now God did provide, when she lost the house a kind couple at the church bought it so she didn’t have to move. There were many miraculous donations of money that were just enough to cover the bills for that month. And she found people to help her get to and from work until she could afford another car.

In your case, it sounds like it is a joint account and you have some responsibility over the money (paying the bills, buying groceries and so forth). I don’t see how it is stealing to budget in a ‘savings’, infact it’s responsible financial management. And if the money won’t be secure in a savings account you can easily access, then put it in another. I’ve done the same by setting aside a small amount every month to go into another account at a different bank (one I can’t access from an ATM during impulse buys).

It’s only stealing if it wasn’t given to you in the first place. Since the money is yours to run the household, if you do so frugally and set up a savings I don’t see the harm.

Although I do agree that you should contact a lawyer early on, to make sure things go the best for you. I’ll pray for you.