Stood up for myself finally, was it Christlike?

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Hi everyone,
I’m a non confrontational person by nature. Yesterday a colleague who is many levels above me called me upset over something not my fault and was asking for my help. She sounded frustrated and erratic and I could tell she wasn’t thinking level-headed because as I was sincerely trying to help she would say things in a nasty way over the phone like “do yo want me to do it myself?” “If you dint understand I’ll just do it myself” in an extremely condescending way. A few months ago she did the same thing but I stayed on the phone taking her verbal assault but yesterday as I said (shaking inside but not in my voice). “You can’t speak to me that way please call me back when you can be more professional” and I hung up.

It sounds easy but it was hard for me to do, I’ve never had anyone at work be so belittling and condescending at someone trying to help them! I told my boss and she is no longer allowed to work with me in the same capacity.
I just wanted to share because I feel in my heart I did the right thing but still people’s cruelty just because I’m at the bottom of the totem pole at work still baffles my mind.
Thanks everyone
 
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To answer the question in the title, I would say so.

Jesus questioned being struck by the High Priest’s servant
19 The high priest then questioned Jesus about his disciples and his teaching. 20 Jesus answered him, “I have spoken openly to the world; I have always taught in synagogues and in the temple, where all Jews come together; I have said nothing secretly. 21 Why do you ask me? Ask those who have heard me, what I said to them; they know what I said.” 22 When he had said this, one of the officers standing by struck Jesus with his hand, saying, “Is that how you answer the high priest?” 23 Jesus answered him, “If I have spoken wrongly, bear witness to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?” 24 Annas then sent him bound to Ca′iaphas the high priest.
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John 18 (RSVCE)
 
That’s a good point, what the OP did is probably an example of passive resistance (with very good manners, it seems) which is perfectly acceptable right?
 
What you did was absolutely fine and you were completely in the right. There is nothing wrong with being assertive.
 
Thank you so much, it was sure hard for me. I said those exact words but my tone was a little irritated to be honest.
 
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The person you were having the conversation with needed to know she was being abrasive.
 
I would have been irritated as well. She was unprofessional and very rude, you were the exact opposite.
 
You did everything right. She was looking for somebody to dump on and that person was not you.
 
I know it’s not easy and I feel for you. In fact I would stand by you on this situation. However, it will probably does not help you, as long as she (the colleague) is there. Moreover, it is likely that she will inevitably cross your path again, and one day all of that, that have been safely hidden in your chest, may just explode up.

In thing l like this, only prayer will help you - to put you in a strong position and to strengthen you so that you will have the wisdom to deal with it in a win-win situation.

God bless.
 
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“You can’t speak to me that way please call me back when you can be more professional” and I hung up.
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Very well said. Good on you.
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I told my boss and she is no longer allowed to work with me in the same capacity.
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I probably would have waited a week or so first, because he/she may reflect on what they were doing, apologies and correct it. If it happened again that would be the next step I would recommend though.

I hope this has helped.

God Bless You
 
This kind of confusion is common.

It is not Christlike to be someone’s doormat. Even the martyrs weren’t doormats really, they were witnesses to a higher purpose.

I’d say you had a good John the Baptist moment.
 
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