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It’s a good article. I hate when people act like having a baby is a bad thing. I got a lot of the comments and attitudes presented in the article when my husband and I announced our first pregnancy, because it was soon after our wedding. (I.e. we “didn’t wait long enough” and our “NFP must not have worked”) People are so cruel.
That said, I think it also goes both ways. People with smaller families are also looked down upon and judged as being selfish and bad Catholics because they have only one or two kids. Having a smaller family doesn’t automatically equal selfishness and shouldn’t be judged by others who don’t know the ins and outs of a couple’s situation.
That said, I think it also goes both ways. People with smaller families are also looked down upon and judged as being selfish and bad Catholics because they have only one or two kids. Having a smaller family doesn’t automatically equal selfishness and shouldn’t be judged by others who don’t know the ins and outs of a couple’s situation.
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My oldest child was born on our first wedding anniversary. Whenever I say that, people get a spaced out look on their face and I can tell they are doing the math in their head. 
They do realize the first anniversary means twelve months and a pregnancy is only nine.My oldest child was born on our first wedding anniversary. Whenever I say that, people get a spaced out look on their face and I can tell they are doing the math in their head.
Ours was born at pretty much exactly nine months after the wedding, one day before his due date. However, we know he wasn’t conceived until a full month after the wedding. We got plenty of “shotgun wedding” comments. People also conveniently forget that the overly simplified “nine months” of pregnancy includes the two weeks before actual conception. And that 37 weeks is considered full term but can go as long as 42 weeks.
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1Lord1Faith
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I must be missing something. Who is apologizing for being pregnant?
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Irishmom2
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Right? I actually have had to say, that’s twelve months, not nine!
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Irishmom2
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The woman in the link…used to, but isn’t anymore.
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1Lord1Faith
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Good for her.
My niece was married on February 2nd, and their daughter was born October 26. She was mortified that her daughter hadn’t “waited” one more more week so they could at least have hit the 9 month mark and avoided all the raised eyebrows (although that child was 7 1/2 pounds and my niece had a rough time with the delivery so she was glad she hadn’t gotten any bigger!)
Well, their second child was just born… and the first is only 10 months old. More raised eyebrows. My niece is a surviving twin and we told her she had “Irish twins”. Beautiful family. She and her husband are over the moon, as is the rest of the family, but she certainly gets her fair share of comments.
Well, their second child was just born… and the first is only 10 months old. More raised eyebrows. My niece is a surviving twin and we told her she had “Irish twins”. Beautiful family. She and her husband are over the moon, as is the rest of the family, but she certainly gets her fair share of comments.
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