Story: "Mum dies moments after giving new baby a kiss."

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While I get the intention, I have always mixed feelings on this.
Chemotherapy doesn´t necessarily means no time with the family or constant suffering, nor does quality time justifie a decision to not be there when the children are older - I think each parents has, as hard as this may sound, the duty to try to live as long as he or she can for the children when they are that young.
This has nothing to do with the specific post, but I see often decisions like that romanticized in an unhealthy way. Saying this as a person who cared for 2 people with terminal cancer in my family and a sister who went well through chemotherapy in her 20s, and it was worth it.
 
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I didn’t read the article. I agree with most of what you’ve said but if the cancer was terminal and chemo would only buy a few months I can understand quality over quantity.
 
I don’t know what to respond…

Thanks you to remid us that we should take what you can to stay alive and not never choose death.

I am against that people choose death versus treatments…and any atempt to show assisted suicide or euthanazia as romatic death…(that’s satan’s win…)

But, I am not sure, because this article did not tell enough, apparently this cancer cannot be cure. But chemiotherapy can give her more time…

But if a young mother go through chemiothery, there is consequences. The first I think of, if that it is incompatible with breatfeeding. And it can be heartbroken. Then, there is side effects such as great tiredness, loose of weight…that will make impossible for the mother to carry of the babu without a lot of help.

But thoses side effects are to be balanced with a more longer life, and that’s completely possible that chemiotherapy should be the best way.

Sad story…
 
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Same here, it was more a general comment and of course in that case you mention it’s really up to the person and what is most comfortable. But I hope we all don’t generate a clima in which a person with terminal cancer feels the need to offer his or her life up and skipping Chemo because one expects it. My mother in law has terminal cancer and was against Chemo, and she won more than only a few months in good condition when we asked her to still do the therapy and she was ok. She wasn´t cured, but was able to walk, cook, have fun again - it was amazing. Sometims wee need to allow the Lord to work through medicine and therapy, too.
 
Thanks you for your testimony.

I think that cancer treatments work better and better.

I was myself very surprised when a friend of us was free of cancerous cells after only a few mouths of chemiotherapy and one operation.

Perhaps common people tend to have a false ideas of cancer treatments.
 
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Thanks you for your testimony.

I think that cancer treatments work better and better.

I was myself very surprised when a friend of us was free of cancerous cells after only a few mouths of chemiotherapy and one operation.

Perhaps common people tend to have a false ideas of cancer treatments.
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It really depends on the type of cancer, its stage, etc. I have a friend who was diagnosed with stage 2 lymphoma when her baby was quite young, but after a surgery and 4 months of chemo, she was fine. In the story posted, the mother was told she had inoperable terminal cancer (so, already stage 5) just after her baby was born. She lived only 2 months after diagnosis. If her cancer was already that serious at diagnosis, chemo very well might not have done much. It’s also worth noting that her baby was hospitalized at a children’s hospital for heart problems – undergoing chemo probably would have meant that she would not have been able to spend as much time at the children’s hospital, as she would have had treatment at an adult health facility, followed by a few days’ recovery after each chemo treatment, etc. Considering her odds of improving with chemo, and knowing she wasn’t long for this world no matter what, it appears she chose to spend as much time as possible at the children’s hospital. This article from April interviewed her: Samoa Observer | Double tragedy: Mother with terminal cancer fights

I certainly don’t think that all people in her situation need to decline treatment. That choice belongs to the patient alone. Nor do I think that her decision ought to be romanticized. But I can see why she made the choice she did.
 
Yes.

I remenber also that our friend who had been sucessfully treated for cancer was advised to not take his grand child in his arms, because of the radiotherapy…
 
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