Struggling to have faith

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Over a decade ago I had a pull to join the Catholic Church. When I first had the calling I was in a relationship with the father of my daughters. He went from becoming luke warm to the idea to against it beyond most people standards.

He chipped away at me until it made me feel that there was probably no God. He put me in situations where I felt that I had probably had glimpses of what hell was actually like.

I got away from him last year but I feel broken and tainted inside. I want more than anything to have the faith that I once had but I don’t fully anymore. My daughters attend a Protestant school and I feel like crying everytime there has been a church service. I feel that I’m not good enough to walk inside.

Is there anything spiritually I can do so that I can regain my faith?
 
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Hi T432!

I think that you’re a courageous mother. God is calling you once more. Look! God gave you wonderful daughters. God won’t give you a problem that you can’t face. God entrusted their lives unto you because He knew that you’re an awesome Mom. You could probably try to pray rosaries and attend the Mass to have a happy time with them, especially it’s quarantine.
 
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It sounds like you need healing from your former relationship?
 
Given everything have you gone through I would say that you are one brave lady and ditto all the comments I have read so far 🙂

The catholic faith is an incredibly beautiful one (I have recently converted myself over and attending RCIA online currently.

What I would suggest is next time there is a service at your local Catholic church, just go and feel the immense calm and tranquility of the church, look around at the windows and statues and take a couple of deep breathes while quietly gazing upon our Lord who is residing within the Tabernacle.

I can guarantee you that when you leave, you feel feel completely uplifted, spiritually renewed and you will remember why you felt God’s loving pull to join the one true church.

But if it is too much to attend straight away, I would absolutely recommend watching a live service from the comfort of your home 🙂

I will pray that you can find your way back home 😃 :pray:t2:
 
I was broken too. I then surrendered my life to Jesus and found He was there for me the entire time, just waiting for me to trust in Him. He gave me inner peace and lifted so many burdens from me. Keep praying. Make an appointment with a priest to just talk with him and for confession. We will pray for you also.
 
Yes, I think that is a fair comment. I have tried my hardest to seek professional counseling but haven’t been able to receive any yet. I have tried for over a year. I have also tried to be productive and look into CBT techniques to teach myself how to recover.
 
Congratulations on your recent conversion!

Thank you for your suggestions. I actually watched the live streaming of the Sunday mass this morning for the first time from my local church.
 
Thank you. I will seriously consider chatting to the local priest even though the thought makes me feel very uncomfortable. I think it’s because I feel a lot of shame and embarrassment. However, I know that if I don’t address those feelings I won’t be able to move forward.
 
Thank you very much - definitely an exciting venture! 😊

That’s brilliant news, how did you find it?
 
I actually found it ok. I had a few distractions with the kids and dog throughout. However, I have decided to go to the weekday mass tomorrow in person 🙂
 
Yeah, that’s the only thing about live Masses, my kids are quite the distraction too! :man_facepalming:t2:

Fantastic news about going to Mass tomorrow in person! I pray and hope all goes well - really enjoy it and take it all in 😊
 
Thank you! Can I just ask what the dress code is usually for weekday mass? I don’t want to go looking overly dressed or too casual that it doesn’t look appropriate.
 
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I think it’s because I feel a lot of shame and embarrassment.
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I’m sure many of us have felt that, including me! But something I’ve learned is that priests have already heard it all. And they forget it afterwards! Shame and embarrassment can be turned into repentance. God is really good at turning the bad into good! The load lifted off your shoulders after a confession of these sins is truly life saving if the repentance is real. You’ll be fine. I’ve been there.
 
Personally, I would wear what you feel comfortable in. I’ve been to Mass in a hoodie and shorts before! 🤯 but as a chap, I usually wear jeans and a t-shirt.

Some people suit and boot, but it’s entirely up to you. Think God would be happier that you are there, rather than what you wear! 😊

Obviously this is matter of opinion, so some others may disagree with me, or agree.
 
I think that alot of the shame and embarrassment comes from knowing what happened after I was called to the Catholic Church the first time. I felt so called the first time to the Catholic Church but couldn’t because of the controlling relationship I was in. This time the call back to the Catholic Church feels dampened, almost a whisper. Maybe because all my emotions are just so shut down at the moment. Can I ask if Catholic priest can here my confession if I’m not Catholic but am baptized?
 
Thank you 🙂. I was’nt asking to be best dressed but just really don’t want to draw attention to myself whilst at church. I’m just hoping I can be almost invisible. I’ll just wear what I usually wear on a weekday which is relatively smart but still casual.
 
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Make an appointment with a priest aNd speak with him. He can explain the steps you’ll need to go through.
 
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