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(I guess I should mention I’m a male in my 20s in case that can’t be inferred from my post. Maybe this needs to be under a different thread but there’s some questions I have buried in this post.)
I’ve been struggling with porn addiction for years. I’ve let this addiction take ahold of my life. I’ve been trying to stop for over a year now. I think porn warps sexuality. I almost exclusively watched gay porn. I think it arises out of a jealousy/envy I feel for other men. I’ve struggled with body image and self-esteem for a while now. The main thing I think is “I wish I could look like him”.
Trying to quit again, I want to for good this time. I see how empty my life is. I’m in 3rd year of college and trying to finally get a job. There is a good catholic church here I could get involved in. Besides going to confession monthly (at least during the semester) and mass every weekend, I don’t do anything else. I went on a couple retreats my first semester but never really got involved outside of being a participant in it. I feel so afraid to reach out.
As for women, I never really watched straight porn. I feel much more respectful around them and not viewing them as objects. I guess parents instilled this in me. I feel romantically attracted towards women and would very much like to eventually marry and have children. However, I don’t feel sexually attracted towards them, or at least I think I don’t. I’m just so confused on this issue. Looking back I don’t think I ever really have gotten aroused outside of porn. Also, parents kept on saying “sex is bad” or maybe I interpreted that from something else. So, did that cause me to hide my desires toward women? What is allowed? How come sex is ok after marriage but not before. If sexual attraction is allowed towards one’s spouse how is that different from lust? Lusting after your spouse? What is one supposed to feel?
As of my understanding, the church teaches that homosexuals (or am I supposed to say SSA? What if you’re bisexual) are called to a life of celibacy. And that tears me apart, the idea of being all alone in life. Not allowed to marry a woman or live my dreams of being father. All of those hopes and dreams, crushed, ripped away.
My mind is all over the place and this post is too. Maybe I should have just posted some specific questions instead of part of my life story. I feel the need to get this out and finally confront the issue. If you can clarify some of the thing I mentioned in the longest paragraph that would be great.
I’ve been struggling with porn addiction for years. I’ve let this addiction take ahold of my life. I’ve been trying to stop for over a year now. I think porn warps sexuality. I almost exclusively watched gay porn. I think it arises out of a jealousy/envy I feel for other men. I’ve struggled with body image and self-esteem for a while now. The main thing I think is “I wish I could look like him”.
Trying to quit again, I want to for good this time. I see how empty my life is. I’m in 3rd year of college and trying to finally get a job. There is a good catholic church here I could get involved in. Besides going to confession monthly (at least during the semester) and mass every weekend, I don’t do anything else. I went on a couple retreats my first semester but never really got involved outside of being a participant in it. I feel so afraid to reach out.
As for women, I never really watched straight porn. I feel much more respectful around them and not viewing them as objects. I guess parents instilled this in me. I feel romantically attracted towards women and would very much like to eventually marry and have children. However, I don’t feel sexually attracted towards them, or at least I think I don’t. I’m just so confused on this issue. Looking back I don’t think I ever really have gotten aroused outside of porn. Also, parents kept on saying “sex is bad” or maybe I interpreted that from something else. So, did that cause me to hide my desires toward women? What is allowed? How come sex is ok after marriage but not before. If sexual attraction is allowed towards one’s spouse how is that different from lust? Lusting after your spouse? What is one supposed to feel?
As of my understanding, the church teaches that homosexuals (or am I supposed to say SSA? What if you’re bisexual) are called to a life of celibacy. And that tears me apart, the idea of being all alone in life. Not allowed to marry a woman or live my dreams of being father. All of those hopes and dreams, crushed, ripped away.
My mind is all over the place and this post is too. Maybe I should have just posted some specific questions instead of part of my life story. I feel the need to get this out and finally confront the issue. If you can clarify some of the thing I mentioned in the longest paragraph that would be great.