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stbruno
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zenit.org/article-23056?l=english My spouse and I prepare couples for marriage and have been reinforcing this concept for years. More data to support our argument.
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Truly_Beloved
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In my college days, for every one research study that concluded there was no link between divorce and premarital cohabitation, there were 10 other studies that confirmed the link.
And I was educated at a secular state university. Most of my fellow students did not take kindly to the information. I wrote and presented a paper on the issue for an English class, and the disbelief/shock was widespread.
We need more media attention on the dangers of cohabitation – It’s great that you’re spreading the word through marriage prep! :clapping:
And I was educated at a secular state university. Most of my fellow students did not take kindly to the information. I wrote and presented a paper on the issue for an English class, and the disbelief/shock was widespread.
We need more media attention on the dangers of cohabitation – It’s great that you’re spreading the word through marriage prep! :clapping:
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thomfra
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It’s still worth the risk if you ask me.zenit.org/article-23056?l=english My spouse and I prepare couples for marriage and have been reinforcing this concept for years. More data to support our argument.
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anna1978
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Quote:In Northern and Central Europe, plus the United Kingdom, more than 90% of couples live together before marriage.
90%, that’s virtually everyone…in a country like Holand the only ones who DON’T co-habit are Muslims and Mennonites/Reformatorical Christians…every single Catholic I know there has or is co-habiting, most never bother to get married at all, even after 20+ years together…
The thing is, how do you wind back the clock:shrug: ?
90%, that’s virtually everyone…in a country like Holand the only ones who DON’T co-habit are Muslims and Mennonites/Reformatorical Christians…every single Catholic I know there has or is co-habiting, most never bother to get married at all, even after 20+ years together…
The thing is, how do you wind back the clock:shrug: ?
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stbruno
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As my mother used to say…if everyone is jumping off the bridge, are you going to?Quote:In Northern and Central Europe, plus the United Kingdom, more than 90% of couples live together before marriage.
90%, that’s virtually everyone…in a country like Holand the only ones who DON’T co-habit are Muslims and Mennonites/Reformatorical Christians…every single Catholic I know there has or is co-habiting, most never bother to get married at all, even after 20+ years together…
The thing is, how do you wind back the clock:shrug: ?
Translated: Just because everyone is doing something dangerous , I hope you will make a better choice. Cohabitation is not a better choice. And this generation will make it perfectly obvious and hopefully the next generation will turn it around because of how they have been burnt. In all ways!
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Just_wondering
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Cohabiting is taboo in Korea. There are a few people that do it, but they are most certainly gossiped about. Even if they get married in a private ceremony they are considered to be “living in sin” until they say their vows publicly.
Despite that, people still assume that I’m living with my boyfriend. It’s really rather strange. People don’t believe that I live alone - they think I’m just saying so to prevent others from feeling uncomfortable. I guess it all stems from the knowledge that it’s so common to do so in North America. Even my parents assumed I was moving in with my boyfriend.
It’s only when I mention that my boyfriend is Catholic that people say, “oh, okay then. So you’re waiting for marriage.” A couple of people at church asked me if I was planning to live with him before marriage, too, and were greatly relieved when I said no. I didn’t take offense at the question - I was flattered to see that they were looking out for my well-being.
I was thinking to myself the other day that I wished I could live with my boyfriend, but then I realized that actually, I’d be pretty upset if he moved in with me before putting a ring on my finger, so I resigned myself to waiting again. Since I know I want to be his wife, being his live-in-girlfriend wouldn’t be the same thing at all!
Despite that, people still assume that I’m living with my boyfriend. It’s really rather strange. People don’t believe that I live alone - they think I’m just saying so to prevent others from feeling uncomfortable. I guess it all stems from the knowledge that it’s so common to do so in North America. Even my parents assumed I was moving in with my boyfriend.
It’s only when I mention that my boyfriend is Catholic that people say, “oh, okay then. So you’re waiting for marriage.” A couple of people at church asked me if I was planning to live with him before marriage, too, and were greatly relieved when I said no. I didn’t take offense at the question - I was flattered to see that they were looking out for my well-being.
I was thinking to myself the other day that I wished I could live with my boyfriend, but then I realized that actually, I’d be pretty upset if he moved in with me before putting a ring on my finger, so I resigned myself to waiting again. Since I know I want to be his wife, being his live-in-girlfriend wouldn’t be the same thing at all!
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BlestOne
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So are you married or single? I can tell you as a married woman… I much prefer that DH and I waited. Not only because it demonstrated his respect for me, but also because all the “changes” of living together after marriage are… well… exciting!It’s still worth the risk if you ask me.
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thomfra
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Well I can see you are 21 weeks pregnant…not surprising that you are excited.So are you married or single? I can tell you as a married woman… I much prefer that DH and I waited. Not only because it demonstrated his respect for me, but also because all the “changes” of living together after marriage are… well… exciting!
I am married with two little kids. We lived together for a number of years (4 or 5) before we got married. We have had a very exciting life together, travelling all over the world, but nothing compares to having kids let me tell you.
With marriage comes responsibility…don’t ask me why. People just place a lot more expectations on you as a couple when married. So we waited until we felt the time was right.
I think you can study all you like “defacto is bad” “marriage is good”…but as long as you are committed it doesn’t make a scrap of difference. It is upbringing that counts, and respect for one another.
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JLCecilia
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I would give my testimony that co-habitating is definitely detrimental to a relationship/marriage. If you’ve read ANY of my posts EVER, this should be abundantly clear. I am living w/ the consequences and struggle to reconcile all my of regrets and trying not to pass this ‘generational curse’ to my children.
I would put the challenge of educating our youth today on the parents. Even as a cradle Catholic, my parents NEVER took the time to speak to me about praying for my future spouse, about living a chaste life, or discerning marriage enlightened w/ the guidance of the Church and the Holy Spirit. I am the youngest of 6 and I know without a doubt that the 3rd child on down to me did not ‘wait’ for marriage and/or co-habitated. 2 of my siblings are now divorced, one no longer sees his children, and for the other, it is a struggle. 2 of my siblings have fallen away from the faith. My oldest brother is the only other one besides me to have a Catholic wedding, and he too married a non-Catholic. Granted DH converted before we wed, he has not practiced in nearly a year. My oldest brother’s faith is somewhat challenged like my own at times.
C’mon parents!!!
I would put the challenge of educating our youth today on the parents. Even as a cradle Catholic, my parents NEVER took the time to speak to me about praying for my future spouse, about living a chaste life, or discerning marriage enlightened w/ the guidance of the Church and the Holy Spirit. I am the youngest of 6 and I know without a doubt that the 3rd child on down to me did not ‘wait’ for marriage and/or co-habitated. 2 of my siblings are now divorced, one no longer sees his children, and for the other, it is a struggle. 2 of my siblings have fallen away from the faith. My oldest brother is the only other one besides me to have a Catholic wedding, and he too married a non-Catholic. Granted DH converted before we wed, he has not practiced in nearly a year. My oldest brother’s faith is somewhat challenged like my own at times.
C’mon parents!!!
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