Suicidal Thoughts Grounds For Annulment?

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I recently got engaged and have been struggling with my mental health since January (some Seasonal Affective Disorder that decided to stay around all year). Recently, I’ve had intrusive thoughts about suicide with no intention on acting on them. I am in therapy and managing my symptoms, and my fiancé knows about my depression, but I feel too ashamed to tell him about the suicidal thoughts. As we go through pre-marital counseling, I am now worried that my mental state is grounds for an annulment further down the line.

I know I need to talk with my fiancé about this, but should I also talk with the priest about this?
 
I know I need to talk with my fiancé about this, but should I also talk with the priest about this?
You need to give full disclosure to your fiance and your pastor. These are serious mental health issues they both need to know about as you prepare for marriage. No secrets!

Please continue to work with your therapist!
 
Honestly, if you’re not ready to tell your fiancé about these things, you may not be ready for marriage at this time. “Two become one flesh.” The hand keeps no secrets from the eye.

Furthermore, anyone who would judge you or shame you for your own mental health is not someone to be around. Marry someone who will love and support you no matter what.
 
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If he loves you, he will be grateful for your honesty if you tell him AND your therapist the full extent of your inner turmoil. And, he will want to help you be happy, again.

There are many reasons why people become deeply depressed. I judge no one harshly for that. Been there, done that. It’s an abyss, and one that requires a great deal of help to climb out of.

Suicidal thoughts stem from the hopelessness you feel. By being honest and open about them, you will soon discover there is hope, and help. You can enjoy life, again, and enjoy the fullness of the love between you.

Please, do communicate these thoughts. If he judges you negatively or abandons you, he isn’t worth having in your life. Better to find out sooner than later.
 
thank you for sharing I encourage you to talk with your fiance you will find out if he supports you and is the right partner for you. God bless
 
. As we go through pre-marital counseling, I am now worried that my mental state is grounds for an annulment further down the line.
If he knows about it, how could it be grounds for annulment later?
 
thanks everyone for the responses! I think I was mostly worried about not being considered “of sound mind” but after talking a bit with my pastor and my fiancé and it is not really an impediment. The whole conversation was not as scary and dramatic as I was expecting.
 
Glad to hear that everything is working out. Best wishes on your marriage.
 
I should hope you and your fiance know each other well enough to know when the other is “off”. Hubby’s buddy, who became his Best Man at our wedding, told him to look for the signs of when I was having an “off” day. He pointed out that when his wife was hungry, she became whiny. I witnessed this myself when we visited them.

I’ve learned to have some kind of snack on hand for when hubby gets home, and plans to spend the next few hours out jogging or walking. If he doesn’t get that, he’s unbearable due to low blood sugar, or might become too faint to drive back.

So…that being said, your fiance would behoove himself to learn when you’re going through a depression cycle, and whether or not you’d be having suicidal thoughts. What concerns me is what will happen once the pregnancy hormones begin circulating. Will they trigger your depression? Will you be able to care for the children once they start coming and you’re being sleep deprived? One of my college roommates was Bipolar, and one reason why she quit school was due to the lack of sleep.

Blessings,
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P.S. Hubby and I will celebrate 30 years of marriage on October 13!
 
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glad to hear matters settled down and did not meet your expectations of doom.
 
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