Taking back a rosary

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I occasionally have visited a blog called “etiquettehell.com.” It has a daily post on reader-submitted etiquette faux pas and readers can comment on it
I’m bugged by this one from last week and wondered what forum members here think of it. Does etiquette really trump preventing sacrilege? (I realize the link is to an etiquette site, rather than a religion site, but I’m bugged by the way opinion turned away from the “Mom” in the story – and how some posters thought it was okay for a 12-year-old to use profanity. Sigh.
What do you folks think?

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Any breach of etiquette (which this was) would have been prevented by asking the child WHY he wanted one before giving it away.

Yes it was “rude”, but it was also proper.
 
I post on the forums there but I don’t read the blog. I think the giver was rude but not for the reason everyone else does. Who in their right mind gives a sacramental to a minor child without first asking the parents if it’s okay? If she had spoken to his parents – who are the ones in charge of his religious education, Catholic or not – and asked a question or two she could have avoided the whole situation. She was wrong in giving it to him in the first place.
 
She made the mistake in not asking first - but she was right in correcting her mistake - especially if the Rosary was blessed.
 
I am very upset by this new trend of wearing rosaries to mimick rappers and gangstas. I teach college and I had students come into the classroom wearing rosaries.

I asked them “Oh so you are Catholic?”

and they said “No”

and I said “So why are you wearing a rosary? I’m Catholic and we use rosaries to pray with.”

They took off the rosary and have not worn it in my class again. Of course I did this in a very charitable way and I really was curious b/c I was just realizing this new trend. We had a discussion about it before class and my students were very willing to fill me in on the fashion of the day 😉

I think this woman did the right thing. I think in her heart she found an opportunity to share this beautiful prayer with a young boy and I think 12 yrs old is plenty old enough! The reaction of the boy and his parents was rude! Some people have no respect for other beliefs.
 
I have to disagree with every other poster here. She gave her Rosary to him. As soon as her fingers left it on his body it became his. If anyone, no matter how well intentioned, touched my 12 year old child to remove something that they thought was offensive they would have a face full of mama bear. Etiquette aside, when we give we are supposed to give wholeheartedly and without taking back. The woman in the story didn’t do that.
 
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 I think the woman had every right to get her rosary back however, she should have asked the parents to have him give it back to her if he wasn't intending on using it for prayer. I think she was wrong in not asking first if the family was catholic. She was so eager to giver her rosary to just anybody and she got burned. Would have been better if she would have explained to the parents that he shouldn't keep it than just snatching it off his neck.
Newsflash! Not everyone is catholic. Nowadays people are regarding rosaries as fashion accessories and fad items so be careful who you start flinging rosaries at.

Take Care M.
 
carmelitenovice said:
Hi:
I occasionally have visited a blog called “etiquettehell.com.” It has a daily post on reader-submitted etiquette faux pas and readers can comment on it
I’m bugged by this one from last week and wondered what forum members here think of it. Does etiquette really trump preventing sacrilege? (I realize the link is to an etiquette site, rather than a religion site, but I’m bugged by the way opinion turned away from the “Mom” in the story – and how some posters thought it was okay for a 12-year-old to use profanity. Sigh.
What do you folks think?

etiquettehell.com/?p=1669#comments
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You can see how I feel by checking out the comments. I left one, under the pseudonym “Jurinne.” 🙂 It’s being checked right now and I hope it is posted, although I know I’ll get some angry responses.

A rosary is a string of beads? Oy vey!! :eek:

Thanks for the link and the info. I’d never heard of this blog.
 
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 I think the woman had every right to get her rosary back however, she should have asked the parents to have him give it back to her if he wasn't intending on using it for prayer. I think she was wrong in not asking first if the family was catholic. She was so eager to giver her rosary to just anybody and she got burned. Would have been better if she would have explained to the parents that he shouldn't keep it than just snatching it off his neck.
Newsflash! Not everyone is catholic. Nowadays people are regarding rosaries as fashion accessories and fad items so be careful who you start flinging rosaries at.

Take Care M.
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With all due respect, I am a bit troubled by some of your language. “Mom” did not “fling” a rosary at the boy. She handed it to him. When I read your post I got a picture in my mind of the Mardis Gras celebration with hundreds of rosaries being flung at bystanders.

How do you know she was “so eager to giver[sic] her rosary to just anybody”? She gave it to a boy who expressed an interest in having one. I don’t think she was handing them out to just anybody. She would have to have a bunch of rosaries in her purse if she were doing that.

I don’t mean to be disrespectful to you. I’m just confused by the way you presented your points. I apologize if my post comes across as uncharitable. I don’t mean it in that way.

God bless!
 
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